sexless marriage :(

Pollycat

dontwannabecelibate wrote: »

my wife and child were poorly last week and my wife didn't get much sleep. on saturday i got up with our child and went downstairs to let her get some sleep. when she came down she saw me playing destiny on the playstation with our child next to me and went nuts because it's an age 16 shooting game.

How old is your child?

Did you not stop to think about the wisdom (or lack of it) of playing this game?

Did you - or do you now - understand why your wife 'went nuts'?

Sugarcandy

I don't think he is a troll at all. I have one just like him!

fairy_lights

VestanPance wrote: »

The OP's posts work better if you read them thinking he's Sheldon Cooper.

Now that's just plain insulting...Sheldon Cooper is a much better boyfriend that the OP, he understands the importance of date nights as per the relationship agreement.
With a bit of negotiation Sheldon Cooper manages to keep his girlfriend happy, in fact I would go so far as to say the OP needs to try and be more like Sheldon Cooper which is not something I would recommend for many people.

Guest101

Just to clarify Destiny is a teen rated game, so 13.

Not sure how much difference that makes...

OP u on PS3 - hit me up for a game

notanewuser

Guest101 wrote: »

Just to clarify Destiny is a teen rated game, so 13.

Not sure how much difference that makes...

OP u on PS3 - hit me up for a game

I don't think it is. My husband has recently started playing it and I've told him in no uncertain circumstances that he is not to play it in front of DD. She's 4.

Amazon have it listed as a 16+ and there's a big "16" sign on the front of it.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/ACTIVISION-P3REFPACT12405-Destiny-PS3/dp/B00BF95QFE

onlyroz

I don't like it when I get the "but I didn't know it needed doing" line, or the expectation of praise when some housework is actually done. Sure, the parent who stays at home should do the bulk of the housework, but they also deserve a chance to put their feet up for a little while as well.

Try some simple things like doing the washing up, helping to load the washing machine, hanging things out to dry, folding/ironing the dry clothes and putting them back in the cupboards. Don't expect gushing praise if you do these things, but over time you should find that the levels of resentment start to drop.

I can see how people can be blind to dust, but it's impossible to be blind to a towering pile of dirty pots.

Guest101

notanewuser wrote: »

I don't think it is. My husband has recently started playing it and I've told him in no uncertain circumstances that he is not to play it in front of DD. She's 4.

Amazon have it listed as a 16+ and there's a big "16" sign on the front of it.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/ACTIVISION-P3REFPACT12405-Destiny-PS3/dp/B00BF95QFE

Im sure my copy says 'T', im positive. will get photo later.

anyway i was joking, i have 3 kids and wouldnt play it infront of them.

I dont think it should be 16, there's no gore/ language etc.

But some violence. T seemed appropriate.

dottymrsp

Regardless of the rating, letting a kid watch a video game of a rating older than they are is a discussion parents should have together... not one of them just by themselves

OP - I wonder if she was also hoping that as you'd gotten up early with the kid, you'd be spending some quality time with them?

lazer

onlyroz wrote: »

I don't like it when I get the "but I didn't know it needed doing" line, or the expectation of praise when some housework is actually done. Sure, the parent who stays at home should do the bulk of the housework, but they also deserve a chance to put their feet up for a little while as well.

Try some simple things like doing the washing up, helping to load the washing machine, hanging things out to dry, folding/ironing the dry clothes and putting them back in the cupboards. Don't expect gushing praise if you do these things, but over time you should find that the levels of resentment start to drop.

I can see how people can be blind to dust, but it's impossible to be blind to a towering pile of dirty pots.

I agree with this - the person at home should be doing the bulk of the housework, children take naps, they also generally watch TV, happily play in their cot etc, depending on age and housework can be done during these times.


However, I also think the person at home deserves a break sometimes but I also question how much housework need done. At weekends, I take a break from housework other than the basics of cooking and cleaning up after etc, washing, ironing, hovering etc can all wait to during the week, so I get to relax at the weekend.


Housework can be about compromise - if the 2 partners have different standards of cleanliness, (and both are livable - one is just spotless, the other lived in), then something has to give - for example dishes don't have to be done straight after dinner, but should be done before bed. A newspaper left on the coffee table isn't the end of the world, but if it builds up to a pile of 7 newspapers during the week, then they need to be cleared.

dontwannabecelibate

ringo_24601 wrote: »

Best flowers for those with allergies:
Begonia, cactus, chenille, clematis, columbine, crocus, daffodil, dusty miller, geranium, hosta, impatiens, iris, lily, pansy, periwinkle, petunia, phlox, rose, salvia, snapdragon, thrift, tulip, verbena, zinnia.

These produce little, to no airborne pollen

I'm always a fan of buying orchids as they'll last for ages and look lovely (And i'm rather asthmatic, and prone to eczema)

i suspect the smell of many of those would set me off, but i'll look them up and see if any would be suitable. i was going to buy her some chocolate on the way home but think this might not be good when we're both dieting?