My OH is in hospital in intensive care

geri1965_2

I'm really sorry to hear this. I have no practical advice but I am keeping everything crossed for you and hoping your husband makes a good recovery. x

victory

RuthnJasper wrote: »

Oh sweetheart, I am so, so sorry. Excellent advice in abundance already, all I can add really is to take every moment as it comes, try not to second-guess what might or might not happen, and remember to look after yourself.

You and your family are all in shock, that's only to be expected and it makes it hard to think straight; I cannot imagine how wretched it is for you - I wish there was something I could say to take all this away and make it better for you.

Your OH is in the best place, he is getting the care that he needs. Maybe let your parents/in-laws take over for a bit when they arrive and try and have a nap? As far as your sons go, just hold them and tell them you love them.

Do use opportunities to talk to your OH, even if he seems out of it. Even if it's just simply reading the sports reports from the newspaper aloud to him.

Sending you every good wish and lots of hugs. Our hearts are with you and hoping for the best.

Take care, and I hope things will be OK. xxx

Thank you, you are very kind. Everyone keeps telling me he is in the best place and he is, there is nothing I can do for him apart from keep it together so I am doing mundane things, had a shower, stripped DS bed another nose bleed, done hair, sent son out for milk and paper, phoned people they also he is in the best place, everyone saus the same, I am bonkers shattered so yes maybe let the inlaws deal with it, can't sleep though, keep hearing the phone ring but it is not ringing, everyone keeps on about xmas what a shame xmas I have no interest for xmas and nothing in for it as was going to be away today is what is important not xmas

Part_Mouse

No advise I'm afraid.how awful your all going through this.keeping you all in my thoughts. Xx

MatyMoo

Big hugs to you and you family at this very scary time.

Your husband is in the best place & will be well cared for, he needs to know that you are all there for him but try to remain as calm as you can so you don't frighten him.

I have heard that iPods of favourite music can help to soothe patients but just hearing that his family are around him will help.

Your youngest is probably terrified, seeing his big, strong, lovely, dad in such a vulnerable state is frightening, especially when you don't know what is happening. I am sure the nurses will be happy to explain, in words he can understand, what the machines, tubes, leads etc are doing. Once he understands he will find it easier to deal with.

With so many of you at the hospital there will be a lot of waiting around so maybe take the sunday papers, magazines, pack of cards. I know people won't be able to focus properly but they may help to pass the time a little.

Maybe take some drinks, snacks or sandwiches with you - hospital cafe's can be expensive and not always the nicest

Also talk to the ICU staff, a lot of hospitals will give you a waiver for parking fee's if you are having to be there for a long time.

Good luck to all you and more hugs to see you through the next few days.

victory

jobbingmusician wrote: »

victory, one thing to tell you is that you are doing brilliantly. You have done the perfect thing - analysed the situation, realised that you don't know what to do, come to a forum to ask advice, and ended up with a useful list of advice. Of COURSE you feel upset and all over the place, but you have come up with a strategy. DH will be proud of you. Well done you, and all the best for the next few days while DH's situation hopefully stablilises further and he starts to recover. Keep using the board - there are sensible people on here with good advice - it's easier for us to think things through than it is for you at the moment. Hugs. (((())))

PS RuthnJasper have made a good point. Remember that DH may seem to be unconscious, but hearing is the first sense to come back. Keep talking to DH and reassuring him that he is getting better, and you are there for him.

Thank you, really can use some nice words, I know he would have handled it better than me, he is much more practical and does better than me,
All the docs etc talk to OH and talk to me when he is lying there so it is all out in the open and nothing has to be repeated.

victory

MatyMoo wrote: »

Big hugs to you and you family at this very scary time.

Your husband is in the best place & will be well cared for, he needs to know that you are all there for him but try to remain as calm as you can so you don't frighten him.

I have heard that iPods of favourite music can help to soothe patients but just hearing that his family are around him will help.

Your youngest is probably terrified, seeing his big, strong, lovely, dad in such a vulnerable state is frightening, especially when you don't know what is happening. I am sure the nurses will be happy to explain, in words he can understand, what the machines, tubes, leads etc are doing. Once he understands he will find it easier to deal with.

With so many of you at the hospital there will be a lot of waiting around so maybe take the sunday papers, magazines, pack of cards. I know people won't be able to focus properly but they may help to pass the time a little.

Maybe take some drinks, snacks or sandwiches with you - hospital cafe's can be expensive and not always the nicest

Also talk to the ICU staff, a lot of hospitals will give you a waiver for parking fee's if you are having to be there for a long time.

Good luck to all you and more hugs to see you through the next few days.

Thank you very much, we have coins for the parking meter, just sent son out for the papers,getting youngest to find OH ipod now,

Alikay

No, christmas is irrelevant, but people tend to say these things just for something to say. It doesn't matter a bit if dinner is a supermarket pie with oven chips on the 25th so you can spend more time at your DH's bedside if he's still in hospital.

JustKeepSwimming_2

Lots of good practical advice already on here - I echo the suggestion of socks (sorry, can't remember who suggested it) & take some lip salve if you can. Wards can be quite drying & although his hydration will be being monitored, his lips may feel uncomfortable.

Its a small thing in the grand scheme of his other injuries, but it made a big difference to me when I was recovering from an operation. It is something you can also do for him (assuming ward staff are OK with it).

Best wishes Victory - you are not letting him or anyone else down at all. But you must also look after yourself & your needs too.

victory

Alikay wrote: »

No, christmas is irrelevant, but people tend to say these things just for something to say. It doesn't matter a bit if dinner is a supermarket pie with oven chips on the 25th so you can spend more time at your DH's bedside if he's still in hospital.

Yes I know, xmas to me is irrelevant, youngest is collecting things to put in his dads bag, keeps him busy until we can go and see him, the time is just stalling now

victory

JustKeepSwimming wrote: »

Lots of good practical advice already on here - I echo the suggestion of socks (sorry, can't remember who suggested it) & take some lip salve if you can. Wards can be quite drying & although his hydration will be being monitored, his lips may feel uncomfortable.

Its a small thing in the grand scheme of his other injuries, but it made a big difference to me when I was recovering from an operation. It is something you can also do for him (assuming ward staff are OK with it).

Best wishes Victory - you are not letting him or anyone else down at all. But you must also look after yourself & your needs too.

Got lip balm, his lips looked very dry yesterday, lip balm perfect thank you