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Why should I have children???
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bargainbetty wrote: »Define normal.
It is normal for women to want children.
If it wasn't, nobody would bat an eyelid when they don't.0 -
fairy_lights wrote: »Thank you so much for admitting this! I'm 27 and a lot of people I know have started having kids, if any of them admitted to not liking other people's kids or finding the baby stage rubbish it would be treated as a capital offence!
I wish more people were so honest about how they feel about children.
Haha, this is exactly how I feel. My children are 5 and 3. Would I do the baby bit again? Hell no!!
And I always tell people I'm not a maternal woman.
I am definitely not having any kids. My kids are lovely now that they can talk and I don't need a pushchair, but I definitely found the first few years hell. Admittedly my ex left me when my youngest was 2 months old, so that didn't altogether help things.Pink Sproglettes born 2008 and 2010
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Gloomendoom wrote: »It is normal for women to want children.
If it wasn't, nobody would bat an eyelid when they don't.
Its also normal for them not to want children, which is why so many don't.
What some people are finding a bit jarring is that in the last 60 years or so women have finally had a proper choice in the matter, and they aren't all making the choices other people expect them to. You'll get used to it eventually, or your children or grandchildren might even if you never do!0 -
My son and his partner don't want any children, so I'm never going to be a grandparent, which doesn't bother me in the slightest. In fact it is quite liberating and a grandchild would be one more person to worry about. Plus I don't have to babysit.(AKA HRH_MUngo)
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Person_one wrote: »Its also normal for them not to want children, which is why so many don't.
But it isn't normal, is it? It might be more common now than it once was, but women who don't want children are still in the minority.What some people are finding a bit jarring is that in the last 60 years or so women have finally had a proper choice in the matter, and they aren't all making the choices other people expect them to. You'll get used to it eventually, or your children or grandchildren might even if you never do!
I have got used to it, a long time ago, but it's unlikely that my children will.
My wife and I are child free by choice.0 -
blobbydoodaah wrote: »I have 3 children and wouldnt change this for the world.. you never know the feeling until it becomes a reality so you cant have a balanced view if you have never had any. The media has done a goood job on some of you... over population, career is more important... high child care costs....man made climate change.... such a shame because its such a magical thing bringing life into the world and not having to just think about yourself and your own needs...
My children are my legacy..... Lots of hard work but when eventually letting them go into the world to hopefully make it a better place for everyone...
Good luck everyone
I'm childfree, but then again I've never taken heroin before either, does that mean I can't have a balanced view on hard drugs? *eyeroll*
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blobbydoodaah wrote: ». The media has done a goood job on some of you... over population, career is more important... high child care costs....man made climate change....
Umm, I'm pretty sure the opposite is true... how wonderful children are and how they're the future so more important than all adults ... Almost all families depicted in TV shows having children, as it always a good thing...the fuss a royal or celebrity baby brings... the millions of products to flog to over-anxious parents... the way its sooo easy for your body to be back at pre-pregnancy weight and better just follow this simple routine, this generic soap star did it, you can too!!blobbydoodaah wrote: ». My children are my legacy..... Lots of hard work but when eventually letting them go into the world to hopefully make it a better place for everyone...
That's great, however I would rather leave my own legacy and be proud of my OWN achievements, not achievements by proxy.0
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