Invited to wedding but without baby - help!

hazyjo

Might be a couple of months off yet, but you might want to let the bride know you may not be able to go - they'll have to confirm numbers some time ahead of the actual date and, presuming they're feeding you both, are likely to be paying per head.


Jx

duchy

If you booked a hotel room at or near the venue you could pop out do the feed and go back. Nothing to say you HAVE to sleep the night in the room if you prefer to go home later.

It is very true that often babies will not accept a bottle from a parent but will from other carers if Mum is absent. Perhaps something to try with your parents at their house over the next week or two.

retepetsir

notanewuser wrote: »

1.5 hours to travel 20 miles?!

You could try giving something like rice pudding instead of the night time feed once or twice and see what happens. He may wake earlier for a feed in the night, or want an extra feed etc. you've nothing to lose by trying now. (Get your OH to express the night feed so that she keeps her supply up.)

Sorry that was meant to be 9pm. There isn't parking at the venue (car will be elsewhere in the city and everyone being shipped there by coach) so we'll either have to get back to the car or get a taxi straight back. Taxi might be best.

I thought about the rice pudding idea and he's had it a few times. We don't mind if he wakes for a feed during the night as he occasionally does so at the moment!

I've had a look at hotels rooms and most of them are booked up, the cheapest being £200. I guess that might be the price to pay. Otherwise potentially my parents could drive him to us or my OH take a taxi home and back at a certain time! It'll be a Saturday evening so that could be interesting.

I'm going to see if we can attempt some bedtime routines with my parents and see how it goes.

Thanks all

moomoomama27

If it were me, and is felt unable to reach a compromise that I felt happy with I would not go. When I was breast feeding my babies, I wouldn't have been able to be away from them so long, not only because of the feeding them, but the pain if not feeding them for so long!!

lika_86

duchy wrote: »

If you booked a hotel room at or near the venue you could pop out do the feed and go back. Nothing to say you HAVE to sleep the night in the room if you prefer to go home later.

Or, have your parents and baby in the hotel room for the duration of the ceremony and then collect baby when it's over and let your parents have a nice night in a hotel room.

susancs

When we went to a wedding last year in Ireland, one couple who had rented a room in the hotel, paid a family member who acted as a babysitter to come in and look after the baby in the hotel room. They had their mobiles on them and the mum popped up to the room to feed the baby. I was told it was quite a usual arrangmement and sometimes it did not inovlve payment but a reciporcal arrangement when a party or celebration was held in a hotel. The sitter drove home after.

seven-day-weekend

duchy wrote: »

Bit of a stretch .
Some couples choose to have a grown up event or simply can't or don't want to pay for children who won't even touch an expensive meal....or have family or friends whose kids have never learned how to behave and to avoid the few ruining the day for the many opt to exclude all children. After all what bride wants to be confronted by an angry guest demanding to know why their children were excluded when their cousins weren't .

Whilst it is natural that for us our children are the centre of our universe it is also natural that the same doesn't apply to all our friends and family.

Ultimately the key word is invitation.....to be accepted.......or declined if the event doesn't suit.

Ceremony noise is only one of many possible reasons.

We retook our marriage vows in 1984 and didn't invite children to the party afterwards. It was simply a matter of space. If one couple had come with their three children, that meant we could not invite three of our friends. So we said no children so we could invite more friends (even so, someone turned up with a baby.....).

As regards the OP, I would book a hotel room and either bring parents to babysit (if they are willing) or take it in turns.

seven-day-weekend

lika_86 wrote: »

Or, have your parents and baby in the hotel room for the duration of the ceremony and then collect baby when it's over and let your parents have a nice night in a hotel room.

Great idea

**Patty**

I understand the concept of not inviting babies to the actual ceremony. Mainly for the reasons Notanewuser describes above.

Friends of ours got married last year. My younger 2 are 16 & 12. We were told no children (and that included them).

I was a bit confused when the bride then mentioned her children (10, 7 & 2) would be there.....as would her bridesmaids children (4 & 7).

Following the *no children* thing......i understand it was a very small wedding since most of the people invited had children at the same school as the bride's

Alchemilla

If I was your partner, OP, I wouldnt go.

I cant see why I should have to introduce my babies to the bottle just for a wedding.

Bottlefeeding is not a compulsory step in feeding babies.