How much rent should my parents charge me?

JimmyTheWig

suki1964 wrote: »

In the ops situation ( from what she has written here and previous posts) she would be allowed ESA for 13 weeks at £73.10p a week and for those 13 weeks all she need do is get her GP to agree that she is not fit to work

From what the OP has said, it's not that she's not fit to work, just that she's not fit to work full-time. Would that qualify her for anything?

LilElvis

Surely the OPs partner should be the one able to save significant sums towards the visa/relocation/wedding as he must be earning enough to support the two of them once she moves?

silvercar

Am I the only parent who wouldn't charge their adult child more than the additional costs of having them at home?

It sometimes feels that way on here.

All this talk of comparing the costs of bedsits locally and splitting the house costs by the number of adults in the home lacks any mention of that fact that someone is moving home to cut their costs. Families support each other not see their children as opportunities for profit.

paddy's_mum

SparklyB wrote: »

Last year I was out of work for 10 months



She say's they can't keep supporting me



Mum has always panicked about money

Who funded the roof over your head during that period of time?

Does your mother usually tell lies or might this be fact.

So do you think that your reluctance might fuel anxiety in her heart? Is that reciprocating her kindness?

And, finally, there's nothing wrong with paying 20% of your wages provided that you base it on a sort of average National Minimum Wage and not some part-time figure that happens to suit your argument.

beckysbobbles1

It's a difficult situation to be in.


Let's be honest, you're parents are seeing you living at home as a way to make money. But with the greatest respect, who could blame them?


At 35 you shouldn't still be living at home so perhaps charging rent is a way for them to demonstrate that they don't want you living at home forever.


You said you're saving to move abroad to live with your boyfriend, which country are you moving to? How will you support yourself when you move abroad or will you expect your boyfriend to foot the bill once your savings run out?

thorsoak

silvercar wrote: »

Am I the only parent who wouldn't charge their adult child more than the additional costs of having them at home?

It sometimes feels that way on here.

All this talk of comparing the costs of bedsits locally and splitting the house costs by the number of adults in the home lacks any mention of that fact that someone is moving home to cut their costs. Families support each other not see their children as opportunities for profit.

As a pensioner (which OP's parents are) - even pensioners with a mortgage-free home and some savings, I could no longer afford to subsidise an adult child. Of course I would not be charging a "market rent" - but the OP is "working from home" therefore there will be a significant rise in electricity/heating (in winter) useage, and is staying wih her parents, not to help them, but to save more money than she can really afford to save. It does not appear that the OP is staying with parents in order to help them. Family help is usually mutual - she makes no mention of sharing chores, laundry ir even cooking - she cooks for herself. Her parents are, in one respect, having to restrict their lifestyle in order to accomodate hers.

fairy_lights

silvercar wrote: »

Am I the only parent who wouldn't charge their adult child more than the additional costs of having them at home?

She said in her OP that her mum worries a lot about money though. It might be that as much as they want to support her, they just can't afford it. They could have debts or financial problems that she doesn't know about.
Or, they might not be desperate for the rent at all but are asking her to contribute as a way of encouraging her out of her shell and getting her to be more independent.

Indout96

silvercar wrote: »

Am I the only parent who wouldn't charge their adult child more than the additional costs of having them at home?

Not as such - we had my son and his family living with us for 3 years and my daughter came back home for almost a year both now back out in the real world. We didn't charge them anything BUT we could afford it.
The OP states her mother is on a pension and her father will be retiring very soon. This brings with it a large drop in income. From the sound of it they have been supporting her FOC but cannot continue to do so in the future.
From my way of looking at things that is totally the right way to be looking at it. OP needs to start contributing rather than trying to get people on her side. Her parents have to make the money they now have last the rest of their life and they are right to be looking at the situation now rather than in the future when the money had run out.

maman

SparklyB wrote: »

The whole reason I moved back home was that we agreed that it was pointless me moving out and trying to save money. The whole idea of me being here was so I could save money.

I think this is maybe where OP's feelings of almost entitlement are coming from.




If you look at this from a landlord/tenant point of view them OP is getting a great deal at £50. If you look at it from the point of view that she expects preferential treatment in that her mother should be prepared to make up for the fact that OP has anxiety issues and needs support to save money for her BF's move then as parents originally agreed to the set up I can see why she's miffed. OP can see that parents could help her save more but are choosing not to.


She has a choice between asking parents to discuss to further and put her point of view to see if parents will change their minds or moving out where she'll probably be worse off financially.

always_sunny

You are in your 30's, graduated [mature] student and you are whinging about £50/week rent? = £200/month? How will you support yourself in the USA? Getting fiancee to pay?

I hope you're chipping in for utilities, cause your mum is not charging you lots at all.
You need to increase your income and shouldn't revisit your problem on your folks, what would do if they weren't there?