My OH is in hospital in intensive care

RuthnJasper

Alikay wrote: »

No, christmas is irrelevant, but people tend to say these things just for something to say. It doesn't matter a bit if dinner is a supermarket pie with oven chips on the 25th so you can spend more time at your DH's bedside if he's still in hospital.

I was going to say something along these lines. The 25th December is one day; you and your family can have your "Christmas" at a later date if needs be.

Plus which, in the broad scheme of things, Christmas is still a couple of weeks away - that's a relatively long time; concentrate on getting through one day at a time, that's more important for now. I'm sure your son's and DH's and your friends will want to help as much as they can. Take their help as offered - they won't be offering just because they feel bad or are only being kind. Let them ease your burden as far as they are able to.

LIke jobbingmusician says, you are doing amazingly well. It's an awful situation - but you are doing brilliantly. Your sons and your DH are lucky to have you.

But don't forget that it is also perfectly OK to just lock yourself in the loo and have a good old cry.

Take care sweetie. xxx

gettingtheresometime

GwylimT wrote: »

Have you called your employer yet, they will need to know approximately when you will be back at work.

Going on from this you'll need to speak to your OH's boss as well to let them know what's happened

victory

Got a notebook and pen now thank you, cold coffee, should get the kids to eat breakfast,

moomoomama27

I'm sorry to hear this, how shocking. But you sound like you're coping excellently to me, do t put too much pressure on yourself.

At this point I would concentrate on yourself and sons with regards to 'stuff'. Your OH will be catered for in the short term, so probably won't need tons of stuff yet. Nothing to stop you prepping a bag though!

I was in with my mum when she was very poorly. It's important to take drinks and snacks for you and sons, change for the coffee machine, etc perhaps loose change for the telephone if needed. Notebook to jot anything down. Stuff to keep son occupied whilst waiting in visitors rooms, books are generally useless, as no one can concentrate but a magazine etc could help.

Best of luck, I hope he makes a very speedy recovery, but you must take care iof yourself in order to be strong for your OH x

victory

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

Going on from this you'll need to speak to your OH's boss as well to let them know what's happened

My eldest is taking care of that, apparently a social worker comes round and gives you all the relevant forms, eldest said he will be in charge of that, rang yesterday so no answer but will do it am tomorrow

gettingtheresometime

victory wrote: »

I don't know about school, he is a very good lad and wants to attend as he knows it is the law but also wants to be with his dad but doesn't want to see his dad like that as last night he lost it completely but I asked him and he said that he chose to come so he will decide or his nan,that is tomorrow, I have no idea what will happen by then.

One solution may be to let him go tomorrow with understanding that the school will be informed of the situation and if your son decides its all too much for him then they will phone you to arrange for him to be picked up?

RuthnJasper

victory wrote: »

My eldest is taking care of that, apparently a social worker comes round and gives you all the relevant forms, eldest said he will be in charge of that, rang yesterday so no answer but will do it am tomorrow

Sounds like you have a really cracking couple of sons there, sensible and practical. Hugs to them as well. x

CruisingSaver

Hi Victory


Sorry to hear what has happened. Another practical thing to add to the list is to ask the staff if the hospital offer a parking permit/season ticket for frequent visitors.


Huge hugs


CS xxxx

Running_On_Empty

Victory, which hospital is he in? Someone on here may just be local and maybe could offer you some practical help in some way. Just a thought.

victory

RuthnJasper wrote: »

I was going to say something along these lines. The 25th December is one day; you and your family can have your "Christmas" at a later date if needs be.

Plus which, in the broad scheme of things, Christmas is still a couple of weeks away - that's a relatively long time; concentrate on getting through one day at a time, that's more important for now. I'm sure your son's and DH's and your friends will want to help as much as they can. Take their help as offered - they won't be offering just because they feel bad or are only being kind. Let them ease your burden as far as they are able to.

LIke jobbingmusician says, you are doing amazingly well. It's an awful situation - but you are doing brilliantly. Your sons and your DH are lucky to have you.

But don't forget that it is also perfectly OK to just lock yourself in the loo and have a good old cry.

Take care sweetie. xxx

I have written down what needs to be done and am delegating, eldest telling OH work, youngest needs a hell of a lot of TLC and nan will help with that, no pets to take care of, got milk, got the list of items for the bag, whether we take it in or not whatever, got coins, got lunch sorted, visiting hours are 5 hours, the hospital is 1 hour away, got to keep moving, xmas is too far away but everyone keeps saying about it, I really don't care aobut that just about my OH