Am I right to be offended?

Nicki

peachyprice wrote: »

Geniune question, I am intrigued, do people who do the cooking on this thread just cook what they fancy without any discussion with their partner/family about what they want for dinner that night and expect them to eat it?

I cook 5 nights out of 7 and buy all the groceries for the week. My husband cooks one night and chooses what to cook from the ingredients available as does my 14 year old son. On the other nights if they are around when I start cooking I may ask them but I would not go out of my way to. I usually get in at around 7.30 and need to do bath and story with the two younger kids before I can start cooking and my husband isn't usually back until 8.30ish so if he had to be consulted we'd be eating at midnight. If I ask what people fancy eating next week when doing the online grocery order they have no idea

Having said that if I cooked something and they said they didn't like it, that would be fine and they could go and make themselves a sandwich or some cereal. Or if I could see they weren't really enjoying it I would be unlikely to serve it up again.

I'm trying to think of a situation where I wouldn't be cross if my husband rolled his eyes or put his head in his hands (other than obviously joking) at one if my faults or foibles and I genuinely can't think of one. I'd react badly as the OPs husband did to that I'm afraid especially if it was done in front of the children.

FatVonD

I wouldn't deliberately cook something my husband would never consider eating (or if I did I would plan for him to have pizza, which I don't like, while myself and DS were eating something that we both like but DH doesn't.)

Things like, for instance, roast dinner, which DH has eaten before but just gets a bit bored with because a) it's not spicy enough or b) he doesn't like anything oily (I have to pat his roast potatoes down with a kitchen towel!) which is my DS's favourite meal then I'm afraid DH just has to put up with it occasionally.

splishsplash

peachyprice wrote: »

Geniune question, I am intrigued, do people who do the cooking on this thread just cook what they fancy without any discussion with their partner/family about what they want for dinner that night and expect them to eat it?

I don't usually have a lot of discussion these days - we are all adults and by now I know well what the others like and don't like.
If one of us doesn't like what I've chosen, I usually just pull something different out for them, or they can cook something quick for themselves.
We're all pretty easy to please for the most part though, so it's not a big chore to do that.

KxMx

I live with Mum and do the majority of the cooking. I usually mention what I am thinking of making for myself and ask does she fancy that. If yes then I cook for two if not she gets what she wants.

valk_scot

peachyprice wrote: »

Geniune question, I am intrigued, do people who do the cooking on this thread just cook what they fancy without any discussion with their partner/family about what they want for dinner that night and expect them to eat it?

I wish! No, I've got four people to cook for every night and they all have their preferences and dislikes. I utterly refuse to cook four different things every night which is what would happen if I asked them what they fancied every day. So I make a menu plan that involves everyone getting a favourite dish at least once a week but that also avoids as many as possible of the most hated meals, unless the person that hates it is going to be out. No one gets their favourites all the time but everyone gets them some of the time. If someone really doesn't fancy what's on the menu that night they can leave part or all of it and have cereal or something instead. No drama.

C_Mababejive

Only read the first two pages. He sounds like a bully to me. What a terrible way to behave.

Indie_Kid

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Do you cook for mum?

Not sure why it matters; but no. My disabilities make cooking a meal impossible for various reasons. And it would mean needing mum to do virtually everything.

Mum usually works in the evening now; so dad does tea. I will normally choose (or try to. I never know what I want) Unless there's food already cooked in the fridge. (leftover Sunday Roast, curry, meatballs, etc)

Buzzybee90

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Not sure why it matters; but no. My disabilities make cooking a meal impossible for various reasons. And it would mean needing mum to do virtually everything.

Mum usually works in the evening now; so dad does tea. I will normally choose (or try to. I never know what I want) Unless there's food already cooked in the fridge. (leftover Sunday Roast, curry, meatballs, etc)

Because I wondered if it was the same if roles reversed -despite us all being adults parents often do the looking after, no matter how old we get.

Vikipollard

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

People get to choose what to have for dinner if they have taken part in the budgeting, the planning and the shopping for the week's meals already. It's all very well saying you don't want this, that or the other thing if all your contribution has been is to sit on your @rse while someone else has done the boring grunt-work but that doesn't get the family fed.

Armchair critics can sod off down the chippy and fend for themselves!

^^ This!

shegirl wrote: »

What if it's someone who has spent the day grinding away at work to earn the money that you then buy the food with? Or is that not considered a 'contribution'?

I meal plan, shop and cook from scratch what I had in mind. DH opts out of joining me for that foray each week. It's an onerous enough task without making it that he has to join in by proxy by asking what he wants made.


I also work full time, as long hours as my DH. If he gets home before me (which isn't very often), he has the choice of what to make with the ingredients, and I am grateful (even if it's not what I'd planned). If he doesn't, he is happy to eat what I have made. Should that not be the case, he would be welcome to make his own meal

balletshoes

Vikipollard wrote: »

^^ This!




I meal plan, shop and cook from scratch what I had in mind. DH opts out of joining me for that foray each week. It's an onerous enough task without making it that he has to join in by proxy by asking what he wants made.


I also work full time, as long hours as my DH. If he gets home before me (which isn't very often), he has the choice of what to make with the ingredients, and I am grateful (even if it's not what I'd planned). If he doesn't, he is happy to eat what I have made. Should that not be the case, he would be welcome to make his own meal

I really really don't enjoy my OH coming food shopping with me, and I'm really really glad he tends not to - as he fills the trolley with enough food for 12 for a month (there are 3 of us in the house), without once considering where we're going to put it all!