finding a break up really hard

yvonne13_2

carlosevenos wrote: »

well its just 2 days before she told me how much she loved me and dumped me the next 2 days. Hows that not a crazy game?

Seems she was being honest in my eyes. Loving someone and being in love with someone is two very different things. So no crazy games as you would love to belive.

carlosevenos

yeah but you would have though that she would hold back saying those things if she was planning on ended things with me.
Well my mum liked walking the dogs when we were together. And because my ex won't walk the dogs, my mum has opted to walk her dogs still as she doesn;t want those animals to suffer and be left in all day.
Yeah Its not ideal, but I've told my mum not to tell me any information as it justs hurts me. It was only like a week ago that she told me that her and her new man are still together, and it crushed me no end as I think I always held on to some kind of hope that she would regret her decision and reinitiate contact with me.

yvonne13_2

carlosevenos wrote: »

yeah but you would have though that she would hold back saying those things if she was planning on ended things with me.
Well my mum liked walking the dogs when we were together. And because my ex won't walk the dogs, my mum has opted to walk her dogs still as she doesn;t want those animals to suffer and be left in all day.
Yeah Its not ideal, but I've told my mum not to tell me any information as it justs hurts me. It was only like a week ago that she told me that her and her new man are still together, and it crushed me no end as I think I always held on to some kind of hope that she would regret her decision and reinitiate contact with me.

Why should she? You're reading way too much into it. For all you know she could've ended things at a minutes notice. What did you want her to do? Throw your things into the street or change the locks.....I think she ended things in a nice relaxed way.

carlosevenos

yeh true, but would have been better if she had not already lined someone up to move on to. That was wrong I though, but ultimately it doesn't really matter

yvonne13_2

carlosevenos wrote: »

yeh true, but would have been better if she had not already lined someone up to move on to. That was wrong I though, but ultimately it doesn't really matter

She didn't have anyone already lined up. Stop thinking the worst and pick your lip up and move on. The more energy you put into this the worst you're being to sound.

carlosevenos

i think she did as she started seeing someone a day after she dumped me. But yeah I have to stop wasting energy on this, and try and move on and fall out of love with her somehow

burlington6

carlosevenos wrote: »

i think she did as she started seeing someone a day after she dumped me. But yeah I have to stop wasting energy on this, and try and move on and fall out of love with her somehow

If you think that, you need a bit more experience.

If you know she started seeing someone the day after, the hard truth is she was involved with him long before you split up

carlosevenos

burlington6 wrote: »

If you think that, you need a bit more experience.

If you know she started seeing someone the day after, the hard truth is she was involved with him long before you split up

Yeah that thought is really hard to take. I think she met him the weekend before she dumped me though as she went out that night whilst I was away. She didn't really have time to be with someone else long term I think as we were always together.
Ultimately it doesn't matter, she'd be with someone who wasn't me eventually. It just hurts so much. I can't get rid of the pain, I still love and want to be with her. I tried drinking a lot recently, but the pain never goes. I don't feel like I care about anything in life anymore without her. I know this sounds pathetic and all. I really wanted to marry her. And she was always insecure about me going off with another younger woman later down the line, but no matter how unhappy I was I'd never leave her as I cared about her deeply and wouldn't want to hurt her.
Just feels like I've gone backwards in life now. I just want to see her again and talk to her, and its crushing.

yvonne13_2

carlosevenos wrote: »

Yeah that thought is really hard to take. I think she met him the weekend before she dumped me though as she went out that night whilst I was away. She didn't really have time to be with someone else long term I think as we were always together.
Ultimately it doesn't matter, she'd be with someone who wasn't me eventually. It just hurts so much. I can't get rid of the pain, I still love and want to be with her. I tried drinking a lot recently, but the pain never goes. I don't feel like I care about anything in life anymore without her. I know this sounds pathetic and all. I really wanted to marry her. And she was always insecure about me going off with another younger woman later down the line, but no matter how unhappy I was I'd never leave her as I cared about her deeply and wouldn't want to hurt her.
Just feels like I've gone backwards in life now. I just want to see her again and talk to her, and its crushing.
Its like a crying baby who wants their mother, but the mother never comes. It's hard. And yeah Ii have had a few drinks tonight. So hard not being with her

Now you sound pathetic, needy and an immature mummys boy.. If you think it's okay to be in an unhappy relationship then you have a lot of growing up to do. And by the way you can only go backward if you went forward which from your own words you never did. Showing her that you're still a waste of her time is doing wonders!!!!

Izzy8484

katsclaws wrote: »

Why do you refer to her children as 'baggage' and the 15 year old living elsewhere even though he must have been twelve when you got together. This is so rude. perhaps her new partner has a more mature attitude towards her and her children.

That was the first thing I picked up as well. This woman is a mother and it is sad enough that the children are living apart from her for whatever reason but they should really be a massive part of her life and you should be fine with that.

I dont think the two of you are compatible anyway then.