my husband is having an affair

Caroline_a

Unfortunately, no matter who funded the house after this time period it will be classed as the marital home, and all negotiations will start at 50-50... she will of course have the children to house. However, at some point he will need to have his part from the equity I'm afraid.

OP hope you are ok, and bearing up well. Stay strong...

thorsoak

Caroline_a wrote: »

Unfortunately, no matter who funded the house after this time period it will be classed as the marital home, and all negotiations will start at 50-50... she will of course have the children to house. However, at some point he will need to have his part from the equity I'm afraid.

OP hope you are ok, and bearing up well. Stay strong...

OP : have you already spoken with your lying cheating husband? If you have not done so yet, in view of the advice that he would be entitled to claim on your house, might I suggest some subterfuge? Transfer your house into your sister's name ..................provided of course, that you can trust her! And do this before confronting him.

I'm honestly not convinced that this would work to your advantage - but the threat might be sufficient to dissuade him from going after the house.

meritaten

put your house in Trust for the kids - then kick him out!

ampersand

op - I won't repeat the essential elements from what you have been advised here[ignore the nonsense].

But #25 needs a re-think: I will withdraw this and give it to my sister for safe keeping, also in ref, to important documents - 'the house, finances and things like that '

Instead of giving them to your sister, I strongly advise you to lodge them, including passports, with your new Bank, when you open your new a/c. This is wiser for you and your sister.

Do this tomorrow. regardless of how things shake down.

thorsoak

meritaten wrote: »

put your house in Trust for the kids - then kick him out!

Ignore my advice - and follow Meri's advice - that really makes sense - and I don't think that it would raise legal problems.

Guest101

meritaten wrote: »

put your house in Trust for the kids - then kick him out!

Op don't do this. This will back fire. The courts will see this as deprivation of assets. The house is a joint asset, it is no longer yours to do this with, sorry.

Pollycat

tomtontom wrote: »

Sorry to be negative, but it's not just her house. Given the time they have been together he will have a constructive interest in the house. I agree with those saying the OP should not leave the house (unless she has concerns for her safety) but she should be aware that he will have a legitimate claim to a proportion of the value.

I've just read this thread through for the first time.

I must admit, I was a bit surprised that some posters were telling the OP that 'it's her house, she'll keep it' - especially after a marriage of 14 years.

I don't actually know the legal position but I've read lots of posts on here advising a wife in the opposite situation that she'll be entitled to a share of the house.

So I'm confused how that works.

I think the best thing the OP can do is get herself some good legal advice on her situation.

Good luck, OP.

Guest101

Pollycat wrote: »

I've just read this thread through for the first time.

I must admit, I was a bit surprised that some posters were telling the OP that 'it's her house, she'll keep it' - especially after a marriage of 14 years.

I don't actually know the legal position but I've read lots of posts on here advising a wife in the opposite situation that she'll be entitled to a share of the house.

So I'm confused how that works.

I think the best thing the OP can do is get herself some good legal advice on her situation.

Good luck, OP.

Unfortunately a vocal minority of 'feminists' believe their morals supersede the law.

Absolutely agree about getting good legal advice. 14 years is a long time. This would not come under short marriages where couples are placed back into their pre marriage position.

PeacefulWaters

The courts can and do ring fence inheritance before distributing assets in a divorce.

Get a good solicitor.

Angry_Bear

Guest101 wrote: »

Unfortunately a vocal minority of 'feminists' believe their morals supersede the law.

I agree with almost everything you've said on this thread, but this is ridiculous! There's nothing wrong with being a feminist, and it's not the same a being a misandrist. Feminism is about equality and the people on this thread claiming the OP can keep all marital assets are definitley NOT doing this because of feminism. Stop confusing the issue.

Absolutely agree about getting good legal advice. 14 years is a long time. This would not come under short marriages where couples are placed back into their pre marriage position.

This however, is excellent advice.