Am I right to be offended?

DUKE

Never ever insult the host/ess! I'd be furious, & if I ever cooked for him again, I'd spit in his food!

BitterAndTwisted

He's a disrespectful and foul-mouthed swine, having caused offence on purpose. He's now compounding said disrespect by insisting the OP gets over herself several days later about something she's perfectly entitled to feel whether or not there was any justification. Possibly because he knows he was unreasonable and downright ruddy rude but is too arrogant and pig-headed to admit it. Or he's found a handy stick to beat her with and is enjoying himself.

Either way, he should be cooking his own meals from now on

peachyprice

Geniune question, I am intrigued, do people who do the cooking on this thread just cook what they fancy without any discussion with their partner/family about what they want for dinner that night and expect them to eat it?

balletshoes

peachyprice wrote: »

Geniune question, I am intrigued, do people who do the cooking on this thread just cook what they fancy without any discussion with their partner/family about what they want for dinner that night and expect them to eat it?

no, i usually ask what we all fancy from whatevers in the house, and go with the majority vote .

Buzzybee90

peachyprice wrote: »

Geniune question, I am intrigued, do people who do the cooking on this thread just cook what they fancy without any discussion with their partner/family about what they want for dinner that night and expect them to eat it?

Yes, but not something we hadn't had before. My boyfriend will eat practically anything though so it wouldn't be too much trouble.

BitterAndTwisted

People get to choose what to have for dinner if they have taken part in the budgeting, the planning and the shopping for the week's meals already. It's all very well saying you don't want this, that or the other thing if all your contribution has been is to sit on your @rse while someone else has done the boring grunt-work but that doesn't get the family fed.

Armchair critics can sod off down the chippy and fend for themselves!

Georgiegirl256

peachyprice wrote: »

Geniune question, I am intrigued, do people who do the cooking on this thread just cook what they fancy without any discussion with their partner/family about what they want for dinner that night and expect them to eat it?

Good point actually.

We always consult each other. We usually cook from scratch and so have fresh ingredients in that could be used to make a few different meals....we decide together what meal to have that evening due to what we fancy or how hungry we're feeling etc.

To just start cooking something that the other doesn't fancy might end up with it being wasted or someone might have fancied something different that night. Surely it's only polite to consult the other person?

I can't believe people would eat something they dont really fancy or don't like just to keep peace with their partner. It isn't being rude to state that you don't like something.

lostinrates

peachyprice wrote: »

Geniune question, I am intrigued, do people who do the cooking on this thread just cook what they fancy without any discussion with their partner/family about what they want for dinner that night and expect them to eat it?

Mixture, but basically yes.


I meal plan usually, so we have meals roughly planned in advance. If someone says ...you know what , I really don't fancy that tonight if there is flexibility I go with it. However something might have been defrosted and be difficult to alter much. E.g. If I have defrosts chicken we'll have to eat it pretty quickly.


Its not just 'what I fancy ' though. Its pretty well thought out to what meets their tastes, and needs ( one has dietary requirements) and I make my dietary requirements bend round that. We also eat pretty seasonally generally but not religiously. And we sometimes have 'fend for your self' days ( all adults) where choice can be made for ourselves. But over the week and month I would think about how often we'd eaten red meat/fish/oily fish variety of veg etc. making it enjoyable is a priority, but the idea of what we fancy is that generally its the idea to get excited about what we are going to have.

pickledonionspaceraider

b_girl wrote: »

It wasn't a new dish though, as OP said she'd made it a few times before and seemingly her OH and sons had eaten it without a problem.

ahh I had not ready that, infuriating if the meal has been eaten previously

If it were me, i'd consider it not worth making a big deal of, i'd not consider it a dig at me

shegirl

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

People get to choose what to have for dinner if they have taken part in the budgeting, the planning and the shopping for the week's meals already. It's all very well saying you don't want this, that or the other thing if all your contribution has been is to sit on your @rse while someone else has done the boring grunt-work but that doesn't get the family fed.

Armchair critics can sod off down the chippy and fend for themselves!

What if it's someone who has spent the day grinding away at work to earn the money that you then buy the food with? Or is that not considered a 'contribution'?