How much rent should my parents charge me?

Cloudydaze

silvercar wrote: »

Am I the only parent who wouldn't charge their adult child more than the additional costs of having them at home?

It sometimes feels that way on here.

All this talk of comparing the costs of bedsits locally and splitting the house costs by the number of adults in the home lacks any mention of that fact that someone is moving home to cut their costs. Families support each other not see their children as opportunities for profit.

My parents never charged me rent when I moved back home. Simarly, I've had both my brothers (at different times) living with me and not charged them rent when they moved to London.

I agree that families support each other.

Now my parents are getting older, the roles are reversing and we help them out a lot more.

Indout96

Pollycat wrote: »

I really would love to hear the Mum's side of this one.

I would hope the poor parents never see this thread, they would probably be justifiably upset to see how their daughter views them.

pickledonionspaceraider

People need to know the difference between HELPING and ENABLING.


The ''making profit out of having adult children at home' It is not just about finances..... it is being forced into living situation that you may not have expected at that time of life. Being forced to think about someone elses habits, the disturbance of the routine of someone else coming and going as they please, their cooking and washing habits etc - we are not all like the waltons, it could be very stressful to be forced into spending your retirement years living like this

In this situation the parents are retiring. They should be allowed to enjoy their retirement without being expected to justify the fact they may well wish to live alone and have the upheavel of another person in the house and not subside another adult - relation or not.

It doesn't make you a martyr if you are happy to fund your children into their middle ages whilst it eats up your retirement fund that you have worked all ur life for. Personally I would not do it - as what happens when the parents die - is the OP going to cope without parents to run to?? it is enabling them to be dependent, forever

I mean at 35 how much MORE does one want to take from ones parents???


If I were OPs mother, I would be advising her to work full time and find another place to live

paddy's_mum

silvercar wrote: »

not being out of pocket.

That rather assumes that cold hard cash is the only currency applicable here.

I believe that other aspects such as loss of privacy, extra housework and a resumption (to a degree) of responsibility for that person also come into the equation.

It is clear from the opening post that Mother is worried about matters and that should be fully respected.

Given that OP is already leaning on the parents very heavily, it is my view that to start complaining and whinging about a highly reasonable £50 a week demonstrates a sad lack of regard that ought to embarrass a grown woman in her 30's.

I get the feeling that this is more about being thwarted than anything else.

missbiggles1

SailorSam wrote: »

If the Op worked 16hrs would she be entitled to WTC ??

A single person has to work 30 hours a week to claim WTC.

The OP also says that she was previously claiming WTC but that these have now stopped because it isn't considered that she was running a genuine business. Presumably, her anxiety allowed her to work 30 hours per week comparatively recently, or at least to claim that she was doing so.

suki1964

SailorSam wrote: »

If the Op worked 16hrs would she be entitled to WTC ??

As a single person she has to work 30 hrs a week at NMW or above

Hence my previous post regarding HRMC disregarding her self employed hours for wtc

maman

paddy's_mum wrote: »

I get the feeling that this is more about being thwarted than anything else.

I agree. I think she's miffed that parents agreed to help her save to bring BF over and now circumstances have changed she can see her dream getting further away and mother refusing to accommodate the changes. It's not mother's fault that HMRC have reconsidered but OP expects parents to take up slack.

SailorSam

Lambyr wrote: »

, and then top it up with household chores to save your parents some time so they can do things they wanna do?

That should already be happening.
Not just in the OPs case. Anyone all living together should muck-in.

sheramber

You say your mum wants to you to start paying her something now.

How long have you been staying there without paying anything?

As she thinks they are supporting you can you ask her how much she thinks that support is?

Or does she think that it costs them £50 per week.

missbiggles1

£50 a week, all in except for food, with occasional use of a car is an absolute steal!

Paying your own way always comes before saving and saving should be done with money you've earned not given to you by HMRC or your parents. Grow up.