Neighbours ignore us - thoughts?

missbiggles1

OrkneyStar wrote: »

How many bedrooms did you say your house had again? I think I missed it the first 10 or so times you mentioned it.

Absolutely - snobbishness comes in many different guises.

Saint_Chris

I live on a council estate, and we've bought our house.
and if I won the lottery tomorrow I would not move from here ( I would do it up a bit inside), but I wouldn't move.
I like all my neighbours.


We live in a cul de sac where no cars come in, and there's quite a few kids here, and it's lovely to see them playing ball on the front, and chalking on the paths and doing hop scotch.


None of us are in and out of each others houses, but it's not unusual to see 2 neighbours pass each other and be talking for 15 mins.


My friend has just paid 250,000 for a lovely 3 bed semi in a lovely postcode area, and the neighbours are complaing about her boy riding his bike in the close, so she brings him here and he plays on our front.

Primrose

[QUOTE=greenwoodlad;66328419

I have been thinking hard to think how we are different.... apart from we don't have the new company Audi or BMW in the drive ....just Hector, our ageing VW campervan, yes he may have a few Peace stickers on him and need a light resto but so what !!! We're not quite Barbara and Tom from the good life but we grow vegetables and have a few chickens in a neat little coup so it would not annoy the damn neighbours !!!!!:D[/QUOTE]

I suspect the camper van and the chickens may well be the answer to your neighbour issues. Do you have any restrictive covenants on your property forbidding storage of any vehicles on the property larger than a car, or the keeping of poultry? These types of restrictions are very common on lots of new properties now and if they apply to yours, I suspect the camper van may well have caused a few people to suspect that you are people who are not prepared to operate within rules which every key else respects.

With regard to the trampoline, children using it may be noisier than you realise if neighbours have been used to peace and quiet. Sometimes in villages ,just one household moving into a road or development who doesn,t fit in with the current conventional norm can seem to upset the balance which is why people often say that they can still seem to be treated like strangers 30 years after moving in.

Billie-S

Saint_Chris wrote: »

I live on a council estate, and we've bought our house.
and if I won the lottery tomorrow I would not move from here ( I would do it up a bit inside), but I wouldn't move. I like all my neighbours.

We live in a cul de sac where no cars come in, and there's quite a few kids here, and it's lovely to see them playing ball on the front, and chalking on the paths and doing hop scotch.

None of us are in and out of each others houses, but it's not unusual to see 2 neighbours pass each other and be talking for 15 mins.

My friend has just paid 250,000 for a lovely 3 bed semi in a lovely postcode area, and the neighbours are complaing about her boy riding his bike in the close, so she brings him here and he plays on our front.

Awwww that sounds fab!

I mean, how ludicrous. Telling people their kids cannot play outside the house.

However; if it's 4 or 5 kids screaming 5 or 6 hours a day (or more!) whilst bouncing up and down on a trampoline ................ I have experienced this. My daughters had to go to the library, to study, when they were about to do their exams in the second year of their A levels because of the noise from my old neighbours 5 kids and their 7 or 8 friends, every day during the Easter hols last year.

So whilst it's lovely to have kids around playing and having fun, some kids can be very, very noisy. I wonder if some parents become utterly immune to the noise sometimes.

greenwoodlad

OrkneyStar wrote: »

How many bedrooms did you say your house had again? I think I missed it the first 10 or so times you mentioned it.

Was it only 10 times ...... I intended to mention the number of bedrooms more than that !! Oh you forgot to mention the house cost over £350 k !!! I mentioned that errrrrrrrrrm oh yes once !!

Here's another for you ...we have a conservatory too !!!:D

greenwoodlad

OrkneyStar wrote: »

How many bedrooms did you say your house had again? I think I missed it the first 10 or so times you mentioned it.

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Absolutely - snobbishness comes in many different guises.

Haha I think I'd get on just great with Miss Biggles & OrkneyStar as neighbours....ladies I'll let you know if any of my rude neighbours put their houses on the market... you might want to make an offer !:D

jobdone1

November is near so a good old firework party should finish the bell ends off. How stupid and arrogant your neighbours are. Why not get the family a friend ( DOG ) then that will finish them off.:rotfl: Hopefully they will then move.

seven-day-weekend

OrkneyStar wrote: »

How many bedrooms did you say your house had again? I think I missed it the first 10 or so times you mentioned it.

I had wondered about that. I also wondered whether the OP was not happy in her own skin and defined herself by the value and size of her house,(she has mentioned it often enough), maybe her family WERE noisy and maybe the neighbours are just getting on with their own lives.

Maybe the neighbours see them as stuck up and snooty because they (the neighbours) are never invited to the OP's house and the OP's family never join in any communal events.

When we lived in a village in Spain there was one (British) couple who never joined in with any village events and we always wondered why they bothered living there. My husband and I made a point of speaking to them, but none of the other expats did, they saw them as aloof and snooty.

When in a village you need to get involved. You don't live the same way as when you were townies.

Two sides (at least) to everything.

(FYI, I have a mid-terrace house in the urban outer city and wonderful neighbours ).

missbiggles1

greenwoodlad wrote: »

Haha I think I'd get on just great with Miss Biggles & OrkneyStar as neighbours....ladies I'll let you know if any of my rude neighbours put their houses on the market... you might want to make an offer !:D

Well, it may be that sort of attitude that hasn't endeared you to the neighbours.;)

makeitstop

jaylee3 wrote: »

Wow, snobville central! What horrible, arrogant stuck-up people these sound. These do NOT come across to me as middle class, but maybe working class who made a few bob/got lucky etc. They sound like people who are trying to be something they're not to me. I know many (genuine) middle class people, and upper class too, and they are lovely.

We live in a small market town, and there are many farms and big (I mean VERY big) homes nearby, (seven figure sum homes!) and they are full of middle and upper class folk, and they are really nice; often inviting us to garden parties, and for a coffee or for dinner. The people from the Church are nice, the people who run the local shop are nice, and the people who live in the little section of social housing (about 50 properties,) are nice, and nobody makes them feel like they're lower than them because they rent.

Of course, nobody is perfect and we aren't always jolly and happy all the time, but on the whole, it's a lovely, friendly place to live.

I am not sure what advice to give you, except to move. Because they sound unpleasant and arrogant TBH. I would not tolerate living around such people. Frankly, you sound very nice, and so does your family, and I do believe that nothing you say will change these peoples attitudes. Frankly, they sound a bit weird to me.

I certainly would not be trying so hard to impress them or to be 'accepted.

I was thinking at first that you may be trying to hard, but from what you have said, they sound awful.

Jaylee, take another read of your own post here eh.?

"These do not come across as middle class, but maybe working class who got lucky"

Exactly..... How dare working class people get "lucky" or come into money somehow. How bl**dy dare they. Why does trash not just stick with trash.? Don't they know their place.

There perhaps should be some sort of perimeter fencing, so that those without public school educations / degrees / professionally qualified careers, can be kept out of the better areas, where there are "farms and big (I mean VERY big) homes nearby, (seven figure sum homes!) full of middle and upper class folk, who are really nice"

Haha, honestly, this is a simply staggering attitude.

Newsflash.....

There are many many decent, hard working, generous, friendly, considerate and kind people from working class backgrounds, living in low value run down areas. By the same token, there are arrogant, unfriendly, selfish, spiteful people living in areas of affluence and beauty. People are people, and will vary wherever you wish to look.