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Would you end your marriage (or relationship,) if your partner didn't want children?
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Person_one wrote: »I've also never been able to look past the grind and hard work of raising children. I think the human race needs most people to be able to delay thinking about that and focus on 'babies are lovely, I want one to cuddle and love' rather than a washing basket that doesn't empty for 20 years or we'd be extinct!
I hated all the grunt work that goes with looking after a baby or young child. Mind-stultifying drudgery, imho. The older my son got, the better I liked it.(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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seven-day-weekend wrote: »Yes and Yes.
If grandchildren come along I would love them, but it suits me if they don't.[/QUOTE]
Just out of interest can I ask why that is?0 -
POPPYOSCAR wrote: »seven-day-weekend wrote: »Yes and Yes.
If grandchildren come along I would love them, but it suits me if they don't.[/QUOTE]
Just out of interest can I ask why that is?
More people to worry about.(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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seven-day-weekend wrote: »POPPYOSCAR wrote: »
More people to worry about.
I think that is sad.
Life is a gamble. The benefits of loving outweigh the bad.
Grandchildren are a special kind of love.0 -
seven-day-weekend wrote: »I hated all the grunt work that goes with looking after a baby or young child. Mind-stultifying drudgery, imho. The older my son got, the better I liked it.
You are seriously reminding me of my ex MIL. (I checked what part of the country you are in -you're not her
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She too did the work but made it clear she'd have preferred not to and liked her son better the older he got.........whether that contributed to his shortcomings as a parent I don't know - but hopefully you hide it better than she did !!I Would Rather Climb A Mountain Than Crawl Into A Hole
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In fact one parent being neglectful or disinterested, and the other parent overcompensating for this, can lead to all sorts of problems. However it's important to bear in mind no-one has perfect parents or a perfect childhood, yet most of us manage!
Indeed but why go into any joint venture knowing in advance only one person in the partnership will be giving 100% ?
You wouldn't go into business with that scenario so why create a child knowing it ?I Would Rather Climb A Mountain Than Crawl Into A Hole
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missbiggles1 wrote: »Lots of people have incredibly strong desires for all sorts of things - it doesn't mean that they shouldn't learn to adjust if life doesn't give them their desires.
I think that adjusting to what's possible in life is a sign of good mental health.
Surely one way to 'adjust' could be to seek a relationship where your desire is a possibility?0 -
My hubby and I knew from the moment we met I would never have another child and he didn't want any.
We got married after 8 years and I remember clearly both discussing it again. I'm happy with DD now nearly 18, and he is happy with none of his own.
If he wanted a child, it wouldn't be with me, we'd have to split. I wouldn't deny him the right to be a dad, but I wouldn't be the one having his child.Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0 -
missbiggles1 wrote: »Lots of people have incredibly strong desires for all sorts of things - it doesn't mean that they shouldn't learn to adjust if life doesn't give them their desires.
I think that adjusting to what's possible in life is a sign of good mental health.
That might work with some desires, with some situations. It becomes a whole lot trickier not to harbour resentment when it isn't "life" that hasn't granted their desire for a child, but the person whose face is the last thing they see each night and the first thing they see each morning.0 -
hopefully my son never knew I felt like that.He would actually make a very good parent. He likes small children better than I doYou are seriously reminding me of my ex MIL. (I checked what part of the country you are in -you're not her )
She too did the work but made it clear she'd have preferred not to and liked her son better the older he got.........whether that contributed to his shortcomings as a parent I don't know - but hopefully you hide it better than she did !!
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