Is he being immature?

Dashikii

I personally think there's not much of a story here. You've both spoken about it and its now time to get over it. These things happen and as long as the air is finally clear then there is no need to harbour it. Let it go and try and enjoy your relationship the best you can. I understand his reasons as well as yours and hopefully now you can both move on. Don't let it linger.

artbaron

susieq87 wrote: »

i am going to try and summarise this as much as possible without draining you all!...

You go ahead and 12 months down the line you'll be posting asking how to get out of a controlling relationship.

susieq87

Dashikii wrote: »

I personally think there's not much of a story here. You've both spoken about it and its now time to get over it. These things happen and as long as the air is finally clear then there is no need to harbour it. Let it go and try and enjoy your relationship the best you can. I understand his reasons as well as yours and hopefully now you can both move on. Don't let it linger.

honestly, thats where my mind is set right now. we are ok now, water under the bridge.

LandyAndy

susieq87 wrote: »

honestly, thats where my mind is set right now. we are ok now, water under the bridge.

Good.


And good luck.


And remember, never, ever say anything important by text

onomatopoeia99

susieq87 wrote: »

honestly, thats where my mind is set right now. we are ok now, water under the bridge.

Good. I read the whole thread - actually talking, preferably in person, is so much better than using an electronic device. I'm another very quiet and shy person and find it really difficult, but experience has taught me that the effort is worth it.

susieq87

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Good. I read the whole thread - actually talking, preferably in person, is so much better than using an electronic device. I'm another very quiet and shy person and find it really difficult, but experience has taught me that the effort is worth it.

i am the same and i just had to bite the bullet because i tend to sweep thing sunder the rug because of fear of confrontation. i am getting better at it though

[Deleted User]

susieq87 wrote: »

i agree. i feel like the whole situation could have been handled differently if the conversation was had in person or on the phone instead of via text

Just remember that for the future - next time he texts, and you would have wanted him to ring, or see you in person; You can change it. You can pickup the phone, or go round and see him.

It's about adult communication skills

missbiggles1

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

You see, I'd have just have said, when questioned by the family , something like 'Oh I'm sure she did' and then talked to the OP privately about it. It should not have turned into a family drama. It's their business how they conduct their realationship, not his family's.

If he lets his family influence him in tiny things like this, it does not say a lot for their future relationship.

Or, you could argue that someone who's close to his own family is likely to want to build a close family unit of his own when the time comes.

missbiggles1

Tropez wrote: »

Somewhat amusing that you would complain at others for posting in a manner that you found to be rude and then make that last comment.

It's just an expression and hardly a rude one! (If I'd shouted it at the OP, as another poster was doing , of course it would be rude.)

missbiggles1

Cottage_Economy wrote: »

Not all of us walk around with a delighted enraptured expression on our faces or clap like trained seals when we enjoy something.

If the OP is a quiet person, perhaps even a shy person, then she may not go into violent throes of visible delight. It doesn't mean she hasn't had a good time or that she had a face like a slapped !!!!.

To the best of my knowledge, shy people's faces are just as capable of smiling as extroverts' are.:D