Dating opinions please

McCloud1

TopQuark wrote: »

I therefore repeat:


If that is the case, then she should have communicated these reasons or ideas to the OP at an earlier stage, because as you can see from the majority of responses on this thread, most people consider 11 dates (paid for almost exclusively by the OP) without even so much as a hint of a kiss, is not normal behavior for someone who is supposedly romantically interested. Ergo, whatever her situation, it is her at fault here and not the OP.

Completely right. I don't see how anybody could conclude that the OP is too pushy, he actually seems a bit the other way imo...I can't imagining asking permission to kiss is that attractive, although I understand why a man might do so in today's landscape.

fivesquare

Barny1979 wrote: »

Been dating a woman for almost two months, a total of 11 dates and still we haven't had a proper snog! I think this is strange and have raised it with them, they have said they don't know me well enough.

For me, a good snog is the key to a relationship. Opinions please, am I being too pushy?

She's not interested in a romantic relationship. Either that, or she's frigid.

thorsoak

fivesquare wrote: »

She's not interested in a romantic relationship. Either that, or she's frigid.

Or she has already kissed her quota of frogs!

Pollycat

TopQuark wrote: »

I therefore repeat:


If that is the case, then she should have communicated these reasons or ideas to the OP at an earlier stage, because as you can see from the majority of responses on this thread, most people consider 11 dates (paid for almost exclusively by the OP) without even so much as a hint of a kiss, is not normal behavior for someone who is supposedly romantically interested. Ergo, whatever her situation, it is her at fault here and not the OP.

Maybe she's a very private person.

Maybe she's had a traumatic experience in her past that she doesn't feel comfortable talking about - at this stage in the 'relationship' - with the OP.

I don't particularly care about the majority of other responses - it's not a poll - I'm expressing my opinion.
The fact that my opinion may differ to the majority is neither here nor there.
It is my opinion, based on what the OP has told us.

Who said anything about 'without even a hint of a kiss'?
I believe it was a 'good snog' that the OP wanted.

You may have the opinion that it is the woman at fault here.

I've read the OP's posts and I personally think i.e. in my opinion - he doesn't express himself very well and maybe it is that which is causing the issue.

Maybe the OP has bad breath and she is too polite to mention it.

fivesquare

thorsoak wrote: »

Or she has already kissed her quota of frogs!

Does that really matter? But then we're all different... I would worry after the second date if no kiss happened

And on a very practical note, who has time to do 11 dates and then discover on the 12th that there's no physical chemistry? Talking, liking the way they look, making eye contact is not enough... touching, smelling, tasting etc gives you the full picture :-)

I find OP's question a bit naive, perhaps it's been a long time since he's been on a date (nothing wrong with that, perhaps he's been married for a long time or something like that).

fivesquare

Pollycat wrote: »

Maybe the OP has bad breath and she is too polite to mention it.

I can only assume you're joking. Who would continue dating someone if they thought their date had bad breath?

Pollycat

fivesquare wrote: »

I can only assume you're joking. Who would continue dating someone if they thought their date had bad breath?

Maybe he's eating really strong tasting food on the dates (garlic, curry etc) and that's why she's not keen on having a 'good snog'.

Maybe she really likes the guy but is too shy to mention it and hopes that they can get to know each other better so she can broach the subject.....


The OP doesn't mention where he wants to have a 'good snog'.
Are they in her house or his house?


I'm not sure I'd want to engage in a 'good snog' in the local Wetherspoons or at the bus stop - unless I were 18 again.

Andy_89

Quite clear cut this one.

She is not as open to a kiss. Therefore, I would suggest, they are polar opposite in showing signs of affection.

Barney wants a smooch and she is still trying to figure out if he likes him? There is clearly no spark and time to move on.

It took my wife to be a single trip to the cinema to decide if she liked me.

Blackbeard_of_Perranporth

What is a date? Oh yeah, I remember, was about 29 years ago!

Gra76

If there's no physical spark after 2 dates I'd have called it time on things then, after 11 dates I'd be asking myself why I'd wasted the previous 9 dates

She sounds like she enjoys your company but not much else