Invited to wedding but without baby - help!

lika_86

**Patty** wrote: »

Friends of ours got married last year. My younger 2 are 16 & 12. We were told no children (and that included them).

I was a bit confused when the bride then mentioned her children (10, 7 & 2) would be there.....as would her bridesmaids children (4 & 7).

Children of the bridal party aren't really in the same category as other children though.

Spendless

balletshoes wrote: »

I,d think the opposite ~ unless the children were mentioned on the invitation, i,d assume they were not invited.

I've always assummed the same and that is the reason why twice this year we've left the kids at home and gone to an event without them as their names were not on the invite only for the host to ask where our kids were??? One was a wedding of someone I work with, the other a family friends special birthday party.

OP- Is it worth fetching the subject up that you aren't entirely sure how much of the ceremony/meal you will do due to the baby and see what they say. I also liked the idea of getting your relatives who are babysitting to go to the hotel.

**Patty**

lika_86 wrote: »

Children of the bridal party aren't really in the same category as other children though.

I wouldn't class a 16 yr old as a child though.

And at 12, I hardly think my youngest would have been either making a noise or legging it round the church.

CH27

**Patty** wrote: »

I wouldn't class a 16 yr old as a child though.

And at 12, I hardly think my youngest would have been either making a noise or legging it round the church.

May if she had invited yours then she would have had to invite loads of others.
Bridal party children are different.

I get irritated with parents who expect their children to be invited to everything & not thinking they aren't welcome occasionally.

notanewuser

retepetsir wrote: »

I thought about the rice pudding idea and he's had it a few times. We don't mind if he wakes for a feed during the night as he occasionally does so at the moment!

Only occasionally? My memory is hazy, and I know they're all different but I'm sure at under a year there should still be night feeds. Dropping night feeds is the fastest way for supply to drop too.

seven-day-weekend

**Patty** wrote: »

I wouldn't class a 16 yr old as a child though.

And at 12, I hardly think my youngest would have been either making a noise or legging it round the church.

But maybe they would like to invite two more friends rather than your children?

duchy

They are immediate family and your children are the children of the bride and grooms friends. Do you really not see the difference ?

**Patty**

duchy wrote: »

They are immediate family and your children are the children of the bride and grooms friends. Do you really not see the difference ?

Yes, i do.

*I don't want any children at my wedding*.......to me, means exactly that. Not......*I don't want any children at my wedding except maybe yours & yours & you can bring one but not the other*.....which is exactly what was said.


Just goes to illustrate how context & the written/typed word can be misleading

Carmina-Piranha_2

Children of the bridal party are different though, although my SIL wanted no children at all which is fine too. Children were invited to her evening bit though, but they definitely were not welcome at the ceremony.

She told me that they wanted to exclude the children of one of her OH's siblings, and the only way to do that without causing offence was to exclude all children. Perhaps they told her OH's siblings that it was my kids who were so unruly that they had to exclude kids, who knows

Like notanewuser I bet most of us have seen a ceremony ruined because people don't take their crying babies out.

notanewuser

Carmina-Piranha wrote: »

Children of the bridal party are different though, although my SIL wanted no children at all which is fine too. Children were invited to her evening bit though, but they definitely were not welcome at the ceremony.

She told me that they wanted to exclude the children of one of her OH's siblings, and the only way to do that without causing offence was to exclude all children. Perhaps they told her OH's siblings that it was my kids who were so unruly that they had to exclude kids, who knows

Like notanewuser I bet most of us have seen a ceremony ruined because people don't take their crying babies out.

Ironically that's the one bit they can't be excluded from! :rotfl: