Am I right to be offended?

lostinrates

peachyprice wrote: »

But I doubt you would you have been so pleasantly surprised if in his arbitrary decision making he'd have plonked a bowl of Weetabix (insert any other cereal you're not particularly keen on) in front of you and expected you to eat it all

Your breakfast sounds delicious btw, does your husband do house calls? :rotfl:

I'd have been delighted he'd have provided me with any breakfast I could eat. we don't often have cereal, so yes, that would have been fine....there would have been a reason we'd have had it. .


He doesn't do house calls, but we might do B and B one day.

Georgiegirl256

coolcait wrote: »

No, it isn't. But it is more constructive to state why you don't like it..

I don't disagree with that. Most people upon stating that they didn't like something would usually state the reason why at the same time.

FatVonD

We had a cooked breakfast this morning (grilled where possible and oil dabbed off where it wasn't.) DH won't eat fried or scrambled eggs (no chance of dabbing off the oil) so, despite fried egg being my absolute favourite bit of a full English, I made eggy bread* instead (with just enough oil to stop it sticking.)

DH sat down and asked 'is this toast?' and on finding out it was eggy bread said 'I don't like that' (DS stepped in and had an extra slice.)

He did however go on to clear the plate, ask for an extra sausage and say how much he enjoyed it so offence was avoided

* Otherwise known, I believe, as Gypsy toast but I'm going with the Royle family name

victory

Did the OP come back and update/add/fill in the blanks?

Because this thread is going round and round in circles when there are some very important pieces missing...

Did the OP ask/tell her OH that was the meal of the evening and get no response?

Did she know he was not keen but went ahead anyway?

Does she normally react to something but over reacting with head in hands?

Was the fussy eater ever told to cook his own, has he always been 'too demanding' at meal times and she feels she is forever trying to appease him?

Is the OP not getting any help whatsoever from her OH not just food prep related but house-work, chores, everything so she constantly feels undervalued/overwhelmed/tired/ fed up?

Is there a lot more to this than just what has been posted and we cannot reply properly because we do not know what it is?

victory

FatVonD wrote: »

We had a cooked breakfast this morning (grilled where possible and oil dabbed off where it wasn't.) DH won't eat fried or scrambled eggs (no chance of dabbing off the oil) so, despite fried egg being my absolute favourite bit of a full English, I made eggy bread* instead (with just enough oil to stop it sticking.)

DH sat down and asked 'is this toast?' and on finding out it was eggy bread said 'I don't like that' (DS stepped in and had an extra slice.)

He did however go on to clear the plate, ask for an extra sausage and say how much he enjoyed it so offence was avoided

* Otherwise known, I believe, as Gypsy toast but I'm going with the Royle family name

We had eggy bread yesterday for lunch, my DS decided he would make it and brought it in all dead proud of himself, laughing and ran off...he had forgotten to turn it so the bottom half was jet black but the top other side looked lovely and brown:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:, he never took offence when I said I loved it thank you but was unable to eat it because of the blackness:rotfl: bless him, I went into the kitchen and helped him make some more and everyone loved it:D

DavidF

This is my 2nd post in this thread, after having read more of the others. I am not sure weather op's hubby is Bully or Baby....maybe a bit of both.
If the kids were eating fine until this mini outburst then he is setting a really bad example and should be ashamed. He should have backed up the op in telling kids you have eaten this before so just because I have had a hissy fit does not excuse you from eating and being thankful for your mother's contribution.
As already mentioned even by the op herself - this is the tip of the iceberg and as a couple they need to talk out their difficulties and/or get themselves off to Relate or whatever is needed. If this was just a one off "sorry love I don't really fancy this" I am pretty sure op would not have put her head in her hands...I also question weather the kids would have downed cutlery quite so quickly if they did not think their was enough of a gulf between their parents that would allow them to get away with this behaviour.
Finally I am still of the opinion that unless allergic then it really is a sad state of affairs that so many people can turn their noses up at good nourishing food when so many people are starving in the world. And we wonder why we are becoming a nation of fatties lol...such a surprise when we are all eating fast food and takeaways full of cr*p instead of good healthy balanced meals......Rant over.

Morglin

DavidF wrote: »

This is my 2nd post in this thread, after having read more of the others. I am not sure weather op's hubby is Bully or Baby....maybe a bit of both.
If the kids were eating fine until this mini outburst then he is setting a really bad example and should be ashamed. He should have backed up the op in telling kids you have eaten this before so just because I have had a hissy fit does not excuse you from eating and being thankful for your mother's contribution.
As already mentioned even by the op herself - this is the tip of the iceberg and as a couple they need to talk out their difficulties and/or get themselves off to Relate or whatever is needed. If this was just a one off "sorry love I don't really fancy this" I am pretty sure op would not have put her head in her hands...I also question weather the kids would have downed cutlery quite so quickly if they did not think their was enough of a gulf between their parents that would allow them to get away with this behaviour.
Finally I am still of the opinion that unless allergic then it really is a sad state of affairs that so many people can turn their noses up at good nourishing food when so many people are starving in the world. And we wonder why we are becoming a nation of fatties lol...such a surprise when we are all eating fast food and takeaways full of cr*p instead of good healthy balanced meals......Rant over.

To be honest, teenagers turn their noses up at most things that aren't junk food..:whistle:

Adults have their individual preferences....

And, so, dramas about who eats what is a waste of time, and my philosophy was eat it or leave it, and then to just bin any waste.

Far more important things to get stressed about than who likes a particular meal!

Lin

Threebabes

From someone who does all the cooking. I wouldve been angry. I get fed up of deciding what to make for the evening meal every night. Then the kids (never the hubby) twist on about it, especially youngest. If they dont like it, tough, they get nothing else. If your OH doesnt like your meals, tell him to make his own.

MissOptimistic

Thank you all for taking the time to reply to my thread.
Whether you believe that I am indeed a drama queen or justified in my response, I can see that some clarification of our circumstances is needed.
I do all the meal planning, preparation & cooking, OH never cooks, he says that he can't.
I also work full time & OH doesn't work.
The head in hands was merely frustration that my hard work was going to end up in the bin.
I hadn't told OH beforehand what was for tea, but he did come in the kitchen just as I was starting it & I told him what we were having & he never said "can we have something else instead"
For those of you who have said it must have been inedible, awful, too spicy etc etc, it was none of those things, in my opinion it was lovely, OH is just a fussy eater and I am forever trying to find new things for our meals that we might all enjoy to save us from eating the same stuff over and over again.
For the lovely person who criticised my choice of supplementing the main meal with packet rice & criticised me for daring to say that I had 'cooked from scratch', have you nothing else to do?
There are lots of issues in our marriage but I am often made to feel like I am the one at fault, so I was just interested to hear if others thought I was, or whether I had good cause to feel hurt.
Thanks again everyone

DavidF

LOL I think if you had mentioned that OH does not work you would have got more pro you replies. That snippet changes everything imho. I think you two need to talk and soon IMHO.