How do i get it through to him??

lynzpower

Hang in there sammy and one day look back and think of what Nancy Reagan once said - women are like teabags. You never know how strong they are going to be until you put them in hot water.

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bright_side

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Nancy Reagan once said - women are like teabags. You never know how strong they are going to be until you put them in hot water.

I've never heard that before but my how so true it is - I'm off to print it and stick it on my fridge

sammy_kaye18

Hi All, The only reason im wanting to leae the council property im in is because im in an area i dont like. i moved to my current location to be with my partener, away form all my family and friends and i was totally droped in the middle of a new community where i know noone, have noone and to be honest i dont really care for the area. I have to call the police out every other night and it is ridden with 'people who do nasty things to child' i mean there is about 800 people in my village and about 30 if nto more (i kid you not) of those people here. So leaving and turning my back on the area really doesnt bother me.......................(paragraph)................................LINDSEYM - yeah part of me is really wondering if im strong enough to do this. i know that financially i have a good head on my shoulders and i know how to work with what ive got and how to provide for my son. Im a pretty good old style moneysaver so i know we will be ok in that sense but i just scared that im going to fail if i attempt it but the saying 'you dont know until you try' comes to mind. I know its goign to be hard at first but as my siggie says Spirit ... has fifty times the strength and staying power of brawn and muscle.

iceicebaby

Sammy

((Hugs))

I have no more advice really to add from the excellent advice already given.

I have read your threads in the past and you are such an incredibly strong person and you cannot let this a-hole crack you. I agree with LYNZ that he should be the one to leave not you but then if you really dislike the area you are in then thats only a decision you can make.

Where are you in South Wales?? I'm in South Wales too. I could meet you for a coffee/chat if it would help you If you are not too far away.

Errata

Samy, I can understand that you don't like the area you live in, but have you realised that if you rent from a private landlord your rental contract will be for only 6/12 months and renewed only for a further 6/12 months each time the period ends? Landlords may decide to sell their property and leave you homeless, may have their property repossessed and leave you homeless, may increase the rent to a level you can't afford even with housing benefit.

Your council tenancy is a secure tenancy, and you may be able to exchange to a better area. This may take time, but surely that must be better than having the possibility of becoming homeless ever present in your mind.

sammy_kaye18

I know thats always a possibility but i think once im in a property away from this area i will be much happier, ben will be in school and i wont have all this !!!! going on in my life with his drama that i can focus on getting me and Ben the life ive always wanted for us. Plus i will actually for once in my life be able to get some savings together for us whether this will eventually have to be used on renting another property should any of the above occur or getting a deposit together for when ben is in full time education. The landlord im going through is a life long friend of the family and my mum has been in her property for nearly 10 years now with no problems at all which i know can mean nothing to some but she is very loyal (the landlord).......................(paragraph)............................ Obviously shows how important me and his children are though, he just walked through the door after being at work since 7am, informed me hes off out to pick up a motorbike with his dad and left again. He tried to give me a kiss before he left but i turned away and he basically went 'there we are then'. Im fed up of this crap now. Ive been looking after both his sons all day - one of whom he picked up yesterday so he could have his father/son time with him and so far hes spent about 2 hours with him which was last night plus hes picking the bike up in Pembroke which is at least say 2 hours there, then they are bound to be an hour looking at the bike/test riding it/paying for it, then 2 hours home, then they are diverting to get all the gear for his father to ride so theres another hour at least with helmet and leathers so they are going to be about 5 - 6 hours so by which time it will be 8 - 8.30pm and both boys will be in bed. Oooooohhh see this makes my blood boil - hes such an insensitive sod!!!! Why do i even bloody bother!

hollyh

Hi Sammy

Just wanted to say that i hope you get everything sorted.

I think you would be so much better off on your own.

I know it will be hard at the start but you'll get there.

You seem like a very strong and resourseful woman and a great mum.:A

lynzpower

Sammy,

Your a sensible lady and if you trust this freind of the family to offer secure accomodation for you and ben and its nearer to the freinds & family you need to spend more time with ( rather than the lesz youve been doing recently )

then this has to be the right decision for you.

Now you mention it again, I remember youve never liked the area and even not having to call the police every 5 minutes will be a release for you and will help you feel settled wont it.

I think you are an angel, which is why youve put up with it for so long, but angels need treating like the miracles they are!

I have no doubts you will be able to manage, I think its most likely that once you have only one child to worry about ( not the one with the motorbikes :mad:) you will see life looking a hell of a lot brighter!

sammy_kaye18

Thanks Lynz. to be honest im sat here at the minute dreading him coming home because i know he'll sit and read his letter and then it will all come to a head then and its either goign to go one way or the other and im a bit worried as tomorrow im supposed to be at work for 7 hours which is when he is supposed to have Ben - not that i think he'd do anything but it still makes me a bit nervous. Ill let you know how it goes though. He wont be home till about 7 - 8pm ish so i have plenty of time to think about what im going to say to him - whether he actually pays any attention or not will be the next issue i guess

sammy_kaye18

lynzpower wrote: »

Sammy,

angels need treating like the miracles they are!

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Thats an awesome quote too