Brother in Law is Upset with Us

purpleshoes_2

notanewuser wrote: »

Ooh, I have a multipack of those tiny green and blacks bars in the fridge downstairs. Reckon that's the next year or 2 of birthdays sorted for me!! :beer::beer:

I spent 15 quid on green and blacks as part of my brothers christmas, didn't tell him that thats his Christmas presents sorted for the next 15 years.

Fredula

notanewuser wrote: »

Awwww, and they had to pay full price for that house too. Oh wait........



Nice little £20-30k gift from her parents there, just because.

We didn't actually buy their house in the end, we bought a house on the market. And yes, some money was gifted to us, but as I've said, I've been saving hard since I was 18, and my husband has too since he moved in with me.

I don't know why some of you are jumping on me about getting pregnant and not paying my way, because we do, and we work incredibly hard. My son wasn't planned - I was on the depo injection, which had failed. That's irrelevant to the conversation though.

Lily-Rose_3

purpleshoes wrote: »

I spent 15 quid on green and blacks as part of my brothers christmas, didn't tell him that thats his Christmas presents sorted for the next 15 years.

Very MSE :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Jagraf

Chocolate oranges seem to be getting smaller too

Homeownertobe

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Well I think this bit that the OP mentioned on page 1 of the thread has been overlooked actually.

Post 10.

The brother in law DID only buy her maltesers for her birthday. So does he have a right to complain... really???

Not overlooked, just understood by those of us able to.;)

purpleshoes_2

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Well I think this bit that the OP mentioned on page 1 of the thread has been overlooked actually.

Post 10.

The brother in law DID only buy her maltesers for her birthday. So does he have a right to complain... really???

Are the book and maltesers second hand though?:rotfl: To be honest when someone starts explaining that the person on the receiving end doesn't spend much on them either, thats when you know they know they've made a boo boo.

Like I only gave someone a choc orange (regifted), but they only gave me maltesters.

Ive bought presents and spent more on people when I had more money to spare than I have now. Ive also received presents for one big birthday that I couldn't believe how much was spent on me, wasn't expecting that. I don't sit down and compare who spent what on me and what I spent on them.

Even if a family don't do presents, if someone turns 30 you might expect something a bit special. Even if its worth a fiver, a bit of thought. There was nil thought in this and they seem to have spare cash, just didn't want to spend it.

They didn't spend anything, even the book and the maltesers he bought them, I bet they weren't regifted.

raven83

I think OP is has been rather over zealous on the money saving, seriously, there is being careful and being damn right mean!

gettingtheresometime

notanewuser wrote: »

Can a board guide make Martin aware of this thread? I'm sure he'd be in awe of such incredible moneysaving and want to feature the idea on his telly show.

I'm guessing that this will become a money moral dilemma!

purpleshoes_2

Fredula wrote: »

We didn't actually buy their house in the end, we bought a house on the market. And yes, some money was gifted to us, but as I've said, I've been saving hard since I was 18, and my husband has too since he moved in with me.

I don't know why some of you are jumping on me about getting pregnant and not paying my way, because we do, and we work incredibly hard. My son wasn't planned - I was on the depo injection, which had failed. That's irrelevant to the conversation though.

You probably have some spare cash, I would expect so anyway, if youve been saving hard since you were 18 and your husband as well.

This is similar to a thread thats currently going on on the old style board where someone is saving every spare penny towards their home. Fine.

But I bet a lot of people out there who have less disposable income than you do, would manage to do better for someones 30th birthday than give a second hand chocolate orange.

It's one of those occasions where you would have been better just sending a card and saying, we need all our money for the house, when things pick up we'll buy you something.

If you can't see that giving someone a second hand choc orange for someones 30th birthday might cause a reaction, well I'm not really sure what else to say, there are some actions that just scream tight and couldn't care less and that more or less fits the bill.

notanewuser

Jagraf wrote: »

Who looks after your child?

Who do you think?

Fredula wrote: »

I was just looking for your own personal stories on how you've managed to have a second child.

I had a unplanned (late diagnosed and premature) baby 2 years ago and my husband and I have been living with my parents since. He is 27 and I am 24. We've been saving very hard for our house deposit and have around the 26k mark. We both earn around £900 per month and have no childcare costs. At present because we don't pay bills, we are able to just live on one income and save the other. We're planning to start looking to buy a home in November which we're really excited about.

So living rent free for YEARS in a house her parents wanted to sell so that they could move to the seaside (due to ill health) having FREE CHILDCARE for YEARS as well as being gifted £10k+ so they could save every penny to buy a house for THEMSELVES.

Now THAT'S MSE!