Invited to wedding but without baby - help!

Tiddlywinks

'Tail wagging the dog' springs to mind.

You need to get your son used to other people caring for him. You have time to do this.

Is this more about your fear of leaving him?

building_with_lego

Does the invitation specifically exclude the baby, or just not mention him?

If I invited parents to anything I would assume that they would bring their children. The happy couple may not expect you to leave your baby to attend the wedding, but for the three of you to come along together.

balletshoes

building_with_lego wrote: »

Does the invitation specifically exclude the baby, or just not mention him?

If I invited parents to anything I would assume that they would bring their children. The happy couple may not expect you to leave your baby to attend the wedding, but for the three of you to come along together.

I,d think the opposite ~ unless the children were mentioned on the invitation, i,d assume they were not invited.

schwam66

dont understand what the issue is here.....so it actually says no to children on the invite?? surely they know you will have a child if they are close friends??? ring them up and ask, obviously they no the baby wont be eatting a the meal there so think it is fine....

so say the child goes....what is the issue now? going to be blunt why the hell cant your mrs wip her breast out and feed the child?? they do plenty of these blanket type cover things these days and if its still and issue pop to the car?? then take the push chair in with you and baby sleeps in that till the end of the evening or whenever you deem you want to leave...crazy to think you need to get a hotel to breast feed you child....

all the best hope it works out

notanewuser

schwam66 wrote: »

dont understand what the issue is here.....so it actually says no to children on the invite?? surely they know you will have a child if they are close friends??? ring them up and ask, obviously they no the baby wont be eatting a the meal there so think it is fine....

so say the child goes....what is the issue now? going to be blunt why the hell cant your mrs wip her breast out and feed the child?? they do plenty of these blanket type cover things these days and if its still and issue pop to the car?? then take the push chair in with you and baby sleeps in that till the end of the evening or whenever you deem you want to leave...crazy to think you need to get a hotel to breast feed you child....

all the best hope it works out

If the baby isn't invited I suspect its because they don't come with a "mute" button, rather than a feeding issue!!!

notanewuser

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

'Tail wagging the dog' springs to mind.

You need to get your son used to other people caring for him. You have time to do this.

Is this more about your fear of leaving him?

:huh:

Can you explain this, please?

princeofpounds

I cannot believe that it is seen as such a big deal for a child of that age to delay one single feed. You aren't a slave to the baby and you aren't a slave to the routine.

Depending on the timings, I think the suggestion to go to the ceremony but not the reception is a pretty sensible one, if the routine is that important to you.

Similarly taking a baby 20 miles away to a hotel room, if that is a potential solution, should not be considered a problem. It's a baby, babies move around with their parents sometimes, they don't grow roots. I was taken up the Matterhorn at the same age (admittedly on the train!).

As for people not going to weddings if their baby isn't invited; that's really precious. I understand totally if people avoid it for practical reasons of inconvenience, hassle, expense, or simply if people aren't that bothered about weddings and would rather hang out as a family. But on a point of principle it's just silly. There's nothing unreasonable about not wanting screaming and crying at your wedding ceremony, it's not a judgement on the human worth of your child.

sulphate

schwam66 wrote: »

dont understand what the issue is here.....so it actually says no to children on the invite?? surely they know you will have a child if they are close friends??? ring them up and ask, obviously they no the baby wont be eatting a the meal there so think it is fine....

so say the child goes....what is the issue now? going to be blunt why the hell cant your mrs wip her breast out and feed the child?? they do plenty of these blanket type cover things these days and if its still and issue pop to the car?? then take the push chair in with you and baby sleeps in that till the end of the evening or whenever you deem you want to leave...crazy to think you need to get a hotel to breast feed you child....

all the best hope it works out

Some people don't invite children at all to their weddings. This is not unheard of. However, if people don't want children there (or do) they need to make it obvious so parents know what arrangements to make. I assume the OP has already clarified that baby can definitely not attend, if not he needs to do this first.

The OP's issue is leaving the child.

As baby has hardly been left as he is breast fed it's not unreasonable for the couple to be worried about leaving him for the first time, particularly if it's going to be for, say, 1pm-8pm.

OP, do you know the exact timings for the day? Perhaps baby can go to bed a little later than normal time?

I would aim to leave straight after the meal. However, bear in mind that as you mentioned, timings can run over so you could well be there until around 8pm.

If you're going to be worried the whole time about baby being left, and constantly clock-watching, perhaps reconsider going.

notanewuser

Nicki wrote: »

At 10 months the baby will be fine to miss one or more of his or her normal breast feeds even if they won't take a bottle. They will just make up for it at the next feed. They will be on solids at that point so can have a yoghurt or milky meal instead and water if thirsty.

If they're BLWing then (breast) milk will provide the bulk of their nutrition up to age 1. (Which is why the "3 feeds a day" surprised me.)

schwam66

notanewuser wrote: »

If the baby isn't invited I suspect its because they don't come with a "mute" button, rather than a feeding issue!!!

the poster makes no mention if it being a crying upset child or any issue with it like that, looks specifically to me anyway its a concern about the feeding situation....where does he mention 'my child crys to be held and wont go down and is screaming all night' ???