Ladies - leaving men 'jobs' to do

ska_lover

Morning all,

We went to visit friends recently, and noticed that the lady of the house, writes ''to do'' lists for her husband for while she is out of the house, or on opposite shifts to him. There must have been a good 12 hours work for him, on his day off

I personally don't, but does anyone else do this?

liney

12 hours worth of jobs? Was it to re-tile the bathroom?!

I will leave requests like - hang out washing when the machine has finished, or hoover the stairs. Mainly because, unless told, men don't seem to 'see' things that need doing.

Of course if my DH could be left to do these things off his own back - or have the common sense to bring in washing if it rains (!) - then I would not have to ask.

mummybearx

I could leave lists for my husband, but it wouldn't get done :rotfl:

Does this woman's husband do the things on the list? Has he maybe asked her to do this for him, to remind him of what needs done?

ska_lover

I think he tries to do them, but the amount expected in one day was tremendous I thought - partically decorating a bedroom, rubbish clearance, gardening & a few other bits n bobs. Made me feel knackered just looking at it

Georgiegirl256

ska_lover wrote: »

I personally don't, but does anyone else do this?

No. Because he has a mind of his own, sees what needs doing and doesn't need dictating to.

RuthnJasper

I wouldn't do it, as it seems a bit demeaning. But men (not ALL, boys, I'm not having a go! ) aren't always very domestically minded, so maybe they've agreed on this as a way to deflect potential arguments.

It might have been a list of things which need doing generally around the house, rather than a kind of "if all these aren't done by the time I get home, then no 'jiggy-jiggy' for YOU tonight, sunshine..." list.

My mum usually writes lists, for herself and my dad, just so that nothing gets forgotten (although not even the mighty lists can save her from having to retrieve my dad's "lost" glasses several times a day).

Having said that, if there are items on the list such as "Remember - pants first, THEN trousers", you probably should worry a bit...

CH27

I tend to write a list of stuff that needs doing each week. Between me, OH & son it pretty much gets done.

ska_lover

RuthnJasper wrote: »

I wouldn't do it, as it seems a bit demeaning.

See, I thought that and was suprised to see it (the list) to be honest. Obviously I didn't say anything at all, as if that is how they are happy then great stuff and im not really one for telling folk how to live their lives, but just wondered if this was a common thing, seems not (so far)

emsywoo123

ska_lover wrote: »

I think he tries to do them, but the amount expected in one day was tremendous I thought - partically decorating a bedroom, rubbish clearance, gardening & a few other bits n bobs. Made me feel knackered just looking at it

Was it definitely all expected to be achieved in one day?!

2gorgeousgirls

It may come across as demeaning to some but I do write a list for my husband and it works for us. I definitely would not do it if he was unhappy about it.

If my husband has a day off he always asks me what I want him to do "for me" cos apparently I'm the only person who dirties the house!

Once I did get a bit fed up of writing a list as I felt I shouldn't have to tell him what to do, he should be able to look around the house and see what needs done. I told him that the next day he was off just to do whatever he could see needed doing.

Came in from work the next day and he proudly told me he had done the hoovering "for me".

I then asked him what time he came in from work the previous evening (about 9pm), then I asked what was I doing when he came in the front door. The answer was "dunno" - my reply "I was hoovering". Since all that had happened in between was the family going to bed, getting up and leaving the house, the hoovering really did not need done again.

Needless to say, we are back to a list.:rotfl:

The list would have several things on it but, as my husband has several health conditions, it is always made with the proviso that he does what he can manage and I will finish rest when I get home. I certainly wouldn't be leaving a list that would take several hours to do. It may be something like, hoovering, wash kitchen floor, dust downstairs - just general day to day housework

yorkie18

I sort of do this, but more as a reminder than a "do this or else" kind of thing. I might just make a note of things which we have discussed and I have asked him to do, like buy a birthday card or post a letter. Definitely not a whole list of chores though. As others have said, he can see what needs to be done in the house just the same as I can.