My OH is in hospital in intensive care

victory

harrys_nan wrote: »

That's the spirit my girl, keep those positive thoughts going.
I really wish i lived by you to to try and help in any way I could as it is all I can do is keep you in my thoughts and wish your hubby a speedy recovery,
(((Hugs))) for all of you

I so wish you did to, paddling in treacle springs to mind.

victory

busiscoming2 wrote: »

That is a positive step. Thinking of you still. x

Thank you, it changes so fast but still tomorrow is coming and when we go hopefully he will have less pipes, tubes, etc etc and take it from there.

marisco_2

Thinking of you all and hoping that your husband will make a good recovery.

tootallulah

Hi Victory, you are doing brilliantly, your different people talking to different medics sounds like a good plan to get a bigger picture. Shock makes your brain like treacle but you are doing all the right things.

JanCee

Sorry to hear about your DH. I just want to say that I have also been in the same position, CCU for a week, deteriorating condition. One day as I parked my car & walked up to the ward I thought I might have to make a life changing decision, turning off life support, instead there was a slight improvement. The improvement was tiny, but it continued day after day until after a month he was able to come home. He is sat next to me at the moment, snoring away after slightly too much vino & a long & tiring day.

I hope you get there too.

victory

JanCee wrote: »

Sorry to hear about your DH. I just want to say that I have also been in the same position, CCU for a week, deteriorating condition. One day as I parked my car & walked up to the ward I thought I might have to make a life changing decision, turning off life support, instead there was a slight improvement. The improvement was tiny, but it continued day after day until after a month he was able to come home. He is sat next to me at the moment, snoring away after slightly too much vino & a long & tiring day.

I hope you get there too.

Thank you, I know we are still hoping and praying and waiting but there is an internal settling, no op now if it continues to settle, his mum can't settle and is not going anywhere unless he comes out of CCU, we are waiting, we know it will be long and 3 months was bandied about but then 6 weeks then 4 weeks and now back to 3 months it goes day by day, x rays, ultra sounds, blood transfusions, drips, morfin, lines in, oxygen, he is in the best place he could possibly be and his team have been fantastic.

victory

marisco wrote: »

Thinking of you all and hoping that your husband will make a good recovery.

We have been told he has been very aggresive and screaming, to be expected they say and they are used to it so it does not phase the medical team, I heard him scream and flail around and it nearly broke me, can't praise the medical team enough, they are so calm and used to it.

pinkteapot

Of the admin list, I'd speak to DH's work first and find out how much sick pay he'll get. May be full normal pay for a good amount of time, but at least then you know how much will be coming in. The work will need a sick note which the hospital can provide (actually called a fit note these days).

Does his salary get paid into a joint account so you'll have the money?

victory

pinkteapot wrote: »

Of the admin list, I'd speak to DH's work first and find out how much sick pay he'll get. May be full normal pay for a good amount of time, but at least then you know how much will be coming in. The work will need a sick note which the hospital can provide (actually called a fit note these days).

Does his salary get paid into a joint account so you'll have the money?

Yes it does, do I just ask the hospital for a fit note? When does it start from monday last until he goes back to work? Is it half pay? I don't know anything about it, never having been here before?

Errata

Sorry the screaming upset you, he doesn't know what he's doing, try and take it in your stride as part of his recovery.