Am I right to be offended?

Buzzybee90

shegirl wrote: »

What if it's someone who has spent the day grinding away at work to earn the money that you then buy the food with? Or is that not considered a 'contribution'?

My mum always decided what was for tea, my Dad wasn't bothered.

I decide what's for tea (most of the time) even if he's cooking he doesn't want to make the decision and would rather I did it!

Some people are just appreciative of having something lovingly cooked for them.

He would never say he didn't like it because I know what he likes and dislikes, he might say it was too spicy or had too much of *insert vegetable* but I can't think of a time he has said he didn't like it. Same when he cooks for me.

lostinrates

shegirl wrote: »

What if it's someone who has spent the day grinding away at work to earn the money that you then buy the food with? Or is that not considered a 'contribution'?

I consider it a contribution, in the greater part! but I also need to organise my part of the responsibility. I do ask ahead.....' Anything any one particularly fancies anytime soon.....' And I retain some flexibility in my plans...after all, things happen that require flexibility....late plan changes to eat out/invite people over. Have fewer people eating etc etc .

But to keep things running smoothly I need to keep things organised as possible. That's a household with no kids and a more flexible time time table on my part than if I worked outside of the home. I can imagine situations where more adherence or less adherence to plans works better for other households. I think its one of those things people will just do differently as suits their families needs and their ability.

lostinrates

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

My mum always decided what was for tea, my Dad wasn't bothered.

I decide what's for tea (most of the time) even if he's cooking he doesn't want to make the decision and would rather I did it!

Some people are just appreciative of having something lovingly cooked for them.

He would never say he didn't like it because I know what he likes and dislikes, he might say it was too spicy or had too much of *insert vegetable* but I can't think of a time he has said he didn't like it. Same when he cooks for me.

There are very wonderful small restaurants in other countries where you don't choose meals, you turn up and eat what's been cooked, there is no choice. I've eaten beyond words well at some of them, and things I wouldn't normally choose.

Indie_Kid

peachyprice wrote: »

Geniune question, I am intrigued, do people who do the cooking on this thread just cook what they fancy without any discussion with their partner/family about what they want for dinner that night and expect them to eat it?

We (or rather, I) have a habit of requesting mum to cook certain foods. And there's usually a discussion of some sort.

I have issues with certain foods; but for the most part, will eat what I'm given, or at least try it. If I don't like it, I will say. But it never ends in aurgment. I normally say hings like "there wasn't enough flavour" or "that was too peppery".

FBaby

peachyprice wrote: »

Geniune question, I am intrigued, do people who do the cooking on this thread just cook what they fancy without any discussion with their partner/family about what they want for dinner that night and expect them to eat it?

I ask, and get a 'I don't know, you decide' response! As we all know, the cooking part is not the hardest, coming up with a menu they are not dead bored with is.

Buzzybee90

Indie_Kid wrote: »

We (or rather, I) have a habit of requesting mum to cook certain foods. And there's usually a discussion of some sort.

I have issues with certain foods; but for the most part, will eat what I'm given, or at least try it. If I don't like it, I will say. But it never ends in aurgment. I normally say hings like "there wasn't enough flavour" or "that was too peppery".

Do you cook for mum?

peachyprice

FBaby wrote: »

I ask, and get a 'I don't know, you decide' response! As we all know, the cooking part is not the hardest, coming up with a menu they are not dead bored with is.

Ha, isn't it just!

We do the shopping list together every Thursday, I shop for the food and cook it, I'll be damned if I'm going to decide what we're going to have each night too.

peachyprice

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

People get to choose what to have for dinner if they have taken part in the budgeting, the planning and the shopping for the week's meals already. It's all very well saying you don't want this, that or the other thing if all your contribution has been is to sit on your @rse while someone else has done the boring grunt-work but that doesn't get the family fed.

Armchair critics can sod off down the chippy and fend for themselves!

Good job my OH does his share of menu planning then!

peachyprice

lostinrates wrote: »

There are very wonderful small restaurants in other countries where you don't choose meals, you turn up and eat what's been cooked, there is no choice. I've eaten beyond words well at some of them, and things I wouldn't normally choose.

There are a select few in London too.

Torry_Quine

It sounds like both of you have over-reacted. There's nothing wrong with saying there's something wrong with a meal, I would always do that. However he shouldn't have used bad language and you were very dramatic in your reaction.

Time to move on.