Dating opinions please

Mercenary

fivesquare wrote: »

She's not interested in a romantic relationship. Either that, or she's frigid.

Not so fast with the 'frigid' label!

Another explanation could be that she may be a Romantic Asexual. That would mean that she is interested in having a mentally romantic relationship but not so keen on the physical stuff.

For reference see here: http://www.asexuality.org/en/forum/5-asexual-qa/

Pollycat

Andy_89 wrote: »

Quite clear cut this one.

She is not as open to a kiss. Therefore, I would suggest, they are polar opposite in showing signs of affection.

Barney wants a smooch and she is still trying to figure out if he likes him? There is clearly no spark and time to move on.

It took my wife to be a single trip to the cinema to decide if she liked me.

I would suggest that they may be polar opposites in showing signs of affection at this stage of the relationship.

They could actually be the perfect couple - emotionally and physically - once they get to know each other and get into synch with each other.

fivetide

Gra76 wrote: »

If there's no physical spark after 2 dates I'd have called it time on things then, after 11 dates I'd be asking myself why I'd wasted the previous 9 dates

She sounds like she enjoys your company but not much else

Got to agree. You are in the friend zone I think.


11 dates in 8 weeks seems a fair bit though. Perhaps that is/was part of the issue. I'd have thought seeing each other more than once a week would have been plenty of getting to know you time because otherwise, it is a bit full on.

Andy_89

Pollycat wrote: »

I would suggest that they may be polar opposites in showing signs of affection at this stage of the relationship.

They could actually be the perfect couple - emotionally and physically - once they get to know each other and get into synch with each other.

11 dates is the unfortunate key here. I agree with your point, however as time progresses Barney could be 40 by the time she decides, you know what I don't fancy this.

Pollycat

Andy_89 wrote: »

11 dates is the unfortunate key here. I agree with your point, however as time progresses Barney could be 40 by the time she decides, you know what I don't fancy this.

Or she could decide by the 12th date "I actually really like and fancy this guy and want to give him a good snog".

VestanPance

Give up on her and move on. If nothing else it's clear that in terms of what you both desire from physical intimacy from a relationship is going to be totally different.

Andy_89

Pollycat wrote: »

Or she could decide by the 12th date "I actually really like and fancy this guy and want to give him a good snog".

Whilst both of our points are valid. They are subjective and very much open to opinion. I must say I think yours contains more hope than expectation.

Pollycat

Andy_89 wrote: »

Whilst both of our points are valid. They are subjective and very much open to opinion.

Of course they are open to opinion, that's what happens a lot on these types of thread.

Andy_89 wrote: »

I must say I think yours contains more hope than expectation.

I must say yours contains an element of fantasy.

I think it's less likely that the lady in this tale will continue to tell the OP she's not ready for a good snog for the next 6 years than she will decide she is ready for a good snog during the next date.

Of course - this is my opinion just as all the other posts just other people's opinions.

SailorSam

The Op could always point out this thread to the lady to have a read of. Food for thought.

TopQuark

So, conclusion OP; get rid of her and concentrate your efforts on someone who has more respect for you, because this women certainly doesn't appear to have much.