When you children are no longer kids.

bagpuss38

whitewing wrote: »

I am sorry that you had to do that but is that what you are expecting your daughter to do?

No no of course not.
I am and always have been here for her.
Just because I didn't invite her to a day out doesn't mean I'm walking away from her.
Her brother thinks she is being stupid and finds it hilarious that she wants to go in the first place.

balletshoes

bagpuss38 wrote: »

No no of course not.
I am and always have been here for her.
Just because I didn't invite her to a day out doesn't mean I'm walking away from her.
Her brother thinks she is being stupid and finds it hilarious that she wants to go in the first place.

thats her brother - its not her.

bagpuss38

Lily-Rose wrote: »

It's OK. It is a hard job isn't it? (Being a parent...) I don't have a 'blended' family, so don't know what it's like.

Sorry for saying you sounded a little childish It was just that one line that sounded a wee bit petty.

I feel sorry for you both.

And I am sorry you had a childhood that was not great.

You are not a bad parent, and the fact that you are on here and are concerned about your family and your daughter, shows you are a good person, and a good mum. :j

Thank you so much for your kind comments.

I suppose on reflection it is a little childish but as any parent knows sometimes you give like for like.
I've included her in stuff before only to have been rebuked by "I'm going out with my mates" but then told you should ask me.
Can't win really.

whitewing

Why is it anything to do with her brother? You won't discuss it with her properly but you will discuss it with him? I don't understand why people think she shouldn't want to go.

bagpuss38

balletshoes wrote: »

thats her brother - its not her.

Good point.

I know they are individuals, but the point I'm trying to make is that they have always been treated equal. Yet he doesn't feel hard done by in any way.

bagpuss38

whitewing wrote: »

Why is it anything to do with her brother? You won't discuss it with her properly but you will discuss it with him? I don't understand why people think she shouldn't want to go.

I can't discuss with her right now. She is hurt and angry and lashing out at me.

I'm heartbroken she feels so rejected and have cried all evening.
My son came to comfort me, having been the receiving end of his sister (they haven't spoken in 4 years. Her choice)

Lily-Rose_3

bagpuss38 wrote: »

Thank you so much for your kind comments.

I suppose on reflection it is a little childish but as any parent knows sometimes you give like for like.
I've included her in stuff before only to have been rebuked by "I'm going out with my mates" but then told you should ask me.
Can't win really.

That's OK. :hello:

I am sure it will all be OK in the end, and you will be laughing about it in a few years.

Person_one

bagpuss38 wrote: »

I've included her in stuff before only to have been rebuked by "I'm going out with my mates" but then told you should ask me.
Can't win really.

Think logically about this, it sounds like you're saying that she should either accept every invitation or accept never being invited! I know you're upset now but I'm sure if you weren't you'd see that's not quite right.

missbiggles1

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Because she has no money and they can't afford to pay for her?

And because she's working and doesn't get school holidays.

What 22 year old wants to waste a day's leave on going out for the day with her parents?

whitewing

To me, your elder daughter is young to not be talking to her brother for 4 years. Would it be worth suggesting a trip to the GP to be referred for counselling so that she can start to sort out her conflicting feelings. She sounds like she loves you and wants to be part of the family so that is good. But she also sounds like a bit of a scapegoat (although I concede she may simply be a pain in the arris).