Who should pay?

Woolwich_Kim

Angry_Bear wrote: »

So, just to clarify, if she had been able to go you would have expected her to pay for your ticket because that "is not her gift"?
Or you wouldn't have expetced that because it was your ticket, for you to attend. And now you want her to pay for a concert you no longer want to go to (regardless of the reason)?

I can't think of any reasonable interpretation where it is okay for you to expect your friend to pay for your ticket.

If she had been able to go, like she told me she had been by way of confirming her availability on set date, then I would have went with her as it wouldn't be right to give her one ticket and tell her to go alone.

But as she isn't able to go, I don't want to go as it's not something I wanted to go anyway but would have went to accompany her.

fierystormcloud

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

That isn't true as in my first post I mentioned I felt she should pay both tickets.

But after reading all replies (all, not just ones that are sympathetic to my point of view) I realise and agree she shouldn't pay for her own ticket as that is my gift to her and it'll be like any other useless/unwanted gift. I just think she should pay for mine even though its same thing.

I think this is the best way forward as I think this is the way to salvage our friendship. If she doesn't pay for half then I will resent her and hold a grudge. If she paid me 100% then she would resent me and hold a grudge so 50/50 is probably the fairest way.

:eek:

Are you serious?

Really?

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

It seems there are 3 choices if these tickets are not sold.

1. She pays me nothing and I resent her and our friendship may eventually finish because of it.

2. She pays me the full amount and resents me and our friendship may eventually finish because of it.

3. She pays me half/my ticket/her ticket. I treat what I've paid as a unwanted/useless gift, she treat what she's paid as compensation to me for her mistake. This may not be the ideal for both but this option is to meet halfway on this and move forward. We may still resent each other, but not as much as the first 2 options.

Now I'm not saying I will sever the friendship if she don't give me half the money (I think she will offer if she can't find a buyer) and the first 2 may not ever result in the ending of us being friends.

REALLY?

Angry_Bear wrote: »

So, just to clarify, if she had been able to go you would have expected her to pay for your ticket because that "is not her gift"?
Or you wouldn't have expetced that because it was your ticket, for you to attend. And now you want her to pay for a concert you no longer want to go to (regardless of the reason)?

I can't think of any reasonable interpretation where it is okay for you to expect your friend to pay for your ticket.

Good point. If the friend HAD decided to go, the OP would not have asked her for the money - (would she?) so why does she think she has a right to ask her now? Because she isn't managing to go to a concert she doesn't want to go to anyway!

You couldn't make it up! :rotfl:

Andypandyboy

I don't think you are such good friends.

If this happened to me I would be upset but would understand that she had made a genuine mistake, what else would it have been?

Think logically and not emotionally. She made a MISTAKE, now, you can choose to "punish" her by being resentful and frankly, nasty, or you can sell the tickets and move on. Hoping that the next time you make a mistake with a date whoever is involved sees it for what it is.

If the gig is so sought after you will make a profit.

It really is that simple, and, if you were a good friend you would see that.

Woolwich_Kim

fierystormcloud wrote: »

I know that there are a few acts who charge exorbitant prices for concert tickets, but it's the exception rather than the rule, and it's simply untrue that £100 is a 'fairly common' price for concert tickets. I have been to about 30 concerts in the past 6/7 years; featuring all kinds of different bands and artists, and not one single one has cost more than £50. Even One Direction were only £37! Ellie Goulding was £49 and Ed Sheeran was £22. Even take That was only £38. The majority of the tickets were under £30.

You are talking to someone who goes to a LOT of concerts and who has lots of mates that do. So no point in trying to tell me £100 or more is a common price, because it isn't. The majority of bands and artists will be less than half of that. Some even a third.



I am also beginning to wonder if the friend simply isn't bothered about the OP at all, and maybe this is why she has 'let her down...' Maybe she is trying to 'phase her out' and thinks this is a good way to do it. By the OP's conduct on this thread so far, if she is like this in real life, it wouldn't surprise me if this friend wanted to give her a wide berth.



Exactly. Why post for advice and then just go and do what the heck you want anyway. Daft.

Seating makes a difference to the price though. With concerts I only go for stall seats. I have paid less before and found myself in a really far back seat and spent the entire time watching it from a screen. It is pointless to go to a concert only to watch it from a screen. That's the same with theatres too although it does vary depending on layout of stage/seat.

You have mentioned contemporary artists, maybe they are cheaper as they tour more so give more options.

The ones the other posters mentioned (Madonna, George Michael, Fleetwood Mac, Sting etc) are more, you know, old and more 'legendary' so would have more lifelong fans who'd be willing to pay £100+.

I haven't done anything with the tickets yet.

Jagraf

There is absolutely nothing stopping you going. You are just choosing not to go.

You go. And give her the other ticket as a present.

After all, she didn't ak you to buy you a ticket. You assumed she wants you to go with her. Maybe she doesn't.

barbiedoll

If it is Simply Red, and if your friend does find someone else who wants her ticket, then do yourself a favour and go with them.

I saw them a few years ago (at the O2) when I treated my husband for his birthday, I'm not a fan in any way, shape or form, but they were great and we had a really good time!

gettingtheresometime

I've changed my opinion having read all the thread and I'm firmly in the 'you want to punish your friend camp'.

I can't see why you're so resistant to selling them - you don't want to see the band (and why the heck is it so secret?) and you certainly want to go with someone you don't know.

I think your mistake was to be so secretive about it....to ask to be told to keep a date free could have meant anything from an afternoon tea at the Ritz to a session of go-aping.

Just sell the tickets and put it down to experience.

jetplane

I think your friendship is doomed whatever happens, if she doesn't pay you won't forgive her, if you make her pay she won't forgive you. The End

Diamond_Orchid

At first I thought what a lovely, kind friend you are, and wished to have such a friend myself.

However it has now unravelled and shown your true colours. You cannot expect her to give you any money back for a gift she cannot use, and definitely not expect her to pay for your ticket!

I am wondering if this expensive present was a way to get one up man ship on her other friends, and you are now miffed you haven't been able to gain this! Maybe she doesn't value you as highly a friend as you thought, maybe she doesn't really know you and would be shocked to read your replies, maybe she doesn't think it's such a big deal. Normally you can sell on unwanted tickets.

I think your friendship is doomed tbh, I don't think you will forgive her for this and she cannot be expected to pay you anything so you won't forget it either.

Anatidaephobia

If this had happened to most of the other forum users, they would've either found another friend to go to the gig with them or simply sold the tickets. Easy, no problem. But instead you've decided it's a big deal and created a problem where there didn't need to be one.

Your friend simply made a mistake and I'm amazed that, after the initial annoyance, you were not able to forgive her and now think the friendship must/will end.