Who should pay?

LilElvis

Not forgetting that the current number one selling album is by someone whose musical heyday was the 60s - Cilla Black.

One of the best performances I have seen was by Burt Bacharach in Las Vegas 10 years ago, and he was in his late 70s then. Awesome songs - including Cilla's "Anyone Who Had a Heart".

burnoutbabe

AubreyMac wrote: »

OMG I think I would be very peed off too.

I think the decent thing to do is not charge her (still politely and calmly tell her how you feel though otherwise it'll be an elephant in the room situation everytime you see her) BUT it would also be the decent thing for her to offer some money. I would question her conscience, morals and loyalty if she didn't offer.

If my friend did this to me and not offer something I don't think they would be my friend for very long. Whether I take up or decline the money is a different matter.

Accidents do happen but that is no excuse to just walk away and leave the other person to it, especially if it were a friend.

I don't think ANY money should be offered, just because I know one can sell tickets and get back your money.

So either give both tickets to her, she can sell them/give them away. Or take back both and sell them both. Its far easier to sell 2 tickets than 1.

So any talk of "paying you back" should only happen after the tickets have been sold and any loss quantified.

Pollycat

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Yes it is of course up to the OP if he names the band or not, but I for one cannot see the reasoning behind not naming them, very strange IMO.

I can't see the reasoning behind it either but the OP seems pretty insistent.
Maybe it's a very embarrasing band and the OP may feel ridiculed if she says she's paid almost £200 for 2 tickets to see.....Black Lace? :cool:

summerspring wrote: »

I don't think it would, necessarily.

I was unable to go to a relative's Christening because I had a concert that night (which had been booked months before I even knew about the christening). I'm sure it caused a few snidey remarks that I didn't go to the Christening, but I didn't know and I already had something planned for that night.

You're comparing a christening to a wedding.
I don't think they are the same at all in scale of importance.
If I had booked to see my favourite band (tickets are more expensive than £100 AND I would have also booked a hotel and train tickets so I'd be looking at a loss of maybe £250) and my sister later asked me to be a godparent to her child, the answer would be an immediate 'sorry but no - not on that day'.
If she announced that she was getting married on the same day, I would have a lot of soul searching to do.
This is not 'a relative' but a 'close relative', in fact it's a step-sister.

gingercordial wrote: »

Totally up to her. She just might be missing out on a possibly very simple solution if someone here would take them off her hands.

I only mentioned it because the OP said repeatedly she would have to check if they were transferable, in response to pages of everybody advising her to sell. She might not realise that she can sell them regardless of what the small print on the tickets says.

The OP posted this seveeral days ago:

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

I've not said that I DONT want to sell the tickets. I just was not sure if they were transferable.

If it had been me in that situation, the very first thing I would have done - before doing my damndest to make my friend feel guilty and seething over potentially wasted money - would be to check the possibility of selling the tickets on.

AubreyMac

burnoutbabe wrote: »

I don't think ANY money should be offered, just because I know one can sell tickets and get back your money.

I get that but the friend can at least offer reassurance such as "if you sell for less, I'll make up the difference" or be the one to try find websites to sell/make the enquiries.

I was in a similar situation where a friend of mine double booked herself with me. Although very little money was spent, about £18 for a cinema ticket with Q&A afterwards, for me it was more the principle and how she handled the situation when she realised. My friend did try to re-arrange her other event but would have lost out more. She offered the money back as well as get another friend to go too. If she had a 'its your problem, not mine' approach then I would have thought less of her.

Melancholie

Pollycat wrote: »

I can't see the reasoning behind it either but the OP seems pretty insistent.
Maybe it's a very embarrasing band and the OP may feel ridiculed if she says she's paid almost £200 for 2 tickets to see.....Black Lace? :cool:

I think it's A-ha. They're doing a reunion tour and there are only 4 UK dates, like the OP mentioned. The good seats are £95.

catkins

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Quit trying to make out that you're right and I'm wrong.

I know what I know, and I KNOW that the average ticket price for a concert is NOT £100. You must think you're talking to someone who was born yesterday. I have been to over 30 concerts in the last few years, and they have NOT been 'crap seats!' Many have been less than £40, and have been in front third of the stadium, sometimes near the front.

Yes I ACKNOWLEDGE that SOME stars and SOME tickets cost into 3 figures, and that SOME seats cost more. I am not disputing that.

What I was saying is that there is no WAY that the average ticket price for a concert/singer/band is a £100 like YOU were implying.

In your first post regarding this, you never mentioned anything about it being seat dependent, and you added that further down to try and prove yourself right.

Quit moving the goalposts Catkins. I am not wrong. I KNOW what I have paid for tickets for the 30-odd concerts I have been to over the last few years, and it has NOT been £100, nowhere near. If your experience is different, then I feel sorry for you, because you're being ripped off.

I have no more to say on this and am not discussing it any further with you, because although I acknowledge that I am not always right about things, I know I am right regarding this.

Well I know I AM right about this too. How come all my friends and family that go to concerts moan about how much tickets are now?


You cannot get tickets for £40 for well known and liked bands

AubreyMac

catkins wrote: »

You cannot get tickets for £40 for well known and liked bands

You can, you'll just get a rubbish view as it's likely to be right at back of stadium.

Georgiegirl256

catkins wrote: »

Well I know I AM right about this too. How come all my friends and family that go to concerts moan about how much tickets are now?


You cannot get tickets for £40 for well known and liked bands

You can, but they're right at the back.

If you want at least a half decent seat, then you are correct in what you are saying.

Petra_70

catkins wrote: »

Well I know I AM right about this too. How come all my friends and family that go to concerts moan about how much tickets are now?

You cannot get tickets for £40 for well known and liked bands

Yes you most definitely can.

We have got seats for about half a dozen well known bands and artists in the past few years for £30 to £50. And they have been decent seats too. With a good clear view.

I don't know why people are insisting they are right; nobody is 'right' - it depends. Many people have different experiences and some are luckier than others. We got 1D tickets that were only about 50 rows back from the stage and they were only £45.. We got an amazing view. So this 'I know I am right, all my friends say this so I know I am right' attitude is silly. You cannot possibly speak for everyone.

A sweeping generalisation like 'you can not get tickets and decent seats for a well known band for £40, (or any seats for a decent band for £40 like you said further back in the thread,) is just ridiculous. As I said, it all depends on the venue, and how quick or lucky you are.

I know you can pay top prices for a few bands and artists, but with many you can get a good seat for around £40 to £45.

Re the OP; suck it up and sell the tickets on. You cannot possibly ask your friend for the money. What a horrible suggestion!

Pollycat

I see the original thread has resurfaced even though MSE have decided to use the basics of this thread as their 'Money Moral Dilemma':
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/5318776