My OH is in hospital in intensive care

seven-day-weekend

victory wrote: »

14, I said no visiting but he wants to, he says he can't just be here when his dad isn't.

But he does need to be calm when he visits his dad. Sitting at his bedside crying is not going to help his dad at all. It's important he knows this, otherwise it is best if he doesn't visit.

Sorry if this sounds harsh,it is not meant to be, just plain speaking xx

victory

GwylimT wrote: »

If you are going to let him visit have a nurse explain what his equipment is for, if he cannot cope he must leave, dad will be able to pick up on stress etc.

No he can't cope and he did leave, he went outside with eldest gf and stayed there until he calmed down and then came back in and then lost it again and then went back outside, since then nose bleeds, pacing, he is asleep now and I intend to keep him that way until the last possible moment before grand parents arrive

victory

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

But he does need to be calm when he visits his dad. Sitting at his bedside crying is not going to help his dad at all. It's important he knows this, otherwise it is best if he doesn't visit.

Sorry if this sounds harsh,it is not meant to be, just plain speaking xx

Yes he does but he couldn't and left then came back and then left and finally we were asked to leave and come back

victory

torbrex wrote: »

Most CCU try to limit number of visitors to a bed at one time so if you are taking your boys be prepared to wait in the family room and let mum & dad visit ahead of them if need be.
Take guidance from the nurses as to what you need to do, they are there to help you through this as well as your husband.

Yes there are 2 to a bed so his parents can go straight in today

GwylimT

victory wrote: »

No he can't cope and he did leave, he went outside with eldest gf and stayed there until he calmed down and then came back in and then lost it again and then went back outside, since then nose bleeds, pacing, he is asleep now and I intend to keep him that way until the last possible moment before grand parents arrive

If he was mine I would not let him go to hospital today, it is clear he isn't ready to be there, he will also put too much stress on you and your husband. If he is the same again the hospital can stop visits for a few hours if they believe the situation is unhealthy for your husband.

harrys_nan

Hi victory,
You have had a lot of good advice, If you stay calm that will reflect onto your son, you have to put your husband first now and if that means your son cannot go in to see him, so be it. Have you a friend that can come around and sit with you until the in laws arrive?
I am really sorry to hear your husband is so poorly but he is in the best place possible, thinking of you xx

victory

harrys_nan wrote: »

Hi victory,
You have had a lot of good advice, If you stay calm that will reflect onto your son, you have to put your husband first now and if that means your son cannot go in to see him, so be it. Have you a friend that can come around and sit with you until the in laws arrive?
I am really sorry to hear your husband is so poorly but he is in the best place possible, thinking of you xx

My eldest is up now and his gf is in the shower

Alikay

Maybe tell a friendly neighbour - get their phone number, so you can contact them easily if you need and give them a spare key in case someone needs to get in to feed/let out pets whilst you're up and down to hospital in next few days.

Do a quick inventory of grocery essentials so someone can get them for you if you need anything. Oh and charge all your mobiles: Nothing worse than not being able to speak to people when you need them because your phone's died. Cash is also handy for taxis, parking and takeaways, along with a full petrol tank (assuming you drive).

If you write down what you need to do, it'll be better than carrying it round in your head. Then go and lay on your bed - you may not sleep, but the physical rest will be beneficial.

I do hope your DH will be OK...

victory

Alikay wrote: »

Maybe tell a friendly neighbour - get their phone number, so you can contact them easily if you need and give them a spare key in case someone needs to get in to feed/let out pets whilst you're up and down to hospital in next few days.

Do a quick inventory of grocery essentials so someone can them for you if you need anything. Oh and charge all your mobiles: Nothing worse than not being able to speak to people when you need them because your phone's died. Cash is also handy for taxis, parking and takeaways, along with a full petrol tank (assuming you drive).

If you write down what you need to do, it'll be better than carrying it round in your head. Then go and lay on your bed - you may not sleep, but the physical rest will be beneficial.

I do hope your DH will be OK...

We need milk, I will get eldest to get that, I am going for a shower after his gf has finished, I have got some coins for the parking, my eldest is driving me there or my husbands parents when they get here, my eldest drove us yesterday

victory

Parents have just rang, they are going to be 4 hours, they are on their way