How do i get it through to him??

1sttimer_2

I've just read this thread, and would like to just support you Sammy. You are worth much more than you bf obviously values you.

It's quite worrying as she last posted Saturday pm and we are left wondering how she is doing. I hope all has gone well with her plans.

Perhaps she is being positive and moving on and is unable to get back on here. I do hope so.

Get back to us soon Sammy (((((hugs)))))

Squiggly_Diddly

How's things Sammy...?? Hope you are ok.
Squiggly

LindseyM

Sammy,

Just thought I would see how you are doing...? I remember when I was in your position and I convinced myself I was gonna leave 20 times before I actually did, so if you haven't yet, or if you've changed your mind about leaving him, please don't be embarrased or ashamed, we;re alll here to support you - please just let us know how you are - we're worried!

((((((hugs)))))))
Linds

lynzpower

I had a thought today, I cant be sure, but I tihnk Sammy has trouble getting online from her mums.

I havent heard from her tho and i do hope you are OK sammy, thinking of you xx

Ellidee

Sammy has started a thread tonight on OS on which I posted asking her to please update her 'other' thread.

catz1ct

Hope shes ok!

dipsy

Ellidee wrote: »

Sammy has started a thread tonight on OS on which I posted asking her to please update her 'other' thread.

sorry don't mean to be thick as I normally come on here for the competitions thread and just dip in and out on the others... but what is the OS ?

Thanks x

LindseyM

took me a while too dipsy! it's the MSE Old Style forum

sammy_kaye18

Hi All, Am sorry I didnt mean to leave you all worrying. I am ok, ive just had a busy few days. sunday i had to work all day and monday was spent sorting out the flat and bens clothes because yesterday (tuesday ) was his meet adn greet at his nursery school, which thankfully he loved and today is his real first day and i have to leave him there so fingers crossed today will be ok. So i havent been worrying to much about the OH more like just let him get on with doign his own thing because my son is my priority.........................(paragraph)..............................I did eventually have it out with bf on saturday night. lots of rational talking and no shouting thankfully. Everything i had to say came out, i told him i didnt think i was in love with him anymore but i loved him because he was bens dad and that was it. I got very emotional ended up in tears and eventually being violently sick and then he was comforting me. He said if it was over the course then he wouldnt do it, and when we finally sat down to talk i told him about the money situation and put it out in front of him how much i pay, how much he pays etc and hes agreed to give me more money because he didnt realise how much difference there was. He has said antoehr £100 is baout all he can really definately give at the minute so i went through all his things he has to pay off and this seems about right (he will have £200 left a month now btu thats for food at work, travel for work, and his course) . He also said i didnt do enough around the house until i explained that a 3 year old shadow doesnt help matters but he will be in school so i have free time to do things i want which sorted that up. I also told him that the name calling and everything else was degrading, and classed as domestic violence which he didnt believe until i showed him the site that someone else posted a link too (thanks btw!) and he didnt realise it was classed as DV. He then said he'd always heard his dad calling his mum names etc - which is true because him and his father are like peas in a bloody pod....................(paragraph)........................as far as the course he wanted to go on too well the woman who was going on the course too has changed the course level shes doing which means it is totally different days (shes wednesday and my bf will be thursday) and times for the two of them. I have told him if he goes on the course then i am going on a course i want to do (welsh language) and im looking at getting a small allotment so i will have my time away from the house, some time to myself and some freedom.So we have rached a compromise there. Ive also told him that seeing as Thursday is ment to be his day off that he needs to start makign mroe time for our son and his other son as they wont have that day for quality time anymore....................(paragraph)..........................also the debts which were actually his but on my catalogue (the £250) he has agreed to pay off for me in monthly installments - it was stuff for his other son and his mothers birthday present so he is sorting that out....................(paragrpah).................................so for the minute thigns seem to be ok. We seem a bit distant form each otehr but i thinkthat is because we were so honest and open with each other but we are ok. He didnt coem to bens introductory day yesterday - it was alot of form fillign in etc but he is coming to bens first day today which is nice and hes goign to enroll in his course tomorrow which is good because i apply for mine tomorrow too. SO we are ok at the minute. thanks for the support all - it is much appreciated and i promise to keep you all much better updated!!!!!!!! Love Sam x x x x x x x

Sola

Wow - I salute your courage! Well done on being so strong and pro-active. Hope things improve for you all.