Am I right to be offended?

Vicky123

Marisco wrote: »

Maybe if the op had replied to his "I don't like this" with "don't eat it then, leave it", instead of the dramatics, then this ongoing argument could have been avoided. Unless there is something else going on here that we are not privy to.

Probably something we're not privvy to, there are loads of jokey ways round dodgy recipe, my guess is her dramatics were because of him, doubt she fell to pieces over one incident, most especially when you consider the older kids who apparently were just fine till he complained. Anyway, enough of this detective stuff from me, have plenty troubles of my own.;)

Marisco

Vicky123 wrote: »

Probably something we're not privvy to, there are loads of jokey ways round dodgy recipe, my guess is her dramatics were because of him, doubt she fell to pieces over one incident, most especially when you consider the older kids who apparently were just fine till he complained. Anyway, enough of this detective stuff from me, have plenty troubles of my own.;)

Aye, like most of the threads, either half a story or it all comes out piecemeal!

missprice

Nicki wrote: »

I think they are both at fault sorry.

The OP served up a meal which her husband didn't like and after eating some of it , he put down his cutlery and said "sorry I don't like this" to explain why he wasn't finishing it in a household where the expectation apparently is that you must clean your plate.

What then happened though was OP put her head in her hands QUOTE]

Would agree with the bit where hubby didn't like the meal, fair enough, so why not say something the last 2 times it was served.

Although I think head in hands is a bit of an overreaction too, I don't think its so bad, as in could have been much worse. She too may have had enough that day but instead of swearing, she put head in hands. No huge deal really certainly not enough to then warrant her food being implied as !!!!.

I too have cooked some not amazing food before, but people have told me nicely that they disliked it and I did not make it again. They never waited til the third attempt to let me know.

Oh and teens and veggies, agree its too late now to make them eat veggies.:)

shegirl

Vicky123 wrote: »

Probably something we're not privvy to, there are loads of jokey ways round dodgy recipe, my guess is her dramatics were because of him, doubt she fell to pieces over one incident, most especially when you consider the older kids who apparently were just fine till he complained. Anyway, enough of this detective stuff from me, have plenty troubles of my own.;)

Until he complained or until they could see their mothers over reaction?


If it was as he said he didn't like it (and there is no chance of the kids thinking 'here we go, mum is going to turn dramalama again') perhaps it's because they were suffering it, really didn't want to and felt relieved when their dad said something? Considering they were half way through when their mother and little sister had cleared their plates I would guess that they were suffering it!

gettingtheresometime

cbrown372 wrote: »

My Mum once decided to cook chicken in a white sauce which none of us particularly liked and the remains were put down for the dog. (no waste)

An hour later while watching tv the dog came through and was sick all over the place, Dad quietly said "see even the dog didn't like it"

Oh how we laughed about that chicken dish for years :rotfl:

OH has said that about my cooking on many occasions!

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Time for the three fussy eaters to take on responsibility for their food choices from now on, then.

I've had somebody throw tantrums over food before. The most spectacular was the one where there were the wrong number of ingredients on the plate - apparently, a meal is only a meal when it has three items or above, all must be clearly identified and vegetables do not count in the tally , they were only there as a garnish. One look at the plate and it got tipped onto the floor. Not because they had an Autism related condition, but because they were an abusive moron. He usually called it a plate of s.H.I.t.

Was the last time I ever put any effort into cooking. And the number of times the food on his plate (with the stipulated number of ingredients) happened to have fallen on the kitchen floor or accidentally got stirred with the fork I'd just dished up the cat's dinner with, was quite remarkable - especially as it never happened before I had dished up the kids ' meals. Just as well he left soon afterwards.


Just in case anybody wondered, I am a good cook. As the very appreciative boyfriend I have now acknowledges. It may be that there are meals he isn't so keen on, but he wouldn't dream of making a fuss, never mind refusing to eat them.


So I'd be inclined to cook whatever myself and the non fussy one wanted and then, when it's not wanted, not put head in hands, just shrug ' OK ' - but not offer to cook anything else, not have any snacks available and ensure that all ingredients for other meals were still firmly frozen.

pickledonionspaceraider

You tried a new dish, and no one liked it, that's all. This has happened in my household in a couple of occasions, and I have just told them if they want something else, they know where the kitchen is.

Don't let it become something it is not, OP, it is not a dig at you. I don't think you are right to be offended, relax about it

chucknorris

MissOptimistic wrote: »

Hi everyone

Am I right to be offended, or just really oversensitive?

You should not be offended at all, he is entitled to his opinion and if the food you gave your family was that awful he is right to forcefully say so, in fact he should have thrown it in the bin. Only joking of course, there are ways and means of sayings things. I cook all of our meals (well 75% of them at least, as my wife does her own meals when I cook chicken and prawn curry for myself (she likes it but is allergic). If I was in his position I would have said later at a better time, rather when actually eating it, that I didn't enjoy it, I would have eaten it the time, even if I didn't particularly like it.

b_girl

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

You tried a new dish, and no one liked it, that's all. This has happened in my household in a couple of occasions, and I have just told them if they want something else, they know where the kitchen is.

Don't let it become something it is not, OP, it is not a dig at you. I don't think you are right to be offended, relax about it

It wasn't a new dish though, as OP said she'd made it a few times before and seemingly her OH and sons had eaten it without a problem.

seven-day-weekend

My husband is the cook in our family. I eat what is put in front of me without comment (other than to praise it) as he is good enough to cook it for me. If I really haven't liked something I just later say something like 'that was just a bit too peppery for me' or something like that.

So yes, I do think he was disrespectful, certainly the bad language was wrong, the head in hands was an overreaction.....

.....however to still be falling out about it two days later makes me wonder about other aspects of the OP's relationship.