Who should pay?

chelseablue

rockiedog wrote: »

Or Cliff? I tried to get tickets to see him but only standing tix available now.

Could be, although the OP said its a band?

Candyapple

fierystormcloud wrote: »

I think this has been a hard lesson for you. But imo you have no right whatsoever to ask for the money off this girl.

Which band is asking £100 a ticket?! I don't know many acts who charge this much...And I go to a LOT of concerts.

If someone asked me if I wanted to go with them because their friend had let them down, and they wanted £100 for the ticket, I would laugh at them. I wouldn't pay that to see anyone.

I think you should maybe give this girl a wide berth... What, she only knew about the hen party 2 months before it? If this relative is that close, then she would have known the date AGES ago. Well the wedding would have been announced ages ago, so ergo, she would have had an idea of when the hen party would be.

Sounds like you care about her a lot more than she cares about you.

Sorry. But that is how I see it.

Try and sell your tickets, but if not, then you will have to write it off as a loss, and think twice before doing this next time. Upshot is; you can't trust many people. But you have no right to ask this girl for the money.

You may have been to loads of concerts, but remember that seating and also location (Wembley, o2) etc all play a part. When I went to see Beyonce at the o2 last year, that was £90 a ticket, £96 even I think it was once the fees etc were added on. When I was looking for Fleetwood Mac tickets for my dad recently at o2, starting price was from £125 per ticket.


OP why not just sell the tickets on Scarlet Mist (they have re-opened their site) and that way you get back the full cost of the tickets and can use that cash to buy your friend something else. Why would you purposefully want to lose a friend or cause bad feeling between you two when it is avoidable? Life is too short to hold grudges.

Person_one

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

That isn't true as in my first post I mentioned I felt she should pay both tickets.

But after reading all replies (all, not just ones that are sympathetic to my point of view) I realise and agree she shouldn't pay for her own ticket as that is my gift to her and it'll be like any other useless/unwanted gift. I just think she should pay for mine even though its same thing.

I think this is the best way forward as I think this is the way to salvage our friendship. If she doesn't pay for half then I will resent her and hold a grudge. If she paid me 100% then she would resent me and hold a grudge so 50/50 is probably the fairest way.

If she'd agreed to you paying £200 for two tickets, you might have a point, but she never asked or expected you to spend such an extravagant amount of money. That was completely your decision.

If two people decide together to go to a £100 a head event, one pays then one cancels, it's reasonable to discuss how the costs will be covered. When one person buys another one a really expensive gift without prior agreement about the cost, there are basically no circumstances where it's ok to then bill them for that gift!

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Why don't you want to sell this ticket? Why do you seem so intent on punishing your friend?

Edit: Bet you're now wishing you'd not started this thread, lol!

Pollycat

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

That isn't true as in my first post I mentioned I felt she should pay both tickets.

But after reading all replies (all, not just ones that are sympathetic to my point of view) I realise and agree she shouldn't pay for her own ticket as that is my gift to her and it'll be like any other useless/unwanted gift. I just think she should pay for mine even though its same thing.

I think this is the best way forward as I think this is the way to salvage our friendship. If she doesn't pay for half then I will resent her and hold a grudge. If she paid me 100% then she would resent me and hold a grudge so 50/50 is probably the fairest way.

By asking her to pay for your ticket, don't you think she will still resent you?

Wellyboots6

cyantist wrote: »

Why don't you sell it? I'm sure there's plenty of people who would happily pay for a discounted weekend away voucher. You won't get back what it cost but enough to easily cover a really nice day/night out that you can enjoy without worrying about any of the issues of a weekend away.

Haha! You know, after all this I hadn't actually thought of that! Good idea, could always take the parents out for a meal or something with any money we get then.

Thanks!

DSmiffy

Give your friend the tickets, let her sell them on and keep the money, that will be her gifts for birthday and christmas sorted.

No skin off your nose as you didn't particularly want to see this concert anyway. Believe me, if you give her the tickets to do as she wants with them she will feel bad enough anyway, which, from your posts, is what you really want.... for your friend to feel some responsibility or lack of priorities on her part. If you push this, you will not be friends much longer.

Lesson learned there, for both of you. Forget it and move on.

PenguinOfDeath

Just sell both tickets, keep the amount for your ticket and either give her the equivalent for hers or get her something else with it.

And don't plan anything similar with this friend in future, it would clearly cause more stress than its worth if it doesn't go 100% to plan.

catkins

chelseablue wrote: »

Could be, although the OP said its a band?

As I said before, I think it could be Simply Red. They split up and have only got back together to tour for their 30th anniversary. So that all fits

catkins

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

I paid over that to see George Michael several years ago and would pay to see someone I really liked.


Was this 25 live? if so, I am sooo jealous. I love George Michael and have seen this on DVD.

I would love to see him in concert but I doubt he'd do another one and if he does, I don't think he'd be as good as he is past his prime now.

Yes it was the 25 live tour. I was a fan of Wham but never got to see them. I vowed that if George ever toured I would go no matter how much the tickets cost.


I saw him in London and Plymouth and he was brilliant. His voice was as good as listening to a CD.


I would go and see him again in a flash. It was only 7 years or so ago so no reason why his voice should have changed that much. He is not that old either