Is he being immature?

DUTR

Judi wrote: »

What an absolutely horrible attitude to have.

Not really, it depends if you are the one using or being used?
The users would see it as horrible as they are not able to take, the ones being used won't be thought any less of and at least they were not used, again it's a win win.

Lily-Rose_3

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

I won't hijack the thread. Different situation but I'm being ignored too. I sent a text to my boyfriend with regards to removing stuff out of my home as he wasn't respecting my home or what I said. He doesn't live with me but stays at weekends. It took him two days to reply to my text . He said he was busy. No ones that busy that they can't reply to a text. He's now again not text me and to be honest I don't care. I'm not analyzing it... If someone doesn't respect you by ignoring you after a few months into a relationship then that shows you what you've got to put up with. You said you were sorry you didn't thank him. Let him be and carry on with your life as normal. There's nothing you can do now....

Sorry to hear this . Not nice treatment towards you at ALL...

System

Whilst shame on you for not telling him how much you enjoyed your date, at least you tried to put it right.


Does he want blood out of you or something?

Anoneemoose

I agree with the majority. OP 'made a mistake' - as we all do from time to time and she apologised for doing so. She probably felt bad enough for forgetting in the first place without him punishing her even more.

And although they have only gone one full day without contact, if this is something different from the norm in their relationship, then it seems he is sulking and being immature.

When I first started seeing Mr Anon, we would text regularly throughout the day - we also spent hours on the phone into the early hours. This went on for quite a while until the newness wore off and then things settled down naturally. If Mr Anon had completely stopped contact, even for a day, I would have thought it strange unless there was prior 'warning' of something coming up. And it would only have been strange because we had both been texting the same amount etc, not because I was some paranoid loon who couldn't go a day without a text!!

HeavyMetalFan

The OP is clearly at fault. It's part of the British character to say thank you. I say it to my mother if I call in at home and she makes me a cup of tea. I say it to my best mate when he gets me a beer, even though it's his round. It's just normal behaviour.

I would have been mighty peeved if I had done what he'd done for someone without a word of thanks. He could have either given you the silent treatment or had a go at you. Which is preferable?

DUTR

HeavyMetalFan wrote: »

The OP is clearly at fault. It's part of the British character to say thank you. I say it to my mother if I call in at hem and she makes me a cup of tea. I say it to my best mate when he gets me a beer, even though it's his round. It's just normal behaviour.

I would have been mighty peeved if I had done what he'd done for someone without a word of thanks. He could have either given you the silent treatment or had a go at you. Which is preferable?

I agree except for the last part in bold, I'm sure if the tables were turned and it was say kingslayer complaining, then the responses would be well different, I think the OP's friend should just be less thoughtful in future if the gestures are not appreciated, in reality the couple won't last the test of time.

Lily-Rose_3

HeavyMetalFan wrote: »

The OP is clearly at fault. It's part of the British character to say thank you. I say it to my mother if I call in at hem and she makes me a cup of tea. I say it to my best mate when he gets me a beer, even though it's his round. It's just normal behaviour.

I would have been mighty peeved if I had done what he'd done for someone without a word of thanks. He could have either given you the silent treatment or had a go at you. Which is preferable?

Load of utter crap.

The OP's B/F needs to get over himself and grow up. Pathetic, sulky, controlling, passive-aggresive bully.

DUTR wrote: »

I'm sure if the tables were turned and it was say kingslayer complaining, then the responses would be well different,

!!!!!! has kingslayer got to do with this? :huh:

This thread and the OP's issue is nothing to do with any other poster on this board!

HeavyMetalFan

I'm not saying he should have had a go, but if you're disappointed about someone's behaviour you can either tell them or ignore them. Very few people can just let it go.

DUTR

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Load of utter crap.

The OP's B/F needs to get over himself and grow up. Pathetic, sulky, controlling, passive-aggresive bully.




!!!!!! has kingslayer got to do with this? :huh:

This thread and the OP's issue is nothing to do with any other poster on this board!

I did put 'if say' , if the OP was saying she had arranged the day and the friend had 'forgotten' to say thanks or show any appreciation, the song sung would be very different.
If it were me in the position of the BF, I wouldn't sulk, I would be dissapointed , but I know I wouldn't be putting in the same level or thought in future.

duchy

Maybe you've just made him rethink whether you two are matched as a couple.

Its clear from this thread that some people don't think saying thank you for a treat matters and other people think it does. Maybe he's just thinking you aren't who he thought you were ?

I don't think maturity comes into it though -just courtesy. Some people think you don't need to bother with thank yous to friends and family -others think you do.

If you see things so very differently maybe you aren't right together ? I don't think he's sulking -just having a rethink.

I wouldn't be too happy if I arranged a treat for my OH and he didn't even have the grace to thank me. To me it would show he took me for granted and was an unappreciative prat. If he treats me it would never occur to me not to say thank you and let him know I appreciated his thoughtfulness......but then I also thank him if he makes me a cup of tea. I think the OP may be either lacking in social sense or taking him for granted - not many blokes want either trait in a girlfriend.