My OH is in hospital in intensive care

In_Debt_Bet

I just wanted to add my very best wishes, you are doing an amazing job of holding everything together x

duchy

Such a lot has happened in a week and you have coped.
When things settle you will look back on this week and wonder how on earth you coped but you have done ......

The medical insurance will be a godsend later on - for now he's best with full NHS but once he's ready to go onto a ward he may prefer the privacy a private bed will offer compared to a ward. At this point you just need to contact the insurance company and find out what he is covered for so when the time comes you can make informed decisions .

This may sound funny but I know you sometimes get into a flap over the smaller stuff and I just want to tell you how proud of you I am that you are coping so well and are the rock holding the family together. You will look back later at this time and wonder how you did it-but when the going gets rough we get through it.......even if later we have no idea how we managed it. You have a lot to be proud of.

victory

Morning, thank you for all the good wishes, much appreciated, going to take the day off today, mentioned it to the inlaws and am being looked at as if I have just become an alien, can't think, see for tiredness, function correctly and thought as people have suggested that the trip is quite something to get there to see him for all of five minutes sometimes, I would take a visit off but it has gone down very badly.

The hospital says they are going to try to move OH by ambulance closer to here so thought it would be ok to not go today but apparently not.

mum2one we did ask but they said one step at a time, that if they moved him then they would give all the information required at the time.

sooty&sweep I suggested to take a day of visiting but it did not go down very well.

All other relatives, friends etc have been told to stand down as if the move closer to home comes it will be much easier to get to and some are coming from a very long away, being kept updated via in laws daily, a few really want to come either way so inlaws are seeing what happens with those.

The inlaws want to go as soon as their son is out of CCU and moved to home, they want to go back home and then come back in a week or two, I think they miss home their friends, their life, their way of doing things, nan says she cannot sit in her house knowing her son is in CCU but when he is transported she will be able to.

spirit Scraping through each day pretty much sums it up, sleep needed greatly but does not come, eating yes, drinking loads of coffee, it is pretty grim.

thorosoak thank you.


duchy Yes true this is in a whole league of its own though, we will get there in the end, we just need him moved closer and then pretty much normality can resume, albeit OH not be here but it will be close enough to keep on top of things and maybe get some rest and sleep

duchy

You know what ..... If they think you ending up in hospital too through exhaustion is a good idea - Stuff em !

You do what is right for you and your family.
If you need a day off -take it.

Stripes_The_Elephant

Still following this thread - sending my good wishes to you all and wishing your husband a speedy recovery, Stripes xx

Mojisola

victory wrote: »

Morning, thank you for all the good wishes, much appreciated, going to take the day off today, mentioned it to the inlaws and am being looked at as if I have just become an alien, can't think, see for tiredness, function correctly and thought as people have suggested that the trip is quite something to get there to see him for all of five minutes sometimes, I would take a visit off but it has gone down very badly.

sooty&sweep I suggested to take a day of visiting but it did not go down very well.

It doesn't matter a jot what others think - they are going to head home soon but you're in for the long haul and have got to protect your own health so that you can be there for your OH.

Errata

Please do ignore what other people think you should be doing, they aren't and can't walk in your shoes, and talk is cheap.
Maintaining your health and strength and not being permanently exhausted is important, because when people are completely knackered they can make mistakes, and you need to be alert for your sake and for the sake of you OH and boys.
It's really good to read how much progress he is making, and thank you for all your updates.

Mojisola

Errata wrote: »

Please do ignore what other people think you should be doing, they aren't and can't walk in your shoes, and talk is cheap.
Maintaining your health and strength and not being permanently exhausted is important, because when people are completely knackered they can make mistakes, and you need to be alert for your sake and for the sake of you OH and boys.

Absolutley right - driving when you are overtired is as dangerous as when you're drunk - please look after yourself and grow a thick skin so you can ignore the people who don't approve of your decisions.

Mrshaworth2b

Explain to your in laws that when he is moved they will be going home and not visiting everyday so they will want an update from you and if you are this tired and not allowed one day off you will be of no use to them when they go home. I'm sure they'll re think it then. Failing that, stand your ground, remind them your oh is in the best place and you cannot help him other than be there for him and one day is not going to change, your children need you to be able to function, they're very selfish putting this on you.

All the best

harrys_nan

victory, if your in-laws don't want him to not have any visitors for the 1 day, tell them to stay longer so they can go and visit your hubby after all he is their son. You do really need to have a rest because your in this for the long haul not just a visit to the hospital each day, you need to be
fit for when he comes home, x