Am I right to be offended?

MissOptimistic

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*max*

I would have been extremely offended too, and he'd have been told in no uncertain terms that he can prepare his own meals from now on (and he might have got to wear his plate as a hat too!). What a horrible thing to say. I'm offended on your behalf!

aggypanthus

Offended? I'd be bloomin furious at him! Firstly for being so childish in saying he didnt like it, in front of the kids, and bring so rude.
In our house, if we dont like whatever food,
We just compare, marks out of ten, as joke, or say, well it was ok, but I wouldnt want it again!

yes, I would've taken offence too, as for describing as shttt in frnt of the kids, what an idiot

mich13x

You should absolutely be offended, the manner in which your husband refused his food was ungrateful and disrespectful and not at all an example he should be setting his children. You should make him cook his own tea in future, what a rude person.

woolythoughts

Offended at the language possibly but then a lot would depend on the tone in which it was said. I don't have kids so can't comment on the kids aspect of it.

However, i personally would be glad he told you he didn't like it. I have the opposite problem where hubby tries not to tell me he doesn't like something which means it gets cooked again.

Not helpful I know but a lot really does depend on the tone.

Janepig

*max* wrote: »

I would have been extremely offended too, and he'd have been told in no uncertain terms that he can prepare his own meals from now on (and he might have got to wear his plate as a hat too!). What a horrible thing to say. I'm offended on your behalf!

This ^^

And I hope he's making his own $ hitty meals from now on.

Jx

Kim_kim

Childish behaviour in front of the children.
I wouldn't be cooking for someone who was so ungrateful.
Tell him to cook for himself in future.

peachyprice

I don't think there's anything wrong in saying he didn't like it, I wouldn't want to sit and eat a plate of food I didn't like and you putting your head in your hands was a complete over-reaction. All you had to do was say you wouldn't cook it for him again.

I would however be pee'd off with him for using the 's' word at the dinner table in front of the children, he could have used another food like tripe or something he know you don't like as a comparison.

Do you meal plan together, does he have a say in what you're going to buy and cook for the week or do you just put whatever you fancy in front of him?

The biggest question is why is this still an issue 2 days later?

j.e.j.

What didn't he like, then?

I wouldn't have thought you'd dish up a meal knowing someone didn't like one or more of the ingredients in it, so what was his problem with the meal?

The only time I've not eaten a meal that someone's cooked for me is if I COULDN'T eat it, eg the rice was undercooked and tasted like stones, or if someone served up chicken livers!

lika_86

It sounds like you're both winding each other up to be honest.

First, he responded reasonably enough with 'sorry, but I don't like it', your reaction seems a bit over the top to be honest, he's an adult and says he doesn't like something which I assume you cooked for the first time (otherwise why hasn't this been raised before), so your head in the hands reaction seems a bit strong. He's not one of your children refusing to eat but an adult who knows his own mind.

However, as for his later reaction, it seems a bit odd, especially if he's using the word '!!!!!!' around your two children. I'd be more worried they would be influenced by that than your OH not eating half of his meal.

MissOptimistic

Thanks guys, I agree & I did say in my original post that maybe I shouldn't have put my head in my hands, but I just have a thing with wasting food, I was always bought up to eat everything that was put in front of me & even now I can never leave food on my plate.
You are also correct in questioning why this is an issue 2 days later (or indeed why he is now sulking upstairs because I won't admit I am wrong) there are certainly deeper run issues here.