Ladies - leaving men 'jobs' to do

AlexLK

:rotfl: I'd actually be pleased if my wife was organised enough to be leaving me lists of things to do.

Alias_Omega

Day-Day stuff just gets done. We know each others standards etc.


The big jobs, a list gets created and we pick from it.. I am good at garden clearance (ie. jumping up and down in the wheelie bin to create space ), whilst Mrs AO is good at sorting the kids clothes that don't fit.

Emmylou_2

We have ongoing "honey do" lists for each other. It's for things that aren't routine housework but need doing occasionally. If he's at home and there's washing up that needs doing, then he does it. He's a grown up! Sometimes I do leave a note asking him to move the laundry from the washer to the dryer but that's more because if he doesn't know I've put a load on, then he wouldn't think to check the washing machine. He does the same to me.

DH's list tends to have things on it that I either can't do (because of lack of skill or disability) or that he enjoys doing - things like sharpening the knives and sewing on buttons/putting hems back up (he's better at sewing than I am), whereas mine tends to be more "task" oriented - sort out the insurances, or check we're on the best deal for utilities etc.

garfield33

My OH claims to have snow blindness e.g. I'd emptied the bathroom bin and left it in the middle of the stairs, to be taken back up by the next passing person. He stepped over it all day, and when I asked him about it, claimed not to have noticed. He's just got into the habit of working around all the stuff rather than stopping and thinking about whether it could/should go somewhere else.

I've only ever thrown one strop though, it was just after I moved in (it was his house), I'd been away for the weekend, got back to find him still in bed (at about noon), cats hungry, litter tray overflowing, piles of washing and washing up to be done etc... I think I burst into tears and when he asked what was wrong I said I was missing my old house and this just didn't feel like home. I have never seem him tidy and clean so efficiently!
However well that worked, I would never do that to manipulate him into doing things. I haven't reached the list stage yet, but I do find myself having to always ask for things to be done. He's normally fine with it, but I feel like I'm only inches away from becoming a nag, it's a fine line!

BJV

I would not leave a list but if my OH was off I might say any chance of cutting the grass??? More jokey? Think we both just know what needs to be done and between us most of the time we manage it.

lostinrates

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

My husband is actually quite absent-minded, but he doesn't need telling to put frozen food in the freezer. That IS demeaning!
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Harumph.

The two other adults I live with sometimes feed the dogs. The routine is the same every day. Food gets TAKEN OUT of the freezer every evening. Weekdays its usually my job, but at weekends its usually DH's. I still hVe to double check that food has been defrosted. Every day. If I don't check we end up with no defrosted food in the morning more often than not. The other person here, one of my parents, very occasionally will feed the dogs. Likewise knows it has to be defrosted but just never does it, so on very rare occasions I am out in the evening the first thing i do when come back in is head to the freezer.

LannieDuck

No, I wouldn't write a list for my OH. I'm not his secretary, and he's quite capable of jotting down the jobs that need doing as they come up.

The idea that I'm some how responsible for remembering all the things that need doing in the house, even though we're both adults, is quite offensive to me. It would be like treating my OH as a child - having to be told to do their chores, and not taking equal responsibility for running the household.

Admittedly it may be because of the title of the thread, but (of those replies where one partner leaves lists for the other) it does overwhelmingly seem to be the women leaving lists for the men.

Roxie

ska_lover wrote: »

There must have been a good 12 hours work for him, on his day off

I personally don't, but does anyone else do this?

Just 12 hours? There are 24 hours in a day..... that list is only half done!

tallyho88

I'd never leave a 12hour list, how mean!