Who should pay?

KRB2725

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

That isn't true as in my first post I mentioned I felt she should pay both tickets.

But after reading all replies (all, not just ones that are sympathetic to my point of view) I realise and agree she shouldn't pay for her own ticket as that is my gift to her and it'll be like any other useless/unwanted gift. I just think she should pay for mine even though its same thing.

I think this is the best way forward as I think this is the way to salvage our friendship. If she doesn't pay for half then I will resent her and hold a grudge. If she paid me 100% then she would resent me and hold a grudge so 50/50 is probably the fairest way.

The weird thing about this thread is that you went to a lot of effort and expense to arrange this, which indicates she's a good friend.

She made a mistake with dates and now you are behaving in a way which indicates you don't even like her that much.

She made a mistake, why are you intent on punishing her for it? In your situation, I may well be a bit peeved that the mix up had happened, know (because they're a good friend) that it wasn't deliberate, sell the tickets and get over it. You don't like them anyway so what's your problem?

Why would you prefer to punish her rather than just sell them?

Jagraf

What if she had said she didn't want to go? Maybe she just doesn't want to go?

Woolwich_Kim

I've not said that I DONT want to sell the tickets. I just was not sure if they were transferable.

Pollycat

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

I've not said that I DONT want to sell the tickets. I just was not sure if they were transferable.

That would have been the first thing I checked.

Woolwich_Kim

Pollycat wrote: »

By asking her to pay for your ticket, don't you think she will still resent you?

It seems there are 3 choices if these tickets are not sold.

1. She pays me nothing and I resent her and our friendship may eventually finish because of it.

2. She pays me the full amount and resents me and our friendship may eventually finish because of it.

3. She pays me half/my ticket/her ticket. I treat what I've paid as a unwanted/useless gift, she treat what she's paid as compensation to me for her mistake. This may not be the ideal for both but this option is to meet halfway on this and move forward. We may still resent each other, but not as much as the first 2 options.

Now I'm not saying I will sever the friendship if she don't give me half the money (I think she will offer if she can't find a buyer) and the first 2 may not ever result in the ending of us being friends.

mellymoo74

Why does she need to compensate you for going to a wedding.
Still don't get why your punishing someone for not going out with you and going to a wedding instead

Woolwich_Kim

catkins wrote: »

Yes it was the 25 live tour. I was a fan of Wham but never got to see them. I vowed that if George ever toured I would go no matter how much the tickets cost.


I saw him in London and Plymouth and he was brilliant. His voice was as good as listening to a CD.


I would go and see him again in a flash. It was only 7 years or so ago so no reason why his voice should have changed that much. He is not that old either

Unless he releases new material, artists tend to celebrate 30 years after 25th anniversary. As he's missed that now the next big one will be 40 years (I don't think 35 years ever get celebrated?) and by then he'd be 60 ish. Whilst his voice may not change much at 60, I doubt he'd be as energetic or charismatic on stage.

*max*

So if she pays you half like you want her to, she'll have ended up giving YOU money for her own birthday.

I absolutely think that you are out of order asking her to pay anything. She never asked you to get her something so expensive, you chose to do that. Punishing her for a mistake by making her fork out for her OWN birthday gift that she won't even get to enjoy...Words fail me!

In your shoes, I'd try my tumost to sell the tickets on, ask her if she can try as well, and if not possible, I'd write it off as "!!!!!! happens".

Although it all depends on how much you really want to keep her as a friend. Because let me tell you, in her shoes, if you made me pay, I'd never want to see or hear from you again.

Georgiegirl256

Woolwich_Kim wrote: »

3. She pays me half/my ticket/her ticket. I treat what I've paid as a unwanted/useless gift, she treat what she's paid as compensation to me for her mistake.

Once again, I have never heard of anyone having to pay for their own gift....that is why it's called a gift. Something someone buys for you, which is then yours to do with as you please.

So going by your "theory", the handbag that my BIL and SIL bought me for Christmas one year which was unwanted (I didn't like it but did the relevant "oh it's lovely, thank you!"), I should have paid them for it? Because that's how you're making it sound.

It's an unfortunate situation, but there is no way she should have to pay you anything....it. Was. A. Gift.

Angry_Bear

Just to check, had she been able to go would you have asked her to pay for your ticket?
If not, why do you think she should pay just because she can't go?