couples in a restaurant, eating in silence..

thatgirlsam

pollypenny wrote: »

Where have you been, Sam? Haven't seen you post for ages!

Good to see you again, you know what mean.

Hiya! Aw I've been about but not as much as I used to, I changed my working hours to Mon - Fri so I don't get much spare time during the week now

catkins

Goldiegirl wrote: »

What I find interesting is, all the people on this thread who reckon they are having wonderful conversations with their spouses each time they go to a restaurant, have got time to look round at other couples and judge them because the other people don't seem to be particularly animated.

I would suggest that these conversations aren't really THAT interesting if your attention keeps wandering!

Surely a conversation would have to absolutely riveting for you to sit there just staring at your dinner companion and never looking around?


In any conversation there are lulls and, as someone who talks an awful lot, I still look round and am quite observant. It's also usually pretty obvious if the tables closest to you are silent because unless you and your partner are shouting you can still hear other noises/conversations etc.

Goldiegirl

catkins wrote: »

In any conversation there are lulls and, as someone who talks an awful lot, I still look round and am quite observant. It's also usually pretty obvious if the tables closest to you are silent because unless you and your partner are shouting you can still hear other noises/conversations etc.

That's fair enough, but there's some comments on this thread that the talkative people find the quiet people 'sad'.


Just don't understand the need to judge people just because they are different, that's all


Somebody might look at me and my husband and think 'sad' because we might not be talking nineteen to the dozen....but the reality is I'm partially deaf, and it might not be a good atmosphere for us to talk and me to hear.


How can somebody judge, when they know nothing about me?

dktreesea

I often wonder about the couples who chat over dinner the whole night. We'll be in the middle of a conversation and then I'll start to notice things about my OH, the crinkles around his eyes, the way his hair curls. And it's worse in a restaurant, with just a small table in between than at home. He's a complete distraction. Even now.

carefullycautious

After having raised a family and worked hard for the last x amount of years. I think we have earned the right to go out and sit and eat a meal in total silence and enjoy the peace this brings.

Bliss :j

hgotsparkle

We don't tend to talk much when we got out, if we do its about something thats happened lately, and that'll only be later on in the meal. We tend to sit in silence for a while first but I like it like that. I don't like to talk when I'm eating, I like to concentrate on my food.
Its never awkward, and we do sometimes sit in front on the tv at home and do the same, but we never have to force conversation whn we do talk, which is most of the day admitedly, so usally by evening we have nothing to say to each other as we already know whats happened to the other at work.
What I hate is when people check their phones when they are out with their partner. I will check mine if I'm waiting on a text and OH knows about it as it includes him too, usually arranging plans with another couple but other than that, I won't touch my phone. He will, to check sky sports which is highly annoying, but such is my life!

System

We usually talk about things we have in common... the kids, the dogs, HIS JOB!

I'd prefer not to hear about his job because he repeats the same things over and over again but I listen.

BigAunty

When my partner and I spot couples in restaurants who don't speak to each other, we say that we hope we don't end up like that. The worst ones are engrossed in their phones.

There should be always something to talk about - future plans, the meal itself, how work is going, family issues, friends and so on.

I am personally stunned that couples go out on a social date and sit in silence.

fufu_banterwaite

victory wrote: »

Have you ever been in a restaurant situation desperate to have something to say but can't think of anything?

Just play would you rather? Ie would you rather have a massive hand or a massive foot? Or would you rather be the world’s most intelligent sheep or the world’s most stupid human?

Much more interesting then talking about boring stuff like work, politics, religion, life, etc, etc.

the_money_pit

Hope I'm not shot down for this but sometimes when in a public place with my husband I have to tell him to stop talking as I am enjoying eavesdropping on another conversation. So maybe the couple's not talking in restaurants are actually enjoying overhearing other talkative couples. Lol