How much rent should my parents charge me?

paddy's_mum

silvercar wrote: »

Families support each other not see their children as opportunities for profit.

At £50 a week, all in, I'd be very surprised indeed if the parents are making any profit whatever.

suki1964

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

From what the OP has said, it's not that she's not fit to work, just that she's not fit to work full-time. Would that qualify her for anything?

She's chosen to decide she's not fit to work full time


Putting in the entitled to calculator, a single woman working between 16 and 29 hrs a week is entitled to SFA. She's already tried the old trick of claiming WTC for being self employed in a non profitable business, HRMC have caught up with her on that one

If she wants to save to live in America she has no option but to increase her hours

marleyboy

silvercar wrote: »

Am I the only parent who wouldn't charge their adult child more than the additional costs of having them at home?

It sometimes feels that way on here.

All this talk of comparing the costs of bedsits locally and splitting the house costs by the number of adults in the home lacks any mention of that fact that someone is moving home to cut their costs. Families support each other not see their children as opportunities for profit.

Profit??

How much do you think it costs to house and feed a 30+ adult? I can assure you its a heck of a lot more than £7 a day. I dont imagine any parent would make a profit from charging rent to a child WELL over the age of child benefits.

How will OP cope when the inevitable happens to their parents, do you think the council will profit out of charging them rent?

suki1964

LilElvis wrote: »

Surely the OPs partner should be the one able to save significant sums towards the visa/relocation/wedding as he must be earning enough to support the two of them once she moves?

For her to get her visa she has to show Income evidence that she meets the legal poverty guidelines , which this year is around 16k USD. Her boyfriend handing to her won't suffice

AylesburyDuck

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Who funded the roof over your head during that period of time?

Does your mother usually tell lies or might this be fact.

So do you think that your reluctance might fuel anxiety in her heart? Is that reciprocating her kindness?

And, finally, there's nothing wrong with paying 20% of your wages provided that you base it on a sort of average National Minimum Wage and not some part-time figure that happens to suit your argument.

On second reading of the OP's post my sympathy actually declined, and i whole heartedly agree with the above, and you even missed a bit.........
"She say's they can't keep supporting me. I take a bit of offence to that since I actually don't take anything from them"

She takes offense that her parents even at the grand old age of 35 are providing her with the best :wall:

I'd be in total bits if any of my kids were so ungreatfull.:(

silvercar

silvercar wrote: »

Am I the only parent who wouldn't charge their adult child more than the additional costs of having them at home?

It sometimes feels that way on here.

All this talk of comparing the costs of bedsits locally and splitting the house costs by the number of adults in the home lacks any mention of that fact that someone is moving home to cut their costs. Families support each other not see their children as opportunities for profit.

I need to quote myself. See where I said the additional costs?

I'm not saying the parents should lose out financially, but that they could manage with not being out of pocket.

Pollycat

beckysbobbles1 wrote: »

It's a difficult situation to be in.


Let's be honest, you're parents are seeing you living at home as a way to make money. But with the greatest respect, who could blame them?

Or maybe they are just hoping that their child will man up and take some responsibility for her own life?

I really would love to hear the Mum's side of this one.

maman

silvercar wrote: »

Am I the only parent who wouldn't charge their adult child more than the additional costs of having them at home?

It sometimes feels that way on here.

All this talk of comparing the costs of bedsits locally and splitting the house costs by the number of adults in the home lacks any mention of that fact that someone is moving home to cut their costs. Families support each other not see their children as opportunities for profit.

I've had both my DDs here while saving for house deposits/between houses and never charged them a penny. Fortunately I can afford it and I'm very happy to do so.


There are posters on mse who genuinely cannot afford to stretch to feeding another adult. Some, who live alone, cannot cope with the additional council tax. I met someone who was distraught not knowing how she'd make ends meet when her DD turned 18 and no longer qualified for Child Benefit. You need to take this into account.


Some choose to ask for rent on a point of principle to teach them money management. I never felt that need. The fact my DDs were saving to buy their own homes showed me they understood money management all too well.


I think the problem with OP is that her mother perceives that they might be short of money (with extra power/water used) as father is retiring but OP thinks her parents should be able to subsidise her part time work/saving for BF. At the end of the day, parents have a choice even if it's not the one yo or I might make.

thorsoak

Whilst the OP is living with her parents, they cannot increase their income by letting out the room that she occupies. Has that occurred to her, I wonder? She is taking something from them - the possibility of increasing their income.

SailorSam

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

From what the OP has said, it's not that she's not fit to work, just that she's not fit to work full-time. Would that qualify her for anything?

If the Op worked 16hrs would she be entitled to WTC ??