couples in a restaurant, eating in silence..

Saint_Chris

Talk...........
he says we never talk, he just listens and agrees.....lol


and I'm off for 2 weeks in a week with the girls, my annual holiday with them, and he said last night, i really miss you when your away, it's so quiet...lol

JIL

Peter333 wrote: »

LOL, me and 'er indoors are the opposite! Together over 30 years, and when we go for a meal, we chat incessantly. Our food goes cold half the time.:D

I find it very sad indeed when couples sit there for an hour or more, and don't say anything. The chances are, that it's the same at home. How depressing.

I was going to write something very similar myself about my husband and I. He has even been known to 'save' things to tell me when we are out.

JIL

Peter333 wrote: »

Well yes of course.

Me and my wife can sit for 2 hours at home, and hardly speak, because I am on the laptop, and she is watching tv. It is fine and there is no awkwardness, and we are both happy, and will speak if we feel the need to.

However, this thread was about whether people speak when they are out for a meal, and I responded to the subject matter in the OP.

When we are out for a meal; of course we talk. It seems odd to me not to. JMHO.

Oh my goodness i have just read this now and this could be us again only its me on the laptop and him watching TV.

pollypenny

We tend to be busy doing our own things during the day and at night he's listening to music , while I'm reading or watching TV and knitting.

On our almost weekly cinema trip we do talk, as we do when eating out evening meal at home.

motorguy

patanne wrote: »

To me it is not the not talking that is the problem but the not communicating. You don't have to actually talk to communicate. But you can talk incessantly and still not communicate.

Have to say when my wife and i are in a restaurant we tend to talk but quietly out of respect for people around us. Chances are when we're eating we'll not talk directly either.

Really hate it when people in restaurants talks at normal volume and drone on and on.

mariposa687

I find it a bit odd when couples eat in silence, mainly because they often look miserable. Silence makes me uncomfortable generally so I like to keep talking and my OH is quite chatty when we are out. It does annoy me when we go somewhere where it's quiet and there aren't many people chatting because I feel like they are eavesdropping!

duchy

Oh just give them something spicy to listen to if you think they are

Goldiegirl

My husband is quietly spoken, and I'm partially deaf, so sometimes when we are out for a meal it can be a bit difficult to have a conversation, especially if there is a lot of background noise.


So we enjoy our meal, do a bit of people watching, grin at each other when we see something that we know amuses each other, and then dissect everything we saw, when we get home.


Just because people aren't saying anything in the restaurant, doesn't mean they've run out of things to say to each other! It probably means they are very comfortable with each other


Other times, if it's a quieter situation and we are seated where I can hear him well, we might have a good old chat, and ignore everything going on around us. I'm careful to keep the volume down though, as I don't want everyone to hear what we are talking about

lostinrates

jetplane wrote: »

I am guilty of thinking that couples who sit in silence when out socially have lost interest in each other or can't be bothered or were wishing they were somewhere else. I may be wrong but would you silent types not even talk about your meal, your day, your tomorrow? Do you drive home in silence, have nightcap and then go to bed in silence?

I was thinking about meals en famille with my in laws which are very chatty, but where I know a lot of discord rests. We all play nicely on the very rare occasions I've joined in, but I have never heard of any occasion of lack of conversation or awkward silence. Whether they all wish they were somewhere else I cannot say. Rarely is something meaningful emotionally discussed, though wonderful discussion can be had nonetheless, culturally, politically.

With my husband, he and I very rarely get out nowadays. When we do we sometimes meet out, those are my favourite nights, though often I've waited along time and you can tell people think I've been stood up

When he comes and we've kissed we chat about not important things like his journey and day. We cannot discuss much of his work in public, or at all, and often have been in contact through the day.

Often its nice NOT to talk about the stuff that's going on even when its upper most in our minds if its stressful, but just enjoy being a couple, out, not having to wonder if we like each other, but just smiling and winking occasionally now and then, play footsy, and just relax quietly, with no demands on us.

jetplane

lostinrates wrote: »

When he comes and we've kissed we chat about not important things like his journey and day. We cannot discuss much of his work in public, or at all, and often have been in contact through the day.

Often its nice NOT to talk about the stuff that's going on even when its upper most in our minds if its stressful, but just enjoy being a couple, out, not having to wonder if we like each other, but just smiling and winking occasionally now and then, play footsy, and just relax quietly, with no demands on us.

So you kiss, flirt and chat? Yes?

The original post was about people observed to be sitting in silence looking everywhere but at each other and that the OP's husband said he had ran out of things to say, which posed the question had we ever been desperate to have something to say but cant think of anything? That was the kind of silence that I was replying to.

As quoted my first words on this thread included I'm guilty... :rotfl: