Should I feel bad for not wanting my boyfriend's mum at my "baby shower"?

lulu_92

CathA wrote: »

And just so you know, lulu 92 , I've had twin girls so any twin questions you want to ask, carry on. They're now 24, managed to survive unironed vests quite well! X

:rotfl: thanks, I appreciate it!

I think my main concerns are things like picking two up at the same time! :rotfl:

Petra_70

lulu_92 wrote: »

:rotfl: thanks, I appreciate it!

I think my main concerns are things like picking two up at the same time! :rotfl:

If you choose to breastfeed, at least you can feed them at the same time! :rotfl:

(Sorry, bit rude. )

onlyroz

Petra_70 wrote: »

If you choose to breastfeed, at least you can feed them at the same time! :rotfl:

(Sorry, bit rude. )

That would be a good idea because milk tends to come out of both sides at once regardless of how many babies you are feeding

Petra_70

onlyroz wrote: »

that would be a good idea because milk tends to come out of both sides at once regardless of how many babies you are feeding

:rotfl:

CathA

lulu_92 wrote: »

:rotfl: thanks, I appreciate it!

I think my main concerns are things like picking two up at the same time! :rotfl:

Mine were quite small so I picked one up and had them in the usual carrying way, then had the other one next to them, ie 2 babies on one arm. When they were older, one on each hip!
I bottle fed mine but if you are going to breastfeed either express milk into a bottle or get a bottle of formula so that at night you feed one baby, dad feeds the other. Or better idea, 2 bottles and dad does both and gives you a rest!

lulu_92

I do plan on breastfeeding, although I'm a bit scared I won't be successful. A double breast pump is on my list, but they're sooo expensive I need to pluck up the courage to buy it!

Kaye1

lulu_92 wrote: »

I do plan on breastfeeding, although I'm a bit scared I won't be successful. A double breast pump is on my list, but they're sooo expensive I need to pluck up the courage to buy it!

I hired one from a local charity- I think it was about £6 per week (but that was a while ago!) if that is any use.

I then got a really good one from eBay which was a total blessing.

meritaten

the double breast pump may well come in handy! twins do NOT always want to feed at the same time! using a breast pump on the 'unoccupied breast' means that once you have accumulated enough milk your OH can feed the other baby! because once the milk starts flowing its not like a pair of taps - both can produce milk at once. and you cant turn one breast off if its not being used.
and for those occasions when babies want to sleep and not feed - the relief a breast pump can bring..................! and the milk can be stored for later. and if they wake half hour later - the breasts will still produce enough milk, so if you are worried that using the pump means that your breasts 'empty' and need a few hours to 'refill' - they don't work like that.

LilElvis

lulu_92 wrote: »

I do plan on breastfeeding, although I'm a bit scared I won't be successful. A double breast pump is on my list, but they're sooo expensive I need to pluck up the courage to buy it!

Ask your midwife about what support is available and look at organisations like La Leche League. And don't think that breastfeeding is the be all and end all! That you are all happy, contented and fed is the aim, regardless of how you get there.

You are going to be a great Mum - you just need to trust yourself.

springdreams

lulu_92 wrote: »

Good point. OH and his parents have a good relationship so I wouldn't want to ruin that. I think my decision would depend on how he sees it, as he might see it my way, or he might not. Who knows :rotfl:

I wanted to steer clear of the cliche games and general cringey-ness of baby showers, which is why I wanted to go down the tea and cake route. My friends and I were going to go and have afternoon tea in town, but the prospect of my mum's home baking was too much to say no to! I think I'm very conscious of the fact that all of the people invited at the moment I don't see as often as I'd like and there are many factors for why that is, my friends included in this. I see OH's side all of the time so I just thought it'd be nice to have a day with mine. Friends were added for convenience really. A lot of weddings and hen parties are taking place around my due date so everyone is everywhere!

If it is so important to you to have a gathering of women just from your side of the family, there is nothing stopping you from doing so. Just do something separate from the baby shower, which I believe should include family members from both sides of the family, since it is for the benefit of the babies after all ....