Invited to wedding but without baby - help!

mountainofdebt

Wedding issue aside is it a good idea to have a baby so dependant (and I don't mean literally!) on its parents?

Wouldn't be an idea for baby to get used to other people feeding it and for the parents to leave it overnight in someone else's care?

I am looking from the point of view of there being an emergency etc

notanewuser

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Wedding issue aside is it a good idea to have a baby so dependant (and I don't mean literally!) on its parents?

Wouldn't be an idea for baby to get used to other people feeding it and for the parents to leave it overnight in someone else's care?

I am looking from the point of view of there being an emergency etc

While I see your perspective, if there's no need to, I'm not sure that dependency on it's parents is a bad thing for a baby to have.

duchy

**Patty** wrote: »

Yes, i do.

*I don't want any children at my wedding*.......to me, means exactly that. Not......*I don't want any children at my wedding except maybe yours & yours & you can bring one but not the other*.....which is exactly what was said.


Just goes to illustrate how context & the written/typed word can be misleading

Ok so you regard any other random child should be treated exactly the same by you as you treat your own children eg at Christmas you spend the same amount on every other child of your acquaintance as you do your own child Okaaaaaaaay

Carmina-Piranha_2

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Wedding issue aside is it a good idea to have a baby so dependant (and I don't mean Figuratively!) on its parents?

Wouldn't be an idea for baby to get used to other people feeding it and for the parents to leave it overnight in someone else's care?

I am looking from the point of view of there being an emergency etc

If there was an emergency then the baby would have to just deal with things in the same way that they would on those occasions while it was getting used to being away from its parents for the night.

Mine was able to settle with either one of us so he wasn't completely dependent on me, so unless an emergency happened to both of us then why would he need to be left overnight with others?

I'm sure that OP's baby is used to other people feeding him or her - it's just breastmilk that the baby won't take from others.

They are tiny for such a short time. It's not long before they are able to understand going to the grandparents overnight. I see no problem with parents, either together or separately, putting a small baby first for that short period if that's what they choose to do.

As for weddings, well for us we just decided that one of us would go while the other stayed with the baby. It wasn't for long.

Snozzle

I fed our eldest for the first 18 months and as much as I tried he refused point blank to take a bottle from anyone - grandparents, husband, friends etc. We had to attend 3 weddings / evening receptions and left him at home with my parents who he saw all the time and each time he refused to take my expressed milk / water in either a bottle or cup.

My parents said he would whimper and they would offer him milk which he just threw away / pushed to the side and then would just fall asleep on each of the 3 occasions. He would then wake up and feed when I got home.

No harm done - we enjoyed 3 nights out (in the 18 months) and our now 7 year old laughs when we tell him he refused to take any milk from anyone as a baby and used to just throw it away unless it was from Mummy! I did worry about it at the time though by about 12 months thought he was just being a rascal!

I would say go and enjoy yourselves - the longest we were away was 7 hours!

retepetsir

notanewuser wrote: »

Only occasionally? My memory is hazy, and I know they're all different but I'm sure at under a year there should still be night feeds. Dropping night feeds is the fastest way for supply to drop too.

At 9 months he's sleeping longer at night. He used to be up multiple times until the past few weeks where he now tends to go from 8pm-ish through to 5am or so (a lot more than friends with babies of the same age, lots of them sleeping through at 8 months BF!). He doesn't sleep 7-7! He's eating a lot more food now and it's not something we've weaned him off of, he's done it himself. It does vary though, as an example today, he's eaten everything at each meal and had 7 BF's :rotfl:

Believe it or not, babies do not spontaneously combust if they miss a meal.

Anyhow, I hope you get it sorted one way or the other. You sound like worriers but you clearly also care for your child.

The pre-night feed isn't an issue to skip then? As that's the only one I've read is impossible to stop! I guess we can try. I'm not so worried but my OH is, she's spent most of his life with him so to leave him for 10 or so hours is challenging for her, as he is her life at the moment and he relies on her for certain things.

Wedding issue aside is it a good idea to have a baby so dependant (and I don't mean literally!) on its parents?

Wouldn't be an idea for baby to get used to other people feeding it and for the parents to leave it overnight in someone else's care?

I am looking from the point of view of there being an emergency etc

So far the only thing he's strictly dependent on is his mum for BF duties. Unfortunately I don't have this useful feature (which would be great as it appears to calm him down on occasions)! He is yet to take milk from anything else other than the real thing, he knows a fraud when he see's it

Other people have fed him standard food/meals, from family through to friends.

We shall see how it goes. He actually took 2 small sips from a cup this evening and settled with me so that's a good start!

vroombroom

I went to a wedding ceremony last summer and half way through, the bride turned round and asked whoever's child was screaming, please could she remove them as she couldn't hear the registrar

CH27

vroombroom wrote: »

I went to a wedding ceremony last summer and half way through, the bride turned round and asked whoever's child was screaming, please could she remove them as she couldn't hear the registrar

Well done that bride :T

burlington6

Take a break for one day. it won't do you or your child any harm.

purpleshoes_2

burlington6 wrote: »

Take a break for one day. it won't do you or your child any harm.

Agreed. Or one of you go to the wedding and the other stay home with the baby. It doesn't need to be a massive big deal all round.