Wedding invite dilemma

heuchera

I can see why funerals are not an appropriate place for children, but weddings? Surely the idea of a wedding is that the two families get together and celebrate. Do children not count as family members, then?? Some people are strange.

Pollycat

Double_V wrote: »

Sorry but what's DH ?

Coinmachine wrote: »

Its short for Department of Health

:rotfl:

heuchera wrote: »

I can see why funerals are not an appropriate place for children, but weddings? Surely the idea of a wedding is that the two families get together and celebrate. Do children not count as family members, then?? Some people are strange.

In this case it's not really family members when it's your best friend getting married. :rotfl:

heuchera

Pollycat wrote: »

In this case ncressot really family members when it's your best friend getting married. :rotfl:

Yeah it's the husband's best friend, but I think the blanket rule (apparently imposed by bridezilla ) was no children at all, which seems a bit odd to me.

Pollycat

heuchera wrote: »

Yeah it's the husband's best friend, but I think the blanket rule (apparently imposed by bridezilla ) was no children at all, which seems a bit odd to me.

It might not be a blanket rule though.
It might just apply to non-family children.

And as 'bridezilla's family are footing the bill, their money, their rules.

heuchera

Pollycat wrote: »

It might not be a blanket rule though.
It might just apply to non-family children.

And as 'bridezilla's family are footing the bill, their money, their rules.

Why do Brits hate children so much, anyway?

People wanting child-free restaurants, child-free weddings, etc..

pollypenny

heuchera wrote: »

Why do Brits hate children so much, anyway?

People wanting child-free restaurants, child-free weddings, etc..

I wouldn't want to pay £20 a head for 3 year olds.

Peter333

heuchera wrote: »

Why do Brits hate children so much, anyway?

People wanting child-free restaurants, child-free weddings, etc..

It could be that some people's kids are so badly behaved. Also, the parents seem oblivious to their little brats awful behaviour.

When me and my wife and 3 kids (all 5 to 14 at the time,) boarded a bus for a 10 day trip to Spain in the early 2000s, there were all 50-ish to 70 y.o's on board, and no other kids. (It was in school time in late September when the schools didn't send you to the gallows for having a day off!)

Well the reaction from the people on board was bad. You could see 'OH NO!' written on their faces.. and '3 brats! THAT is the trip ruined!'

My kids have never been perfect, but they were as good as gold, and played games, drew pictures, and read books, and walked up and down the coach a few times, offering toffees to people.

Several people said to me and my wife that they were gobsmacked and delighted at how well behaved our kids were, and that we should be proud of ourselves.

But yes, the British public DOES hate kids, but there is a very good reason for it. Some people are bad parents, and don't know how to control their kids.

In my experience, it's the parents with many children that fail to control them, or discipline them. With some people, they have 5 or more, and they just lose it. I know about 7 or 8 families/single parents with 5 or more kids, and they literally don't know where they are half the time, and have NO idea how to look after them. (Or can't be bothered to look after them!)

Makes you wonder why they have them really.

heuchera

I must admit, I do avoid buses at about 3pm when it's a school day. Not that the kids are that badly behaved but they make a racket, because there are so many of them and they're all nattering away to each other.

Once there was a really badly behaved bunch of school kids who were hurling fruit and food around upstairs and pelting unsuspecting passers-by. That got really stressful.

But by and large I think there are as many badly behaved adults as there are badly behaved kids!

AnotherJoe

heuchera wrote: »

I can see why funerals are not an appropriate place for children, but weddings? Surely the idea of a wedding is that the two families get together and celebrate. Do children not count as family members, then?? Some people are strange.

The strange ones would be people who don't even imagine that the bride and groom and likely their parents, need to consider budgets, room, how many people can be accommodated and the suitability of the venue. Not to mention their personal preferences about what sort of event they'd like.

heuchera

AnotherJoe wrote: »

The strange ones would be people who don't even imagine that the bride and groom and likely their parents, need to consider budgets, room, how many people can be accommodated and the suitability of the venue. Not to mention their personal preferences about what sort of event they'd like.

I get that there are budget restraints but I'd no sooner say 'children not welcome' than 'over-65s not welcome'. I'd just invite fewer people without discriminating on grounds of age/sex/whatever else.