Who should pay?

Gavin83

Your making this much more difficult for yourself than it needs to be.

Who are the band?

If the tickets are that expensive and it's a one off reunion gig you can almost certainly sell them for a decent profit. Just ring up the ticket providers and change the tickets to be delivered instead of collected. I'm sure when your sitting there with an extra £100+ in your pocket you'll feel better.

If I was your friend and you insisted I paid for them I would but would then insist you gave me the tickets. I'd then sell them on and consider the extra money I made as a present.

cyantist

If the tickets are sold out, and you have a weekend date then there will probably be someone who would want to swap their mid-week tickets for yours.

Even if it's not sold out you could resell them at a small loss and get most of your money back.

Wellyboots6

If you cant transfer the tickets to a new name, sell them etc you havent actually lost out on anything have you?
If all had gone to plan, you would have gone to the gig with your friend, probably spent more money on drinks, transport etc for an evening seeing a band you dont actually like that much. You wouldnt have ever got the ticket money back and would likely have spent a lot more than you currently have.
If you dont go now, you still dont get the ticket money back, but you also dont spend the extra, and you have a free evening to do something else.
The only thing you have really lost out on is the friends present, if you decide to buy her a replacement birthday/xmas present. You could always spend what you would have done on drinks and transport on replacement presents and then financially you havent lost anything at all.

I understand it is annoying what has happened, but it doesnt sound like it was intentional in the slightest.

I agree with fireystormcloud, that mentioning what she spends her money on is irrelevant to your current issue. People place different values on different things. You may think sky tv is a waste of money, but she may think meals out is a waste of money. It bears no relation on whether she should pay you back, as it was a gift you gave her and not a loan.

fierystormcloud

Gavin83 wrote: »

Your making this much more difficult for yourself than it needs to be.

Who are the band?

If the tickets are that expensive and it's a one off reunion gig you can almost certainly sell them for a decent profit. Just ring up the ticket providers and change the tickets to be delivered instead of collected. I'm sure when your sitting there with an extra £100+ in your pocket you'll feel better.

If I was your friend and you insisted I paid for them I would but would then insist you gave me the tickets. I'd then sell them on and consider the extra money I made as a present.

I am dying to know who they are too. Not sure why the OP is not telling us.

My sister bought 4 tickets several years ago for Fall Out Boy, as a present for her daughter and her 3 mates (for her daughter's 14th birthday.) Total £100. (FOB don't charge ridiculous amounts of money for their concerts.) The concert was 3 months away when she got the tickets.

Anyway, her daughter and these 3 girls all fell out, (one month before the concert,) and my sister couldn't go with her, and her daughter no longer wanted to go anyway as the fall out with her mates upset her so much. So my sister simply sold the tickets on ebay. She sold them for what she paid for them; all she wanted was her money back, and she didn't want to rip anyone off. So she put them up for £99 on 'buy it now,' for all 4 tickets, and they went 3 minutes after being listed.

I don't see any reason why the OP cannot do the same.

If in doubt, ring the venue or ticketmaster or whatever, and tell them what has happened, and ask them if you can you get a refund. I don't see why not. Or if not, just say 'well can I sell them then?'

Again though, the OP simply cannot ask this woman for the money for the tickets. She just can't. Like I said, if she took legal action, I am certain that she would be told the same.

[Deleted User]

Don't let this sour your relationship. You were trying to do a good thing but it didn't work out.

You'll be able to sell a central london, weekend ticket without problem. Don't put any blame on your friend and really don't let her feel guilty about it.

Forget the details of it, don't attach blame. Sell them and get on with your friendship. Ebay/twitter/Stubhub/seatwave - there are LOADS of ways to sell tickets

fierystormcloud

katy721 wrote: »

If you cant transfer the tickets to a new name, sell them etc you havent actually lost out on anything have you?
If all had gone to plan, you would have gone to the gig with your friend, probably spent more money on drinks, transport etc for an evening seeing a band you dont actually like that much. You wouldnt have ever got the ticket money back and would likely have spent a lot more than you currently have.
If you dont go now, you still dont get the ticket money back, but you also dont spend the extra, and you have a free evening to do something else.
The only thing you have really lost out on is the friends present, if you decide to buy her a replacement birthday/xmas present. You could always spend what you would have done on drinks and transport on replacement presents and then financially you havent lost anything at all.

I understand it is annoying what has happened, but it doesnt sound like it was intentional in the slightest.

I agree with fierystormcloud, that mentioning what she spends her money on is irrelevant to your current issue. People place different values on different things. You may think sky tv is a waste of money, but she may think meals out is a waste of money. It bears no relation on whether she should pay you back, as it was a gift you gave her and not a loan.

I agree. I mean some people will bash people for having SKY, but then will spend £300-£400 a year on a gym membership, or a golf club membership.

I even know one couple who spend SHED loads between them on golf clubs and diving gear and fishing gear, and other sports related stuff (including gym memberships,) yet they bash her sister for spending £150 on a wii for their son for his birthday. Double standards.

catkins

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Which band is asking £100 a ticket?! I don't know many acts who charge this much...And I go to a LOT of concerts.

If someone asked me if I wanted to go with them because their friend had let them down, and they wanted £100 for the ticket, I would laugh at them. I wouldn't pay that to see anyone.

Try and sell your tickets, but if not, then you will have to write it off as a loss, and think twice before doing this next time. Upshot is; you can't trust many people. But you have no right to ask this girl for the money.

Not sure what sort of concerts you go to but £100 is fairly common now for tickets. Fleetwood Mac were than sort of price as were Paul Simon and Sting. Madonna is dearer.


I paid over that to see George Michael several years ago and would pay to see someone I really liked.


I would guess that the tickets are for Simply Red and, if so, should be fairly easy to sell.

starrystarry

I can understand why you're cross about this but as others have said, you've not really any worse off as a result of her not being able to attend. You'd already spent the money, so even if you don't manage to sell them you're no worse off. Just don't buy her anything for her birthday/xmas. The upside is that you don't have to waste an evening sitting through a concert you didn't really want to go to anyway.

Woolwich_Kim

A useless concert ticket is no different to any other unwanted gift. We have all, Im sure, been given gifts that we have chucked, sold or re-gifted to someone else unless we've been so spoilt/lucky enough to only receive what we've really wanted.

However, this isn't an unwanted gift nor is this a situation where unforeseen circumstances or an emergency has taken place.

I acknowledge that this is my choice of a gift to her but I also think she should accept some responsibility for this loss too as she chose the date and forgotten that it clashes with a wedding. Truthfully, if it had been me I would be so sorry and offer half the money as I wouldn't think it's fair for my friend to be burdened with 100% of the loss due to my mistake.

The point of me mentioning her luxuries was to point out there was room to save for things like go to a concert. It is up to everyone what they do with their own money but I don't understand why someone for example would buy a sports car and moan about the cost of petrol/insurance. Some may see this point as irrelevant, but I think naming the band is irrelevant.

Off topic but on the talk of the price of concert tickets, I did pay £500 for concert tickets to see an artist that I REALLY wanted to see. As this was on my bucket list there was no point paying some £75 for rubbish seats as I know good seats will make a huge difference to the experience. This concert was eventually cancelled

Woolwich_Kim

I paid over that to see George Michael several years ago and would pay to see someone I really liked.


Was this 25 live? if so, I am sooo jealous. I love George Michael and have seen this on DVD.

I would love to see him in concert but I doubt he'd do another one and if he does, I don't think he'd be as good as he is past his prime now.