My OH is in hospital in intensive care

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Hi Victory,

...stepping out of lurkdom to wish you the very best.

I was very little when I got introduced into the wonders of ITU. The doctors and nurses are the best. My dad was in there for quite a while. It was a long slog for all of us but we got there in the end.

All I can say is, pleas take care of yourself and your boys, eat and sleep if feasible.

Idea xxx

mum2one

Victory - That is brilliant news, every 1 line that comes out its a major victory.

Sounds like it could be a 3 month stay, there downgrade usually to hdu (dad only did 1 night in there) then to ward, and rehabilition and phyiso etc on the ward.

Insurances -
if he has a loan, credit card, ring the individual companies first, there be able to tell you whether he has any ppi plans on them individually.

Next - go bank statement and see if there are any payments that you dont recognise but come out monthly, then google search, get a number and ring from there.

sick pay - all companies have different policies and procedures, some will give full pay for a period of time then ssp, - ring and ask if there is a HR dept, - if smaller business ask the bosses.

Sorry to be personal - are you working, just thinking of yourself re time off etc.

Thats good news that the inlaws are staying on,

Again another gd point, is that everyone dealing with different parts and relaying back to each other.

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What we did when dad was in hospital, was grab a note book, work out the incomings and outgoings for the month, when x,y,z, has to be paid and what left, food etc.
with us, my mum doesn't deal with the banking, they have the old fashioned set u, man does it all, and she had a mini stroke 5 yrs ago, taken its toll slightly, they dont even know how to use a computer. I got them set up for online banking, and monitor the account that, even thou dad is at home, weve been told 18mth recovery period, (without chemo, jabs etc), so I glance an eye over.

whilst you have the inlaws take time to get a system going, make sure all get at least 1 day off a week.

What we did when dad was on the ward, the visiting was 2/3pm, 6 to 8, but as we had the journey, as long as the docs werent about, we could do semi flexible, so we use to get there 1.30pm, stay till 5.30pm, inbetween times go and get a coffee, fresh air, wonder round the shop, so that he had a break as well as us. One of his friends was in the area staying and popped in 1 ngt, that was a godsend to us, if in the future does offer to visit him, grab it.

Glad the chapel gave you a rest, it was weird right by the hospital was a beautiful church, the outside was stunning, apparently the inner was all marble, my parents took me when i was a kid, it sounds daft but i made a point of taking the church route, at the most I added on 500 metres, but just seeing the church was a lifeline.

I promised myself I would stop and visit it, yet i haven't yet, daft, but get there.

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About not remembering what happens in itu, - there was a bloke who had been in itu for 3 weeks, the 3rd week was when dad had arrived, we got talking to his wife, and the other lady (sister in law) he had been in an induced coma, they had been bringing him round. He didn't recognise is wife, he kept shouting at her to go and was declaring undying love for the sister in law, it was weird as he went to HDU, then dad followed, then the ward, dad followed, he was discharged, dad went 2 days later..

Dad was really abrubt and short tempered, I lost count the number of times he had my DD in tears, he shouted at nurses, me, even mum, we were expected to be mine readers, - he demanded Vimto, (we did take in the next day), then he changed his mind and wanted lemon and lime water, it had to a certain brand, - all tings they dont remember, its getting a tough skin.

You take care, - if there is anything I can do, or you need a chat, or a question, and I can help, just pm me xx

whitewing

Thinking of you and yours, victory.

ljonski

Wishing your OH a speedy recovery and heres hoping its all getting better from hereonin!

victory

The hospital have just rang, they are moving OH from CCU one to one care to CCU 2 to 1 care, this morning so when we get there not to be alarmed.

victory

mum2one thank you so much, no loans, 2 bank accounts of his so going today jus to check O/D etc, all direct debits already set up, everything comes out that way, will get the form from the hospital today for the sick pay, he has privalte health insurance from the company but have no clue about that.

Private could never have done any better than the way the trauma team are treating him, faultless.

The hospital says he had a very rough night, a lot of shouting and being aggresive but that is to be expected.

No, not working myself at the moment.

The inlaws are staying the duration now, some other relatives are coming at the weekend.

torbrex

victory wrote: »

The hospital have just rang, they are moving OH from CCU one to one care to CCU 2 to 1 care, this morning so when we get there not to be alarmed.

Is that less care or more care?
I'm never sure

Here's hoping for a good day and progress made for OH :T

spirit

victory wrote: »

mum2one thank you so much, no loans, 2 bank accounts of his so going today jus to check O/D etc, all direct debits already set up, everything comes out that way, will get the form from the hospital today for the sick pay, he has privalte health insurance from the company but have no clue about that.

Private could never have done any better than the way the trauma team are treating him, faultless.

The hospital says he had a very rough night, a lot of shouting and being aggresive but that is to be expected.

No, not working myself at the moment.

The inlaws are staying the duration now, some other relatives are coming at the weekend.

Re the bit in bold, can you get the other set of rellies who are coming to muck in and help with home chores/shopping. The last thing you need is to be running round entertaining people.

pinkteapot

victory wrote: »

he has privalte health insurance from the company but have no clue about that.

Private could never have done any better than the way the trauma team are treating him, faultless.

I found with my hubby that the NHS emergency care is absolutely second to none. A&E and CCUs are brilliant when people are seriously ill/injured.

Unfortunately we did find that the care was less than stellar on normal wards (not the fault of the frontline staff - they're woefully under-resourced). With your hubby's private health insurance from work, you should have the option to move your hubby to a private hospital. Obviously only when he's well enough to move!

See how you get on. Once he's out of critical care and on a normal ward, if you think he'd get better care and rehabilitation in a private hospital then that should be an option for you. Just something for you and the family to be aware of when the time comes.

carrie78

Sending you hugs. Just wanted to say on my work private medical care they pay a fixed amount for any nights spent in a nhs hospital. I think when I claimed (2008) there was a maximum of 30 nights they paid for. It might be worth asking his work for a contact number for the private healthcare to check with them.
I had to claim for this and they just sent me a form to fill in and get signed/ stamped by the hospital.

Carrie