Dating opinions please

purpleshoes_2

Looking at his signature, I think he's 35, someone else already suggested that.

Don't think they are in their 60s. I'm in my 40s and I can't remember dating someone and waiting 11 dates for a kiss. I don't think its pushy to want to kiss someone you are dating, I think its perfectly normal.

DUTR

Pollycat wrote: »

I'm not convinced she was stringing the OP along.

We don't know the ages of the OP & this lady. At age 18, I'd have thought it was pretty strange but maybe at age 60, I might not want to have a 'good snog' with someone I felt I didn't know well enough.

We don't know her background - has she just come out of a bad relationship (maybe abusive or been cheated on) and is unwilling - or even unable - to let someone in too soon (that is: too soon for her).
Maybe she's just not as demonstrative as the OP.

If the lack of a 'good snog' is a relationship-breaker or the OP, I agree he should move on and let this lady look for someone that will let her take any relationship at the speed that she is comfortable with.

True the OP didn't really show the age band or culture background when asked. Or even what he was expecting from the dating of this particular person.

purpleshoes_2

I think a lot of men and women would think it a bit odd being 11 dates in and no kiss, if she's got relationship baggage like many people do, when do you start to progress, date 22? 44? A year? Something that maybe should have been considered before dating him, I could understand it 2 dates in.

Plus doesn't know him well enough is pretty self explanatory, she might have little relationship baggage and prefer just to be mates with people.

I think moving on is the right decision.

Barny1979

Barny1979 wrote: »

Yep, only two years difference and the same culture. As you say, unless you have a good kiss, you don't know. Raised it and was told not ready as don't know me well enough!

I am 35 and she has just turned 34, both Caucasian

DUTR

Barny1979 wrote: »

I am 35 and she has just turned 34, both Caucasian

Barny is this someone you knew from before or recently met?
Do they have children? Have they not too long come out of a relationship?

SailorSam

And Barny you never came back to say who had been paying when you've been out together.

purpleshoes_2

DUTR wrote: »

Barny is this someone you knew from before or recently met?
Do they have children? Have they not too long come out of a relationship?

Because having children and not being long out of a relationship affects your ability to kiss someone.

Maybe she's not into him. Maybe she's part of a religion that forbids kissing before marriage. Maybe she read the rules and decided to play some games to keep him keen. Maybe she had a cold sore.

There could be 1001 maybes, if there's little ongoing physical contact it doesn't bode well.

People don't need to be all over one another like a rash but in a new relationship you'd expect some kissing. I'm sure people of other cultures kiss as well.

There's taking it slow and there's taking the proverbial.

purpleshoes_2

SailorSam wrote: »

And Barny you never came back to say who had been paying when you've been out together.

He doesn't have to, its up to him if he wants to share that.

Pollycat

purpleshoes wrote: »

Because having children and not being long out of a relationship affects your ability to kiss someone.

Maybe she's not into him. Maybe she's part of a religion that forbids kissing before marriage. Maybe she read the rules and decided to play some games to keep him keen. Maybe she had a cold sore.

There could be 1001 maybes, if there's little ongoing physical contact it doesn't bode well.

People don't need to be all over one another like a rash but in a new relationship you'd expect some kissing. I'm sure people of other cultures kiss as well.

There's taking it slow and there's taking the proverbial.

Maybe - as I said in an earlier post - she could just have come out of a bad relationship (maybe abusive or been cheated on) and is unwilling - or even unable - to let someone in too soon (that is: too soon for her).
Or maybe she's just not as demonstrative as the OP.

I agree that there could be 1001 reasons - but unless the OP provides some answers to questions asked, we are all just speculating.

I'm also curious what the OP is expecting from this relationship?
Does he just want to get close to her so he can get into her knickers and then move on?
Or does he really like her and think there may be the possibility of a long-term relationship?

Barny1979

She's been single for over two years, I generally pay.