Dating opinions please

DKLS

Ditch her its going nowhere.

SailorSam

DKLS wrote: »

Ditch her its going nowhere.

Who said romance is dead ?

Pollycat

Barny1979 wrote: »

No, want a relationship. Been single myself for almost 4 years.

Maybe you should rethink what a good relationship is all about because if you think this:

Barny1979 wrote: »

For me, a good snog is the key to a relationship. Opinions please, am I being too pushy?

it's no wonder (at least to me) that you've been single for 4 years.;)

pickledonionspaceraider

She is still trying to work out if she likes you IMO. And she clearly wants more than just a fumble

Who knows she could have been deeply hurt in the past

I don't think you should be bailing yet, if you really like her. You are putting pressure on yourselves with this whole dating thing. Tell yourself you are friends and see where it leads in the future.

That is what I would do though. Oh and make sure she is paying her fair way.

Barny1979

Pollycat wrote: »

Maybe you should rethink what a good relationship is all about because if you think this:

it's no wonder (at least to me) that you've been single for 4 years.;)

That's not the reason. Though as I said, I think you can tell a lot in the way a person kisses.

TopQuark

Pollycat wrote: »

Maybe you should rethink what a good relationship is all about because if you think this:

it's no wonder (at least to me) that you've been single for 4 years.;)

Totally disagree. You're being overly harsh on the OP (because he's male, I'd hazard a guess). If a woman had posted the same thing, I'm sure the conversation would have taken a different tone; certainly we wouldn't have suggestions that the relationship is going to fast for the precious little flower to be comfortable with. After 11 dates? with very little sharing of expenses by her? She is taking the pi$$ OP. I'd get rid. Concentrate your efforts on finding someone who does't have issues and is prepared to pay her way fairly. Good luck!

(For the record, I'm a women of similar age).

bossymoo

Sounds odd to me too. As a lady of comparable age, I would pretty much know within 4-5 dates if I really liked someone. And would hopefully have had a snog by then (as I agree, a god snog is a very good indicator, of physical compatibility).

I wouldn't want to lead someone on, and by date 11 it should either a) be over and done with if one didn't like the other or b) be progressing to a "ok we are dating exclusively now ".

But then I'm not one for messing around and playing daft games. Life is too short!

freshstart11

I know someone who was assaulted when younger,...she took six months of dating before ANY contact. It may be something in her past holding off or may not be interested as much as you are. It's your choice if she is worth the risk.

However if I was her the more you asked me less chance you would get!

HPoirot

If it's really a snog you haven't had and not a sh*g, I would say she is stringing you along and it's time to distance yourself from her.

pickledonionspaceraider

bossymoo wrote: »

Sounds odd to me too. As a lady of comparable age, I would pretty much know within 4-5 dates if I really liked someone. And would hopefully have had a snog by then (as I agree, a god snog is a very good indicator, of physical compatibility).

I wouldn't want to lead someone on, and by date 11 it should either a) be over and done with if one didn't like the other or b) be progressing to a "ok we are dating exclusively now ".

But then I'm not one for messing around and playing daft games. Life is too short!

Yep I could agreee with this. Another female of similar age