Wedding invite dilemma

74jax

Pollycat wrote: »

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Does that also apply to private venues?

we were asked how many were due at the wedding, in a hotel, we said 18. The hotel guy said he needed to put out 20 chairs in case anyone else wanted to come in. I found this really odd.

no one else 'popped in' to watch tho.....

Spendless

Pollycat wrote: »

If you were invited to a wedding I'd have thought that you would know the bride & groom at least a little.

I can't see how it would be embarassing to say 'Thanks for the invitation, we'd love to come. We've noticed that our kids aren't on the invitation so we've assumed they're not invited and so have already arranged a babysitter but we just wanted to make sure.'

Thanks for the wording. The 2 invites it has happened on, one was a colleague of mine, but she was new only started there about 10 weeks before she married, and I worked there on a casual basis, so hadn't come across her very much. The second was a colleague of DH's, so yes he knew him and I'd met both of them at corporate dos but didn't know them well. I assumed it was a slip of the pen and just missed off when my colleague asked where they were, when it happened again, I wondered if it was a growing trend.

Person_one

Pollycat wrote: »

Does that also apply to private venues?

Yes, for the legal ceremony at least. It has to be at least possible for people to come in uninvited because of the bit where they ask if anybody knows of 'any legal impediment' or whatever the wording is.

Hence all the dramatic scenes of exes and lost loves bursting into the church at the opportune moment in films!

Civil partnership ceremonies didn't have to be public though, and I'm not sure if there is any difference with same sex marriages.

GwylimT

Pollycat wrote: »

If you were invited to a wedding I'd have thought that you would know the bride & groom at least a little.

I can't see how it would be embarassing to say 'Thanks for the invitation, we'd love to come. We've noticed that our kids aren't on the invitation so we've assumed they're not invited and so have already arranged a babysitter but we just wanted to make sure.'


Does that also apply to private venues?

Yes, otherwise people couldn't voice any objections etc.

Primrose

Having been to one or two weddings where the solemnity was como,etely wrecked by screaming babiesnor small children at the point the couple were making their vows , I think the bride has a valid point of view. But the couple should have talked this through beforehand and perhaps put a note in with the invitation stating their reason or asking parents with small children to exit the chiech promptly if their children are disrupting the ceremony. Some parents can be selfishly thoughtless about this on a couple's big day.

It seems you will now have to stay away if you can't find a baby sitter and your husband must sadly probably be prepared for a weakening of the friendship ties after the weddinghas taken place.

Double_V

Coinmachine wrote: »

Its short for Department of Health

So department of health's best friend is getting married and he doesn't want kids there. :T

onlyroz

Pollycat wrote: »

Does that also apply to private venues?

There is no such thing as a private wedding venue. Weddings are open public occasions held in licensed wedding venues, whether this is a church, registry office or hotel. Your intent to marry also has to be displayed in a public place for (I think) 3 weeks to give people the chance to raise objections. Anybody has the right to attend the ceremony.

mumps

When one of my kids got married the hotel wanted to charge alot for children's meals. The bridal couple said no they were prepared to pay for everything else at the price on wedding list but for the children, about six or seven little ones, they would pay the price of a child's meal on the normal menu. Bit of huffing and puffing but the hotel agreed. They were paying alot of money, posh hotel, exclusive use for the day of the wedding and the night, lots of guests paying extra to stay the night before as well and I think the hotel realised it wasn't worth losing their custom for the sake of say £50 a head for the children as opposed to something like £15 for a child's meal. If people are forced to exclude children because they can't afford to pay however much it is a head for children it might be worth trying.