I want to work, but how with two tinies?

muddywellies

Starting afresh really. I don't think I could do eBay; I can't use it properly myself!

suejb2

Do you like children enough to want to work with them? Have you considered becoming a childminder?

GwylimT

I worked fulltime, attended uni fulltime with a toddler, if its something you want to do you can.

ognum

muddywellies wrote: »

How on earth can you work and go ahead in a career with not only childcare costs (two under 2s) but also if they get ill at nursery or need picking up during the day or anything really.

Is it just impossible?

This may sound harsh but it is a question of your mindset. If you want to work you will find a way.

Many people work virtually for nothing while their children are small, many have two in nursery.

Some people return to work for three or four days so they have time at home others work full time. Go and look at some nurseries, talk with friends about shared child care it find a child minder.

Your children have two parents, both of you can take it in turns to have time off if the children are sick. Maybe you have supportive family and friends who can also help.

If you don't want to work there will always be a reason why you can't! But if you do you will work it out, don't expect much take home pay while your children are little but you will have the start of a career, adult conversation, well rounded kids and a sense of purpose.

Good luck!

muddywellies

It doesn't sound harsh but it does sound lacking in understanding, to be honest.

To start with, my husband won't take time off for the children. That's it: end of discussion.

We have no family or friends who will help.

It's all fine as long as everything is, well, fine. All fine as long as the children don't get ill all fine as long as I don't get stuck in a traffic jam, all fine as long as I don't have to start early or finish late.

It's not that I don't want to work, it's the actual logistics.

missbiggles1

muddywellies wrote: »

How on earth can you work and go ahead in a career with not only childcare costs (two under 2s) but also if they get ill at nursery or need picking up during the day or anything really.

Is it just impossible?

Unless you're a lone parent, these responsibilities can be divided between the 2 of you.

muddywellies

Not necessarily. It depends on the sort of work you do, and the sort of work your partner does doesn't it?

bouicca21

It doesn't sound harsh but it does sound lacking in understanding, to be honest.

To start with, my husband won't take time off for the children. That's it: end of discussion.

We have no family or friends who will help.

It's all fine as long as everything is, well, fine. All fine as long as the children don't get ill all fine as long as I don't get stuck in a traffic jam, all fine as long as I don't have to start early or finish late.

It's not that I don't want to work, it's the actual logistics.

Working when you have children is hard. No question. But with that kind of mindset you're on a hiding to nothing. Look for solutions not problems.

muddywellies

I'm trying: that's why I'm on here

clairec79

At one point we both worked opposite shifts and handed over the kids outside my work (which was near his work) and his grandmother was happy to help out if there was a problem