Money Moral Dilemma: Should I pay for the groom to eat and drink on his stag do?

JayWalker

Whose idea was Berlin? If the groom chose it, he should be grateful you guys are paying for any of his expenses. If he's being dragged there against his will, then you should pay. I'm guessing it's his choice.

Gavin83

Pixie5740 wrote: »

A friend of mine got married a couple of years ago and had a 7 day stag party in Ibiza. He paid for his own flights, accommodation, etc but there were some very cheesed off wives and girlfriends as their OHs had used so much annual leave and left their holiday funds short.

A friend of a friend is having a week long stag do in Las Vegas and has told each attendee to expect to spend £2000. Insane. Luckily I don't know the person so I didn't get an invite.

Pixie5740

Gavin83 wrote: »

A friend of a friend is having a week long stag do in Las Vegas and has told each attendee to expect to spend £2000. Insane. Luckily I don't know the person so I didn't get an invite.

That is outrageous. The correct reponse to that invite is Foxtrot Oscar.

gayleygoo

Who decided on Berlin? Most stag do's I've heard of have been planned and paid for by the other attendees (often splitting the hen/stag's cost between them), but the details have usually been a surprise. Everyone would pay for their own meals and drinks or contribute to a kitty.

If the groom chose Berlin, then you all shouldn't be expected to pay for his entire holiday.;)

If you guys chose Berlin, then his bride-to-be may be understandably annoyed that he's going to spend a fortune on a stag do, when they're trying to budget for a wedding. I still don't think you should pay for everything that passes his lips, but reassure her you'll eat cheaply and not let him drink too much

zagfles

Pixie5740 wrote: »

That is outrageous. The correct reponse to that invite is Foxtrot Oscar.

Friend of mine has fallen out with his brother big time. His 3 kids were asked to be page boys/bridesmaid at his brother's wedding ages ago and they agreed, then much later find out the wedding is going to be in Las Vegas and the bride and groom weren't going to pay anything towards the kids' airfares or accomodation! He even offered as a compromise to pay for him and his wife's airfare but no way was he paying for the 5 of them.

I think he escalated it a bit in the heat of the moment when he told his brother and future SIL that the only reason they wanted to get married abroad is they've got hardly any friends and they wanted an excuse for a small wedding with only immediate family and a couple of friends :rotfl:

Andypandyboy

Person_one wrote: »

So...is this real or hypothetical?

It has to be hypothetical, and if it is what is the point?

I really can't see anyone expecting this. I have had family members involved in five or six stag nights over the last few years and this has never come up. They all paid for themselves including the Groom.

gloriouslyhappy

Holy as in sacrosanct! In my experience, stag dos are seldom 'wholly male' once the strippers / random girls propping-up-bar / entertainment / get involved.

123xyz wrote: »

Holy? or perhaps "wholly male event"? :beer:

[QUOTE=“shuck_If_she_can't_leave_this_'holy_male_event'_to_her_hubby_to_sort_[/QUOTE] Originally posted by shuck

uncreative

What an absolute farce. Gestures like this are only ever to be offered and never asked for. The bride sounds like a keeper........not!

debbiesmum

Call me old fashioned (age 62) - but what happened to the simple stag do/hen night of a meal and a few drinks at the local pub.

I am horrified at what guests/friends are expected to join in for weddings these days. So many young couples seem to lose sight of what is REALLY IMPORTANT about a wedding, ie the time in front of the registrar, minister, priest or rabbi exchanging vows. That's what matters not the number of parties/events you can organise ahead of the actual wedding.

gaving7095

That's not right - he's choosing to get married in the first place & presumably choosing the stag do destination. How is anybody else responsible for his associated costs? Crazy!