Finding a compromise? Any tips?!

newcook

Ah, ok – how about you stay in the hotel for the Friday and Sunday and with your friends at home on the Saturday?! Would hubby compromise this way and spend the Saturday night with you?!
Im assuming that the in-laws will be coming to DD’s party?

lulu_92

newcook wrote: »

Ah, ok – how about you stay in the hotel for the Friday and Sunday and with your friends at home on the Saturday?! Would hubby compromise this way and spend the Saturday night with you?!
Im assuming that the in-laws will be coming to DD’s party?

Don't even go there! :rotfl:

Have you read the whole thread?

newcook

lulu_92 wrote: »

Don't even go there! :rotfl:

Have you read the whole thread?

Yes but got the gist that they were coming over more out of convenience as they had building work doing than because it was DD’s and OP’s birthday.

Georgiegirl256

notanewuser wrote: »

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Birth friends. The friends she's had since birth. They cut their teeth together, took their first steps together etc. is it so hard to understand? They're the people that have been there throughout DD's whole life. Her best friends. The ones that care all of the time, not just when it suits them.

I don't blame you for getting wound up OP. It was pretty obvious as to what you meant by Birth Friends, I don't know how some people didn't know what you meant tbh?

Sometimes friends can be closer to you than relatives. It's the little one I feel sorry for as the grandparents don't appear to bother that much or put her first in any plans. According to some posters in this thread, it is lovely that they want to come down to see the LO on her birthday, when really it's because they want out of the way if the builders come.

Have you asked your DH to clear the rooms? If so, what was his answer to that?

seven-day-weekend

I repeat, I had no idea what Birth Friends meant. I assumed it was children all born on the same day, but that did not seem very likely, so I could not imagine what else it meant. No need for the OP to get shirty, just explain.

moomoomama27

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I repeat, I had no idea what Birth Friends meant. I assumed it was children all born on the same day, but that did not seem very likely, so I could not imagine what else it meant. No need for the OP to get shirty, just explain.

I've never heard that term before either! Surely a sinple' non aggressive response was all that was needed.

OP I tried to offer advice, as did many, but there's always a reason why it's not suitable, or the goal posts are moved.

If you are as aggressive in real life, and confrontational in real life as you are here then no wonder you husband reacts the way he does, I just feel really sorry for the child caught up in it all

victory

millysg1 wrote: »

Some posts deleted I see. makes reading confusing!

Yes plenty when it got very heated with a barrage of abuse at posters, needed to be deleted, not nice.

victory

moomoomama27 wrote: »

I've never heard that term before either!

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Me neither:o

Marisco

Thank god I'm not on my own in not having a clue what "birth friends" were!! I'd never heard of it, most folk I know made lifelong friends when they started school. I've still got a good friend I met when I was 4, don't remember anything before that TBH!

millysg1

I must admit i didnt either. I assumed it was friends she met at anti natal classes and then carried on meeting up at baby groups after. I know my sister made firend in her anti natal group and then when they had all had their babies they carried on meeting up at baby groups and then at each others houses. A bit like that TV series on BBC recently.